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Christmas: What Would Happen If Men Ran It?

The Huffington Post     First Posted: 12/16/2011 11:17 am EST   Updated: 12/16/2011 3:50 pm EST

Who orchestrates holiday celebrations in your house? According to statistics, there's a good chance she's female (in other words, you) -- and that she has way too much to do.

Women still do most of the housework in most households, according to data from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics that Ruth Davis Konigsberg quoted in her TIME cover story "Chore Wars" earlier this year. And of the 1,010 adult women polled an October 2011 survey by Georgia-Pacific, a paper goods manufacturer, 65 percent reported that they didn't receive any help with household chores. During the holiday, those duties can only multiply.

Georgia Pacific found that hosting a holiday party added an average of four hours to time spent cleaning the house, and women also do the bulk of the holiday shopping. A survey conducted between September 23 and October 10, 2010 of 578 people ages 18-34 by MTV Networks Digital found that women did 56 percent of household gift shopping compared to only 36 percent of men, and that only one-third of men reported buying gifts for their significant others compared with 50 percent of women. The only place men outpaced women when it came to holiday shopping was buying holiday gifts for themselves: 47 percent of men reported doing this, compared with 35 percent of women.

No wonder the holidays can feel so stressful for some women. But would they be any less hectic if men were in charge? According to a new survey, some men think so.

Red Tractor, an independent food quality firm in the UK, recently asked 2,000 men how the holidays would be different for their families if they, rather than the women in the household, were in charge, the New Zealand Herald reports. A third of those surveyed said they think women stress too much over Christmas, and according to the Daily Mail, a majority of them said they could run the holiday better than women, maintaining that the whole affair would be cheaper, less rushed and less stressful if they were in charge.

Here are some of the specific ways men thought the holidays would improve if they were in charge.

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One question their responses raise is why the holidays are so stressful for some women. It's possible that some women don't let men help, or that they place undue stress on themselves in pursuit of the "perfect" holiday experience, which leads to a more stressful time for everyone in the family.

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08:05 AM on 12/25/2011
My husband took over Christmas about 3 years ago. We now have a smaller tree. He has the kids to decorate it.

I am sure he would use gift sacks instead of wrapping, except he gives gift cards.

He was going to cook a ham, but then one daughter said she would cook chicken and dumplings and another said she would make a delicious salad. They left it up to my husband to furnish the desert. I suggested we needed hot bread and potatoes too. He went to the store and bought two prepared pies, instant mashed potatoes and some brown and serve rolls. (Some of the instant potatoes are delicious and as good as the fresh potatoes and they are so fast to make). I may have him to heat up some green beans.

We have already had one Christmas with the rest of our family. We had lasagna for that one.

I used to spend most of the morning cooking. We could learn from our men.

Merry Christmas everyone.
10:36 AM on 12/25/2011
The menu has been changed from chicken and dumplings to chili and salad. I guess chili will be OK, although I have never tried it on potatoes or green beans or with hot rolls :-) We will enjoy what ever shows up. :-)

This may not be a good meal....

Merry Christmas again!
11:51 AM on 12/26/2011
It went from bad to worse. There was no ground beef and the stores were closed. My younger daughter had some left over ham. Some of us are vegetarians. I finally thought of my spaghetti and sauce in the cabinet.

It turned into a delicious meal. Hot rolls, spaghetti, salad and ham with pies for desert.

