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More Over 55 Communities Evict Kids As Families Double Up In Downturn

Over 55 Communities Evicting Children

First Posted: 01/ 6/2012 8:21 am Updated: 01/ 6/2012 12:27 pm

(AOL Real Estate) - At 6 months old, Kimberly Broffman faced eviction.

It wasn't because her grandparents couldn't afford the home where she lived -- they were current on the mortgage. And it had nothing to do with her mother's run-ins with the law; she was welcome to stay, too. The only persona non grata was the infant, and she had to leave soon.

The reason: Kimberly's grandparents -- and primary caregivers -- live in an age-restricted community, where minors are treated more often as vagrants than visitors.

Judie and Jim Stottler (pictured in the photo with Kimberly), who belong to the Lakes Homeowners Association in Clearwater, Fla., have been in and out of court to keep Kimberly in their home since she was 3 years old, though the community board first raised objections when Kimberly was just an infant. She's 8 today.

The couple gained legal custody of Kimberly because her mother had a history of substance abuse. The father remains unknown. Without her grandparents, Kimberly would likely be placed in foster care.

But when the community board discovered that the child was living year-round with her grandparents, they issued an ultimatum: Remove the child or sell the house within 18 months.

"Throwing the child out would be throwing us out," Judie Stottler, 64, told AOL Real Estate. "People end up losing their homes because they won't lose their children."

The Stottlers are hardly alone. As the economic downturn bears down on families, an increasing number of grandparents are stepping in to raise their grandchildren, and it's presenting a host of complicated issues, both legal and ethical, particularly when it comes to senior housing.

A Major Problem With Minors

At the Sun City Community Center near Tampa, Fla., one of the oldest age-restricted communities in the nation, the problem is growing.

Ed Barnes, president of the board, said that he's discovered 10 cases in the past six months in which children were found to be living with relatives -- one of the most basic violations of age-restricted communities' bylaws.

But Barnes doesn't relish the thought of kicking children to the curb.

"Certainly the main reason is the economic downturn, coupled with personal tragedies," he said of the influx of youngsters. "People are getting divorced and have no alternative, no job, and have to find some place for the kids to live."

With a national unemployment rate of nearly 9 percent and millions of Americans still struggling with upside-down mortgages, it's not surprising that there are more multigenerational households these days. Yet bending the rules for even one child could land an age-restricted community in hot water.

Legal and Financial Consequences

"Age restriction is a fundamental part of what makes up that community," said Michael Gelfand, a West Tampa-area attorney with experience in community association disputes. Putting aside residents' attitudes about young children, sheltering minors could put the community under serious financial duress.

The Fair Housing Act, which forms the basis for anti-discrimination law in housing, was amended to include a "familial restriction" that essentially validates senior communities' right to prohibit minors from living there, Gelfand said.

Up to 20 percent of residents in age-restricted communities can be under the set residency age, but these arrangements are largely used to accommodate adult children who inherit property. The rule is never used to accommodate minors, however, and if a community is found to exceed the 20 percent limit, or selectively enforces the rules, it could lose its exemption status. And that could cause a cascade of adverse effects.

The perception is that "property values are going to plummet," said Rob Freedman, a Tampa-based attorney who's written covenants for several age-restricted communities in Florida. "Because now you have more people coming in ... and because senior citizens are not going to want to live in a community that has kids around."

Moreover, senior communities aren't equipped for children, Freedman said. Swimming pools and other adult facilities will have to be reinsured; lightly used roadways will take a pounding as younger residents move in, creating safety hazards for golf cart-reliant seniors and increased taxes for residents; and mortgage lenders will likely be forced to revise their valuation of the community, making it harder for borrowers to change terms.

For seniors on a fixed income, any number of these changes could lead to hardship. The median listing price in Sun City is $104,950 as of November, which is down 4.5 percent from last year, according to Realtor.com data. In comparison, the national median list price was $189,900.

U.S. Census data shows that 5.8 million children under the age of 18 live in grandparent-headed households as of the last decennial survey, up from 4.5 million a decade ago. And while residents in age-restricted communities make up just under a million owner-occupied households in America, according to the National Association of Home Builders, economic hardships are bringing more of these eviction cases to the surface.

A Slippery Slope

The problem isn't entirely new. Take for instance the cautionary tale of Youngtown, Ariz., credited as the first age-restricted community in the nation. In 1996, 16-year-old Chaz Cope moved in with his grandparents in the senior community to escape his abusive stepfather.

Cope's grandparents petitioned the association to allow the teenager to stay with them until he finished high school, but the board bristled.

