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Anti-bullying Measures Mark Anniversary Of New Jersey Student Tyler Clementi's Suicide

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SAMANTHA HENRY   09/22/11 05:47 PM ET   AP

NEWARK, N.J. — Does one second-grader saying another has "cooties" rise to the level of bullying? That is just one question emerging from new legislation prompted by the suicide of a Rutgers University student one year ago Thursday.

New Jersey's anti-bullying laws were tightened following the suicide of 18-year-old Tyler Clementi, who jumped off the George Washington Bridge on Sept. 22, 2010. Prosecutors have said his roommate used a webcam to spy on Clementi's same-sex liaison. He has been charged with bias intimidation and invasion of privacy.

Soon after Clementi's suicide, the New Jersey's Anti-Bullying Bill of Rights Act was passed and signed by Gov. Chris Christie in January. Advocates say it's one of the toughest of its kind in the nation.

Earlier this week, state Attorney General Paula Dow distributed a set of instructions to school and law enforcement officials on how to comply with the law.

The guidelines require schools to complete their investigations into harassment, intimidation or bullying within 10 school days, improve their reporting standards and compel schools and law enforcement to review their investigations with each other. Previously, schools often deferred their own inquiries into bullying until police finished an investigation.

Supporters say the guidelines are an important step in combatting bullying; others wonder if they go too far.

West Orange Schools Superintendent Anthony Cavanna said he supports the guidelines and emphasizes bullying prevention programs in his district, but the new rules have caused some confusion over what qualifies as bullying.

His staff grappled this week with whether a second-grader accusing another of having "cooties" needed to be reported under the new standards. In the past, Cavanna said, a child would be sent to the principal's office to discuss what kinds of behavior are hurtful or unacceptable.

The new guidelines, however, left school officials feeling obligated to fully understand the child's intent – was he just having a bad day and taking it out on the person nearest to him? Or was the recipient of the remark targeted for a reason, with the child intending him serious harm?

"Like most regulations that come down, the intentions are good, but what's the cost of the good intentions?" Cavanna said. "We now have a lot more people involved in making decisions than we used to, and if they're all spending time trying to figure out what's harassment and intimidation, they're not doing other things."

Also this week, Cavanna said, one student told a classmate he had "a big, fat head," and that also took a lot more work to determine it didn't meet the new reporting criteria.

A spokesman for the attorney general said the department hadn't received any formal complaints under the new guidelines from any school districts as of Thursday.

Supporters of the measure say bullying has become so pervasive that strict laws can save lives.

"To those critics who say it (the new guidelines) goes too far, we say: `Tough,'" said Steven Goldstein of Garden State Equality, who helped draft the state's anti-bullying legislation. "That's indeed what it's there for. The schools have no choice but to comply, and there shouldn't be a choice because lives are at stake."

Before, when schools were left up to their own self-monitoring and anti-bullying enforcement, most schools did nothing, Goldstein said.

Bullying has gotten nationwide attention recently, due in large part to Clementi's suicide, which touched off a conversation on the issue and prompted President Barack Obama, senators and celebrities to speak out.

In upstate New York, a state that doesn't have anti-bullying legislation, police are investigating the recent suicide of a 14-year-old Williamsville boy who had complained in an online video about being bullied over his sexuality.

In Massachusetts, five classmates accepted plea deals this year after being charged following the January 2010 suicide of bullied teen Phoebe Prince.

And in Clementi's case, his former roommate, Dharun Ravi, has pleaded not guilty to a 15-count indictment including a charge of the hate crime of bias intimidation, using a webcam to invade privacy and trying to cover up it up afterward.

Ravi's lawyer wrote in a brief filed in August that his client wasn't spying on Clementi. Lawyer Steven Altman said Ravi initially turned on his webcam from a friend's computer to see what was going on in the dorm room because he was concerned about whether the man Clementi had over might steal Ravi's iPad. He stopped watching "two seconds" after seeing the men kissing, Altman said.

Ravi is also accused of setting up his webcam to try to capture Clementi in a second liaison two days after prosecutors say he first viewed him on Sept. 19, 2010.

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06:58 PM on 09/26/2011
I have developed a bully prevention show for elementary schools. You can learn more about it here...

http://youtu.be/2qAvD01RD9E
http://www.StopBullyingShow.com
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bessielil
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11:05 AM on 09/24/2011
All zero tolerance plans are doomed to absurdity and except. An insult is not bullying. Investigation into a reported pattern behavior is crucial, a clear definition of bullying and harassment in the code of conduct is key, and common sense can go a long way.

The Ravi defense in the Clementi is ludicrous. iPads are portable and stowable. The Phoebe Prince case went on for months, was visible, and most of the staff did not muster the will to deal with the situation appropriately, even after the girl's mother tried pushing the school for help.

However, no one should ever be allowed to say, "Just kidding," as a defense under any circumstances. Words matter. Cooties, not so much. The names Prince were called repeatedly, the shoving, the soda can throwing..........terrible and the escalation predictable.

