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How Having A Mean Boss Could Affect Your Marriage

The Huffington Post   Posted: 11/29/2011 4:57 pm

Trouble with your boss could also lead to strain on your marriage, a new study suggests.

Research from Baylor University suggests that people are more likely to report fighting or having feelings of irritation or resentment toward a spouse or partner if they also report having a supervisor who puts them down or gets angry at them.

"It may be that as supervisor abuse heightens tension in the relationship, the employee is less motivated or able to engage in positive interactions with the partner and other family members," study researcher Merideth Ferguson, PH.D., assistant professor of management and entrepreneurship at Baylor, said in a statement.

Researchers also found that the longer a person had been married or with his or her spouse or partner, the less effect the boss's abuse had on the home relationship.

The Personnel Psychology study was based on survey responses from 280 full-time workers and their spouses or partners, with an average age of 36. The average relationship length was 10 years.

Previously, a University of Toronto study of 1,800 working Americans showed that nearly half of them bring work home, and that doing so takes a toll on their personal relationships, the Seattle Times reported. The effect was even more pronounced among people with more job authority, skill and decision-making power.

And aside from personal relationships, a hostile work environment can have an impact on your health, too. A previous study in the journal Health Psychology showed that people who reported having a bad social support system at work were also two-and-a-half times more likely to die over a 20-year period than people who say they had a good social system at work.

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Trouble with your boss could also lead to strain on your marriage, a new study suggests. Research from Baylor University suggests that people are more likely to report fighting or having feelings ...
Trouble with your boss could also lead to strain on your marriage, a new study suggests. Research from Baylor University suggests that people are more likely to report fighting or having feelings ...
 
 
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10:20 PM on 11/30/2011
and you can only assume how this person got this job and keeps this job. there's just a certain amount of respect that adults should have for one another.
08:17 PM on 11/30/2011
I have found since the economy went down tentions rise. However sometimes if you stick up for yourself and back it up with fact- say clout you will win. In my case I've worked for many owners in property management- even the rich no-one wants to be embarrased in front of their piers.
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Badger33
I'm trying real hard to be the shepherd.
07:12 PM on 11/30/2011
You don't have to be married to have a psycho boss affect your relationships. You just need one who believe that the job must take priority over everything else in your life, even basic maintenance issues.
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Otherday
Chief Imperial Sage, Earth, Milky Way Quadrant
06:20 PM on 11/30/2011
Mean bosses may be the #1 reason for America's high divorce rate. If we all got a pair of scissors and snipped off our bosses' nuts, we'd be better off. Problem solved.
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timbeaux
Novelist, anti-professional politicians, liberal l
07:26 PM on 11/30/2011
What surgical procedure do you suggest for abusive and unreasonable female bosses? Boy, talk about sexist assumptions.
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abhorson
in favor of legalized bar fighting
11:06 AM on 11/30/2011
GREAT.... now I gotta call my secretary and apologize for ruining her life ...
10:40 AM on 11/30/2011
This is real. I've experienced it. I would come home so dragged down, so emotionally exhausted, and with such feelings of worthlessness that i just wanted to curl up with a book. I didn't want to interact with my family at all. I just wanted to be left alone. With my husband's support, I quit that job, and am making a lot less money now. Things a tight here financially , but the benefits to my well-being and to the energy in our home are so worth it!
08:19 PM on 11/30/2011
I had something like that recently and became so wore out I didn't even want to cook. It's draining that is why you must stick up for yourself.
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LivelyLexie
Don't panic.
07:47 AM on 11/30/2011
This isn't acceptable - you can't take out your frustration on someone who has nothing to do with why you're upset. It's childish and you have to find a better way to handle your emotions. If I'm upset about work, I don't go home and yell at my husband. Why would I?
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littlepuffycloud
I propose a toast to my self control...
01:13 PM on 11/30/2011
It doesn't mean going home and yelling at your husband. Some people just shut down completely..
Your judgmental comment simply shows you are lucky enough to not have experienced it. Good thing you pointed out that people just need to 'find a better way to handle their emotions'.
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LivelyLexie
Don't panic.
02:17 PM on 11/30/2011
No, I actually have experienced that. I've just learned how to deal with it in ways that don't involve taking it out on people that have nothing to do with it.
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LivelyLexie
Don't panic.
02:18 PM on 11/30/2011
Side note: your avatar is adorable!
07:43 AM on 11/30/2011
Nothing beats being an average, middle class white guy and having a black female boss. In this situation, regardless, you can't get past the hatred!

Rick
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Solar Bear
Freethinking in one age = common sense in the next
09:16 AM on 11/30/2011
Okay, Rick, maybe YOU have a problem with it, but you should refrain from speaking for others. This middle class white guy doesn't care what color or gender his boss is as long as they are fair, knowledgable and keep signing my paychecks!
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abhorson
in favor of legalized bar fighting
11:08 AM on 11/30/2011
don't know why... but I can't stop laughing...... thanks
07:15 AM on 11/30/2011
This is really an easy fix, every time my boss gives me some griefe, I simply give some guy I know a couple hundred bucks and have his *ss kicked, Its reall y funny the next day, to watch him .
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signgrrl
design & production
09:24 AM on 11/30/2011
has he not caught on yet ?
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abhorson
in favor of legalized bar fighting
11:11 AM on 11/30/2011
apparently not yet ...
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abhorson
in favor of legalized bar fighting
11:08 AM on 11/30/2011
I'd stop paying you .... doesn't seem to be working out right
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blpilot43
Live the good life... adopt a Rock Drummer!
06:44 AM on 11/30/2011
Wait a minute... I thought the wife WAS the boss!!!
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wakohnen
Human opinions....a fascinating study....
05:51 AM on 11/30/2011
Having a mean boss could also help your marriage by giving both you and your spouse a "common enemy". Some married folk would have nothing to talk about if it wasn't for the 15 minutes after work complaining about their boss. Oddly enough, this opens communication for other topics.
12:32 AM on 11/30/2011
Funny it's a white blue eyed guy...looks like AOL Huffington is doing a great job of stereotyping!
12:31 AM on 11/30/2011
If a boss can affect your marriage, then maybe it's time to start thinking either about a new job or a new marriage.
12:10 AM on 11/30/2011
Having a mean, nasty and denigrating boss is the pits. I have survived several bosses like this in my life, and it definitely demoralizes the team that has to function in a hostile work environment. One of my lessons gained is that no amount of money is worth it! My advice - start making your escape plan soon and leave when you have another job lined up. Don't wait too long! It can really affect not only your relationship but also your health!
12:31 AM on 11/30/2011
Have a neighbor that deals with this and he is always mad and never looks happy. He tends to yell at his kids for no reason. Also, his wife seems to be a little fearful of him.
10:44 AM on 11/30/2011
Having been there , I absolutely agree with you.
10:52 PM on 11/29/2011
Where is my post. Were you studying psycology too.