Good things happen when we pool our resources. Kind of a socialist thingy according to some capitalists. I call it common sense.
12:27 AM on 12/22/2011
Can never get away with writing a negative article about women like this..but for men..its okay, its almost consider humor.
08:24 AM on 12/25/2011
Whoa!
03:43 PM on 12/25/2011
yup, these articles are shocking to me too..but since its negativity towards men its not sexism..but if an article was written like this about women, some would demand huffpo is shut down forever.
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06:32 PM on 12/21/2011
It wouldn't happen.
01:57 PM on 12/21/2011
We wouldn't overdecorate the house. There is no reason to have a Christmas tree soap dispenser in the bathroom.
01:34 PM on 12/21/2011
Here's what will happen if you don't get people the right present: http://www.rabblerousetheworld.com/2011/12/20/your-guide-to-holiday-gift-buying/
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03:49 PM on 12/20/2011
I guess this just goes to show that if men ran Christmas, women would be very unhappy with the results.
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DSevere
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04:25 PM on 12/20/2011
Please. SOME women. What you describe as the "guy Christmas" would actually be an effort on my part. This year, we bought the obligatory presents online and are spending the holidays resting up for January, which is always a super busy time for our business.
09:45 AM on 12/20/2011
For one thing, the sale of gift cards would go through the roof.
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12:50 AM on 12/20/2011
Would you like stuffing with your SPAM .
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07:49 PM on 12/19/2011
Is not Xmas a man made holiday? I wonder WWJD?
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07:22 PM on 12/19/2011
I dunno - - I thought men already DID run Christmas with women as the slave labor. It is a commercial holiday (run mostly by male run corps placing brain washing ads on every commercial) that women try to make good for family and friends. For the little ones, Santa is a hero (and of course a man) and for Christians it is a time celebrated in Dec. for a great man's June birth, with primarily men leading their worship services. In spite of all that, I like getting together with my family, and listening to good Carols and looking at all the lights. BUT - - it is still already run by men.
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11:10 AM on 12/20/2011
Good point. The marketing brainiacs at YOU'RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH INC. think they have it all wrapped up for us. On the other hand, Martha Stewart was instrumental in brainwashing women into creating that 'perfect' holiday occasion. How many men would dare to try making cookies with a 2 year old, while pretending to stay calm and enjoying it.
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giftsthatpurr
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02:13 PM on 12/20/2011
LOL - - sounding more and more like a combined effort of the ones who are exploiting us to make money so they don't HAVE to pretend to enjoy all that hard work!!
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bagman29
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03:51 PM on 12/19/2011
It would be a lot less stressful since men arent so pre-occupied with being judged by other men.

We dont care if you dont like our store bought cookies.
03:37 PM on 12/20/2011
As someone who does not even celebrate Christmas but spent the entire weekend baking approximately 800 cookies to give to co-workers, family and friends, its not about being judged, its about sharing something homemade - the love, care and thoughtfulness that went into the baking. Maybe men dont get the whole homemade aspect of gifts in general, pretty lame.
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02:32 PM on 12/19/2011
Cranberry sauce shaped like a can sliced.
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06:07 PM on 12/19/2011
Yum. Just the way my mom makes it.
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OMEGA MAN
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01:44 PM on 12/19/2011
Gift Cards ! LOL You don't have to wrap it.
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07:47 PM on 12/19/2011
I was just about say something similar. But I consider gift cards a scam. We have a national currency for a reason. Only drug addicts should receive gift cards.

Hand crafted (personal) items or money. That is it.
11:04 AM on 12/19/2011
The wife is usually the more domestic half of a marriage, so these figures make sense to me. If a cultural shift were to occur that suddenly put the burden of holiday celebrations on men's shoulders, I don't think the results would be much different from what women have given us. Why should they be? Why does the media constantly push on us this image of men as these ultra-laid back yet keenly efficient and highly effective arbiters of action, while women are quivering balls of neurosis who can never seem to get anything quite right for all their flailing about and their self-imposed emotional turmoil?

If all men orchestrated Christmas dinners, and if the quality of their Christmas dinners was seen by some people as indicative of their ability to fulfill a cultural/gender role, you can bet that men would be every bit as obsessive and tightly wound come December as women are, if not more so. But, as it stands, men and women generally compete over different things, usually whatever they consciously or subconsciously believe will boost their sexual desirability in the long run, so it's really very silly and fruitless to make these comparisons. We might as well be weighing a Rabbis ability to perform a Catholic mass relative to a priest.
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07:13 PM on 12/19/2011
Loved your post!
03:39 PM on 12/20/2011
Why do people assume women only want to serve a nice dinner, give nice gifts etc because she is being judged?

The simple fact could be that women care more about giving and sharing and maybe men simply dont.
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10:26 AM on 12/19/2011
My husband is ALL ABOUT Christmas traditions. He'd be really disappointed if we didn't carry on with the little details that his close-knit family has had his whole life. He doesn't do any of the cooking, but he's good with wrapping gifts and decorating the tree. I can tell that he cares very much.

Hearing my husband whistle Mele Kalikimaka for the whole month of December makes me motivated to make our holiday special every year.