"It was scary. I didn't have nowhere else to go and I definitely wasn't going back to that abusive household," Cope, now 31, told AOL Real Estate. (He's pictured left with his 4-year-old daughter.)

But when the story garnered mainstream attention, the Arizona attorney general's office ordered a stay on Cope's eviction and initiated a 10-month investigation of the community. It turned out that the town had improperly sought its age-restricted status and the town lost its exemption altogether, allowing Cope -- and anyone else inclined to live among a majority of seniors -- to move into the community.

"I made it so anybody could live in that community," Cope said, with a measure of pride.

Kids in the Shadows

Cope's story is a sobering example of what's at stake for 55-and-up communities that discover children in their midst. In Sun City Community Center, president Barnes said that he's seen more stowaways lately, but that the problem still only affects a small portion of the 10,000-plus population. But AOL Real Estate spoke to residents who claim that there are many children who remain hidden.

"Oh my goodness -- shock-o, shock-o," one resident quipped when informed of the recent discoveries. The homeowner, who asked not to be identified, said that she's seen several children peeking out from behind screen doors in the seven years she's lived at Sun City.

The reasons they live in the shadows are clear to Judie Stottler, whose 8-year-old grandchild has been at the center of controversy since she was an infant.

The family has been battling to keep Kimberly since before she could crawl, but has had the services of attorney Rob Eckard for the past 5 years. Eckard, who first read about the Stottlers' case in the local press, came on to defend the family pro bono.

"People who can't afford attorneys end up losing their home because they won't lose their children," Stottler said. Before they had legal representation, the family signed an agreement stating that they would move out of the home within 18 months. "We thought we'd have to sign or we'd be thrown out right then."

But when the housing market went belly up, they were left with little hope of selling. The home was first listed in 2006 for $250,000, Stottler said -- now it's priced at $89,000.

Stottler works at a local assisted living home and supports the family entirely on her income. Her husband, Jim, is disabled. She expects to retire this February.

To make matters worse, the community board president, whom the family had dealt with, recently died, leaving their lawyer with the arduous task of restarting negotiations.

But there's hope for them yet. Because the family was granted custody of Kimberly during a separate hearing, Eckard said, there may be grounds for setting up a temporary zoning variance that would allow the Stottlers to keep their home, as well as their granddaughter.

A Case for Revision

The problem with these cases, even when the children are granted admission to the community, is that they're won on technicalities, said Shelley Cutts, a Tempe, Ariz., attorney who studied the Cope case.

State attorneys general sometimes intervene in these cases, "but never have to answer the tough questions," she said -- namely, revising the laws to include a hardship exemption for families with no other options.

For the time being, however, families like the Stottlers face uphill battles in court, where their best defense is to find flaws in their community's bylaws.

As of Wednesday, Eckard, the family's attorney, said the association was very close to reaching a deal with the Stottlers to allow Kimberly to stay on a temporary zoning exemption. The proposal was very careful to maintain the community's age restricted status, he says -- the offer would only be extended to Kimberly, and no other children found in the community. As of this writing, the community association's attorney has yet to respond to calls regarding the case.

Eckard says he's already been approached by another resident in the Lakes subdivision who is sheltering a minor and fears community reprisal.

"There's people in that community just one event away from being in their shoes," he said.

Until a policy is reached that both maintains age-restricted enforcement and considers extreme family hardship, residents within these communities will continue to have to choose between keeping their homes and housing their kin.

But Stottler said she already knows where she stands.

"Your child is going to come first. That's just the way it is."

