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The Huffington Post   First Posted: 01/05/12 07:50 AM ET Updated: 01/05/12 10:03 AM ET

Another candle on the cake may mean a better love life for women: A new study reveals that women's satisfaction in the bedroom increases with age, even as sexual desire wanes.

The study, conducted by researchers from the University of California, San Diego School of Medicine and the Veterans Affairs San Diego Healthcare System, analyzed sexual activity, desire and satisfaction in a group of women, age 40 or older, with a median age of 67 years. The 806 women studied were part of the Rancho Bernardo Study, which has tracked the health of residents within a planned community in San Diego for 40 years.

The majority of women -- including sexually active and sexually inactive respondents -- were moderately or very satisfied with their sex lives, and the frequency at which women were very satisfied with their sex lives increased with respondents' ages. Likewise, nearly two-thirds of the women reported at least moderate satisfaction with their sexual relationships. The study was published in The American Journal of Medicine this month.

Satisfaction doesn't necessarily equate to desire, though. Nearly 40 percent of women surveyed never or almost never experienced sexual desire, with only 3 percent desiring sex always or almost always. This low rate of sexual desire wasn't limited to sexually inactive women; in fact, one-third of sexually active respondents indicated low, very low or no sexual desire.

"In contrast with traditional linear model in which desire precedes sex, these results suggest that women engage in sexual activity for multiple reasons, which may include affirmation or sustenance of a relationship," said lead investigator Dr. Elizabeth Barrett-Connor in a statement.

But women didn't need sex to be sexually satisfied. Just under half of the respondents who were sexually inactive indicated that they were at least moderately satisfied with their sex lives, the study found. “In this study, sexual activity was not always necessary for sexual satisfaction," noted first author Dr. Susan Trompeter in a statement. "Those who were not sexually active may have achieved sexual satisfaction through touching, caressing, or other intimacies developed over the course of a long relationship.

“Emotional and physical closeness to the partner may be more important than experiencing orgasm," Trompeter stated. "A more positive approach to female sexual health focusing on sexual satisfaction may be more beneficial to women than a focus limited to female sexual activity or dysfunction."

These results are similar to those found in a study released this summer by the Stein Institute for Research on Aging at the University of California, San Diego, which found that the majority of women aged 60 - 89 years old were moderately to very satisfied with their sex lives.

These results raise the question: What does it really mean to be sexually satisfied? Does satisfaction go beyond the sex itself, and does this change as we grow older? What do you think?

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Another candle on the cake may mean a better love life for women: A new study reveals that women's satisfaction in the bedroom increases with age, even as sexual desire wanes. The study, conducted...
Another candle on the cake may mean a better love life for women: A new study reveals that women's satisfaction in the bedroom increases with age, even as sexual desire wanes. The study, conducted...
 
 
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CryptoKnight
05:39 PM on 03/21/2012
I suspect people lie when satisfaction is rated the same way teenagers lie to hide their virginity. I suspect that because it did happen to me, or my wife, or any of the senior citizens I know. In fact, most I know simply gave up sex long ago. Me included. So, I'm not buying this.
05:03 PM on 01/12/2012
My guess is that women's satisfaction does not necessarily, in fact probably does not, include orgasm. The orgasm as the completion of a sexual encounter is more a male concept. Many women will say they are just fine with any number of warm, intimate exchanges that do not require orgasm.
Further, even for women who are easily orgasmic, the promise of additional opportunities to receive that kind of pleasure does not encourage them to seek more. In fact, it is often the man who is insistent that she come, even when she tells him she's happy with the status quo.
RealistBC
Micro-bios must pass muster.
02:40 PM on 09/07/2012
Women are happiest when there is no mess to sleep in. So if you are willing to settle for that, you really aren't into sex anymore.

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Yvonne Serocki
wellness is inspired
10:50 PM on 01/10/2012
The developmental stage we are in collectively as a planet is to let go of the old, conditioned beliefs about what is possible or not, and open to the new unknown. Ask what is possible. Live in the question, and then start paying attention and expect miracles. If more people let go of their perceived limitations, we can all experience more and more infinite possibilities. Age is only a number. The physical is only a tiny part of who we are. We no longer need to be limited by physical constraints. Everything is now possible if you let go of your conditioned, inherited beliefs. Try it, you may like it! www.newheavenonearth.wordpress.com
04:19 PM on 01/09/2012
I received several questions regarding my prior comment regarding the Hitachi magic wand. It does not take batteries and it can be purchased on line.

http://www.shopinprivate.com/hitmagwanmas.html

My wife of 40 years prefer playing with this than me. In reference to the other sex toy in mentioned the " home wrecker" , that was just a joke. the magic wand is without question the best money i ever spent. remember again to write your name on it when you give it to her.....
RealistBC
Micro-bios must pass muster.
02:41 PM on 09/07/2012
And you brag about this???
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Sam D man
I stand 4 what I say.Not ur interpretation of it.
06:15 PM on 01/08/2012
This study was conducted in California.Every person that have heard the Beach boys song
CALIFORNIA GIRL knows what California girls are about.Do I have to go into further details people?
I to wish they all could be California girls.
RealistBC
Micro-bios must pass muster.
02:43 PM on 09/07/2012
That was 50 years ago. Their daughters and gradndaughters are now like women everywhere - pay for sex with a ring, a house, a car, lifestyle support, . . ..
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vetxcl
05:15 PM on 01/08/2012
Practice makes perfect.
07:54 AM on 01/07/2012
Yay for us! Life is truly Betterafter50 (or 40)!
www.betterafter50.com
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kbeth
Dear Jesus, Save us from the Christians. Amen
04:09 AM on 01/08/2012
For me the 40's were the greatest, 50's wasted on an alcoholic and too soon to tell about the 60's. Everything up until the 40's was just practice.
09:10 PM on 01/06/2012
Well, I count myself as extremely fortunate. Have been married for 48 years to the same great guy and have a very satisfying sex life despite its not being the "same" as it was when I was 18.

