About the authors: Matt is a junior at Evanston Township High School and Britni is a senior at Glenbrook North High School. Both are student reporters for The Mash, a weekly teen publication distributed to Chicagoland high schools.
Most teens rarely find themselves wrapped up in foreign affairs, but for military families, it affects many aspects of their lives and the lives of their loved ones as well.
According to the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, 43 percent of active duty service members have children. More than 1.7 million American service members have been deployed in Operation Enduring Freedom in Afghanistan and Operation Iraqi Freedom in Iraq.
Along with the stress caused by having a family member placed in a very dangerous setting, there are many unexpected hardships which teens in military families must deal with, such as new family responsibilities, as the family deals with the absence of a parent or relative, says Linda Kupferschmind, project coordinator at Operation: Military Kids Illinois, an outreach effort sponsored by the U.S. Army Child Youth and School services.
“Many times [children of active duty service members] get overlooked and we think of the young men [who are serving]. we don’t typically think of the children they are leaving behind,” she says.
Paige Markley, a freshman who recently moved from Wheaton to Maryland, has moved about half a dozen times in her lifetime—her father has been in the military for 21 years, since well before she was born.
“When we move for the military, it’s kind of random,” Markley says. “It’s wherever they need the person of that rank. It’s wherever they need my dad’s rank.”
Markley said she doesn’t think it’s too tough to actually make the move anymore because she’s used to it by now, but leaving friends is always difficult when you have to move every few years. Typically, she says, if she makes close friends, those are the only people she talks to about her father’s deployment.
Her father, an active duty reservist, has been deployed twice before in her lifetime; first in Kuwait, then Iraq.
“Communication wasn’t great [when he was away before]. My dad didn’t even have a cell phone at that time and email ... was really slow,” Markley says. She notes that with his latest deployment, this time to Afghanistan, communication will be much more advanced than before.
“We’re setting up Skype accounts for all of us right now, and I know other families that have deployed [have said] that communication is way better. ... I’m excited to see how that goes down and hopefully we’ll be able to call him every day.”
Although Markley doesn’t like for her father to be away, she knows he’s there to help other people and “get other countries on their feet.”
But for children of servicemen and women, it’s still difficult emotionally to worry about their safety while deployed, even when they’re not performing duties that put them directly in harm’s way, and to adjust to having one less parent around to help out at home and to experience family life together in general.
Jennifer Hernandez, a junior at Kelly, has a brother in-law who has been serving in the Army for the past four years. He married Jennifer’s sister two weeks prior to his deployment to Iraq. Her sister was also pregnant while he was deployed, and he missed seeing his daughter being born, although he came home a few days later.
“He was more distant [after coming home]. He couldn’t explain what he went through,” says Hernandez. “I know he lost a couple friends there.”
According to Dr. Mark Pollack, the Chairman of Psychiatry at Rush University Medical Center, soldiers returning from combat areas also run the risk of suffering from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), an anxiety disorder which can occur after experiencing a traumatic event which involves the threat of injury or death. Some severe symptoms of PTSD include profound anxiety, depression, flashbacks, nightmares and a sense of withdrawing, Pollack says.
And, according to Pollack, anywhere between 10 percent to one third of soldiers returning from combat in Iraq and Afghanistan suffer symptoms from traumatic brain injuries. These symptoms can range anywhere from “mild headaches, to profound difficulties with memory and concentration.”
Kupferschmind believes that perhaps the greatest challenge to a military family is when that family member returns home from service.
“From the civilian standpoint we look at it as if [it’s] happily ever after ... [but] when that military service person comes back, you’re whole world gets shaken up,” Kupferschmind says. “You’ve figured out how to manage without that person at your house ... and now they’re back, and they change.”
Despite the physical and emotional risks, some teens are preparing for a military career. Alma Mendoza, a junior at Phoenix Military is planning on joining the Army Reserve after high school. She made the decision, she says, primarily for the benefits that come with being a service member, such as a college education, but says “it’s also a great honor to help your country.”
Mendoza’s parents have differing views on their daughter’s decision, though.
“My mother is a little worried. She doesn’t want me to do it,” Mendoza says. “My mom wants me to think about it because it’s something that you can regret because you can really put yourself in danger.”
Mendoza’s father has served in the military in Mexico. “My dad doesn’t say anything; he says that it’s my decision,” she says.