It's very disturbing to me that bullying is not dealt with on Glee by any of the adults. Middle schoolers learn there's no where to go for help except to Mr. Shuster who nods and says, "I know how you feel."
02:27 AM on 09/24/2011
Why does this have to be so complicated. A Gr. 2 student probably does not know whether telling someone they have "cooties" is abusive or not----simply explain that this type of language is not acceptable. In the instance of older students (MS, HS) bullying or physical violence---they school Admin should crack down on that immediately. Why do you need a 10 day investigation?
The student should have the parents called in (if they have parents!!!) and there should be a suspension. Stop all of the game playing and just let it be known that such behaviour is not tolerated and have strong consequences. And if kids think this is funny sentence them to a hard-work program (like cleaning up the streets) and start providing some meaningful consequences for actions instead of coddling this inside some laong drawn out bureaucratic paper process.

I taught in a school where a student punched another student for no reason (bullying) and that child was removed from the school and sent away. It was a real annoyance for the parents--but the entire school community got that message loud and clear--and there is no fighting or abuse in that school.
02:15 AM on 09/24/2011
Bullying and Teasing, Kevin Jennings and Teen Suicide

I don’t remember being bullied in school and no one I know was ever “bullied” or was a “bullyer,” in the contemporary senses of those terms. Of course, in the interests of full disclosure, having attended parochial school, bullying wasn’t allowed since nuns generally attended to that duty.

I do recall, occasionally, teasing when I was the teaser without intending the teasing to in any way connote threats or intimidation and some dumb older kids sometimes asserting their age and size by being overbearing. At least one of those dumbasses ended up in prison, another became a teacher.

Our version of “bullying” typically involved vain pre- and post-adolescent efforts to gain attention from inattentive girls many of whom surreptitiously loved the attention but felt compelled to maintain the requisite façade of disinterest.

Both genders survived but times have changed.

Today, bullying is considered by the PC crowd as little short of character assassination or attempted murder–and young people are buying into that absurd hyperbole.

Okay, back in my day when we were circling the wagons and trying to survive Indian onslaughts, we had more things on our minds than Mary Jane and her persnickety uppitiness but, still, if Mary Jane had missed our subtle romantic overtures of hiding her hair ribbons, she wouldn’t have ended it all by leaping . . .
(Read more at http://www.genelalor.com/blog1/?p=5527.)
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erinbliss
01:19 AM on 09/24/2011
Isn't it sad when we have to legislate good manners? What happened to parents teaching their children to behave and be nice to others?
12:36 AM on 09/24/2011
I don't like this law. It may even create the opposite effect of its goal.
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StainlessSteelRat
11:19 PM on 09/23/2011
Oh for the love of G**, this is getting ridiculous. Bullying and dealing with it is a part of growing up.
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exflatlander
08:53 PM on 09/23/2011
Like so many social mandates aimed at schools, this one presumes that schools operate in a vacuum and can control what happens to a child 24/7, leaving all parents off the hook. I've seen it all before. A parent blaming the schools for on-line harassment of his son during the summer. His son was depressed, he said, and hung around his room all summer on his computer. But it was the school's fault. He even sent to far as to say that if a teacher, on his/her way home from school sees what may be a scuffle in a public park - off school grounds - that teacher had an obligation to break it up. Maybe it IS time to arm teachers if they are supposed to take the place of the local police.
roscoewpa
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06:41 PM on 09/23/2011
when schools were left up to their own self-monitoring and anti-bullying enforcement, most schools did nothing, Goldstein said. And anything that self monitors its self usually fails. While I do agree it does start at home, if Im required to send my child to school they should be responsible for my childs safety. To blame the victims parents with where why they why didnt the know. Guess what as a victim of bulling myself our parents dont know everything. When your bullied it crushes your esteem and self worth and you do put up a barrier and withdrawal. So no parents dont always know its going on. Should a bully get a rap sheet well if they enforce anti bullying and someone gets a rap sheet im sure after a couple get a rap then parents will educate their kids not to do it. While I agree kids will pick or play its when its continual or done by a group of kids that is has a very negative effect on the victim. And to those defending the bully yes you are part of the problem because by turning a blind eye you have no clue of what a person on the recieving end goes through. An as a child they seek nothing more at a young age than to be accepted. And if it were an adult doing it to an adult it would be in court as harassment or slander.
02:15 PM on 09/23/2011
I know alot of people will knock me for this, but this should not be a law. this behavior falls on the parents to teach the kids right from wrong. while privicy invasion is a crime and should be treated as such. picking on a kid on the play ground or myspace is not a crime. i'm not saying the suicide of a 14 year old boy is nothing less than a tragidy, but lets not go over board. where are the parents before this happened. was there neglect to not see the signs. bullying is a part of growing up. i was bullied as a kid. as was almost everyone else out there. as much as i hated it, the kids who did it should not have a rap sheet bc of it.