We cuddle daily, make love multiple times weekly and have accomodated to the changes that aging has put upon us. Our sex life is very rich, varied and satisfying.

I suffered some of the problems of menopause but all those were solved when I developed severe osteoporosis and despite the much-touted meds got no relief........only watched my Dexa-scan grow worse. Then, found a hormone treatment that works wonderfully to correct the osteoporosis AND the other problems of menopause..........a new life! Guess I feel like the "message" to all is just never, never give up. Life is wonderful.
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alpacadaddy
If the sky fell, would it rain screws?
01:01 PM on 01/09/2012
You have just described my 20+year marriage, except for the happy ending! What is this miracle hormone and is it safer than the others?
01:21 PM on 01/09/2012
For three years I went to an exceptional old gentleman (endocrinologist) who had done the original research on the production of testerone by the female ovaries. He did that in the 60's on a Howard Hughes grant at the U. of Miami. He just retired in his mid to late 80's.

He prescribed testerone (two types.....one short and one long acting) and a tiny tiny amt. of delestrogen to be administered every ten days by injection. Within one year my osteoporosis had "turned around" and I had gained 7% actual bone mass. And, there are many, many other exceptional side effects......vaginal lubrication, emotional stability, skin no longer dry, breasts without pain (for the first time in my life), increased libido.

Seems that this regimen is standard post menopausal treatment in Europe, Australia, Canada, etc. but big Pharma/FDA in this country has killed it as all the components are not patent-able and therefore not money makers.

Am now going to a GYN who prescribes it for me........his ballywick is bioidenticals which are also effective.
12:00 PM on 02/04/2012
You go girl!
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observantguy
I survived the seventies!
07:44 PM on 01/06/2012
My wife is a bit of a schizophrenic since she turned 50...so sex with her is like an orgy.
I'm diggin it!
04:30 AM on 01/06/2012
bull
04:24 AM on 01/06/2012
For all you post menopausal women who are avoiding sexual intercourse on account of it being very painful - talk to your doctor about a prescription for ESTRACE Vaginal Cream. I promise it will change your life. It is terrible that so many women do not know about this easily acquired prescription cream.
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TheBluesGuy
I'm too old to be governed by fear of dumb people.
12:13 AM on 01/07/2012
Yeah... but how do you convince her to use it?
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momoluvsu
We live in a parallel universe
06:04 PM on 01/08/2012
Start with affection and just telling her to try it & how much you miss her and love her, blah. blah, blah and then you better follow up with super-sonic foreplay and affection and tenderness. Good luck and have fun.
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jimmyb2020
04:12 AM on 01/06/2012
As we get older sex gets more complex and more simple at the same time. As a 68 year old male who still is ready to go I can safely say that I haven't seen it all, but most of it. One of the benefits of experience is that I appreciate women of all ages and enjoy their company. Life can be wonderful, especially if you're sharing it with a woman who is energetic, friendly and enjoys a good laugh.
04:11 AM on 01/06/2012
My husband and I have been together on and off 9 years, married 6 1/2. He is 57, I'm 58. He was a hard drinking jerk up until 3 years ago and he still smokes 3 1/2 packs a day. I have filed for divorce three times and this time I didn't back off. He moved out, we didn't talk to or see each other for three months. Now, we are back together stronger than ever and will be together "'til death we part." He lives 30 miles from me and I go to stay with him every weekend plus one night mid-week. We are having a blast and our sex life is amazing! (It was always intense anyway but the relationship was rocky). We love each other dearly and our intensely passionate relationship is beginning to take on that lovely patina of a couple who understand each other and who really want to be together. We will likely remarry at some point. The sex is about being together and recharging each other and enjoying a delightful activity with each other, like we enjoy doing other fun things together. It's one way we enjoy communicating with each other. No birth control, no Viagra, nobody else, no diseases, no worries. It's GREAT. And yes, I am libido impaired because of my age. Who cares!! I love the whole physical interaction and I love it it when my hubby gets his thrills!!
11:47 PM on 01/05/2012
It may just be right. If they are not 250 going on 300. And really with things and not bitching 24/7....
Real guy right here! 75% of the woman I see over 40. Are pushing 200. And working on 225.
The others I see all think they are two hot for you...
And then I see a few that are really with it.. And are great to be with. I found on that is 41. And she can run most guys to the ground... A few great ones out there yet!
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Cuyahoga
I asked Hank Williams, how lonely does it get ....
02:48 AM on 01/06/2012
I'm glad you found your 41 yr old but the first paragraph? Bitter much? Wow the anger.
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Savine
The course of true love never did run smooth. WS.
11:37 PM on 01/05/2012
Good Lord are there any REAL MEN out there anymore???? Most of the male commentators are sooooo depressing with their self emasculating, s*xist, agist and shallow, ape like, d*ck less mentality. Ugghhhh!
06:13 AM on 01/06/2012
What State do you live in? I'd like to get to know you. You seem to want a man who wants to get close emotionally as well as physically, and I am looking for a similarly inclined woman.
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Savine
The course of true love never did run smooth. WS.
09:03 AM on 01/06/2012
I can't tell if this is sarcasm or not.