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09:33 PM on 12/06/2012
What if a young couple bought the home of a deceased Grandparent (a certain number of under 55 couples are allowed by law) and they accidentally became pregnant? Are they now forced to move through no fault of their own?
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05:12 PM on 01/10/2012
As a lawyer, I understand the legal issues that face the association. The association must enforce the rules or it faces potential lawsuits from every single individual homeowner and it faces legal ramifications as to its status. It's a tough situation, and the only way these issues can really be remedied is by statute. At the very least, it seems reasonable that there should almost always be an exception when there is a court order granting legal custody to a grandparent (parent dies, parent becomes incapacitated, parent's home is too dangerous for a child, etc.). Court order trumps the regs, in my opinion, as a Court has determined that it is in the best interest of the child to be raised by the grandparents.
10:07 AM on 06/04/2012
I moved to 55+ community in FL never thinking I would ever have my 11 yr old grandson have to live with me. But, the unexpected happens ! Now I am scared to death and do not know what to do. Moving is not possible . Can anyone advise me where to start, what to do ? It is not possible to "hide him " as it is a small community and there are several busy bodies. I appreciate ANY advise as I am desperate.
01:10 PM on 03/19/2013
problem is this..normal ii year old noise is not acceptable in a 55 plus community!! it's intrusion,as so many elderly people have health issues.if you lived next door to my mother who has extreme sleep apnea and she sleeps nights and several times during the days..,normal noise from an 11 year old would keep her awake and this could result in hospital or death.55plus communities usually have many elderly people with health issues and that's precisely why they move there.don't let articles like this fool you into thinking these places are all about golf courses and club memberships.that's a lie that ageist people like to contrive,followed by how these places are age discriminatory.they exist because of elderly people who have health issues...period..liberls love to tke the small percentage that don't have health issues and never bring into mention the larger percentage that in these places that do/.honestly,you need to move!! if your child's noise is intrusive (and most of these places have very thin walls)then you're to blame if someone's health is effected badly by it
01:09 PM on 03/16/2013
let me ask you this!! why is it okay to apply an emergency clause of some kind when you know as well as I that people will abuse it--I live ina 55plus senior community and my neighbor has gone to her dr and had him write a note to our apartment manager that claims she's ill and that her 23 year old son takes care of her..so of course the owners let him move in.the fact is,he does not take care of her..he's a bum and unemployed but him being her son,she felt sorry for him and tells me at least he has a place to live now(he's used all his friends and lost them all).he's not taking care of her,he just has no place to live.he's a bum ,he won't work and he hangs out on the property every night with his buds by their cars listening to rap music.i moved out of apartments that house this kind of trash ..I can't believe a 55plus complex is allowing this to happen! I've complained about him and his buddies(also in their early 20's) hanging on the property all hours but i'm told since he's on the lease,he has the right.i'm thinking of moving/ but after reading this article i'm wondering if this is bound to happen somewhere else as well!!
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dpkjj
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03:33 PM on 01/09/2012
I suppose the senior community has a right to impose the rules, but it is sad.

What I wonder is why people choose these communities in the first place. Why would you want to live with only people of your own age? I am in my seventies and have friends in their thirties, forties, fifties and so on. My oldest friends are in their nineties, and I hope they make it to 100 plus. The young ones keep me young and the older ones are role models. I would also like to think that I'm a bit of a role model for the younger ones.
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Raglimidechi
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01:23 PM on 01/07/2012
Clearly people with children and grandchildren should avoid age-restricted communities like the plague.
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03:56 AM on 02/17/2012
People in general should avoid any unAmerican HOA like the plague. I mean all this over done communistic regulation for what? A well manicured lawn and a club house? A presumbed sense of security for the love a walls and a gate to which you have to key into? No thanks. If I can't manicure my own lawn I will hire my neighbors teen to do it for me. Give him some spending money for the movies.
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01:23 PM on 01/07/2012
If you move into a restricted community, you abide by the rules. If your life circumstances change, it is YOU who must adapt, not the thousand other people who signed on for a life style that doesn't include kids.

I have a neighbor who leaves her kids in the back yard for hours at a time. For the many hours they're out there, there isn't a moment of silence. I'm not talking about singing or playing or children's laughter. I'm talking about screaming at the top of their lungs. I can no longer enjoy a spring or summer day with my windows open. I can not even enjoy the solitude of my home with the windows shut without turning on music or TV loud enough to drown them out.

I have no problem with reasonably well behaved children. The problem is that there are so few of them in our society today.

I get it that your child comes first. But, if you are suddenly encumbered with a child while you live in an age restricted community, it is your moral responsibility to make other living arrangements.
05:03 PM on 01/09/2012
Hear, Hear!
01:42 PM on 02/17/2012
The problem isn't just about noise. Seniors need a protected environment for their own safety. You might have heard about a youngster who was sued because she drove something she was riding on into a senior who was walking in the complex. The senior later died of her injuries. Parents won't/can't control their children. So, it makes sense that if seniors want to be free from such dangers, they should not have to live with them.
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01:52 PM on 02/17/2012
I'd add to that that I'm not keen on neighbors with grown children living with them either. Turns out my next door neighbor's deadbeat 29 year old son who's lived with them for the past five years is a drug addicted psycho who tried to break into my house. He's succeeded in other houses in the neighborhood.

I've got little patience with unruly kids, whether they're nine or twenty nine.
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12:15 AM on 06/11/2012
That's a load of BS. Seniors aren't frigging as helpless as everyone says. How do they ever manage to go beyond the boundaries of the mobile home park? LOL>
11:32 PM on 01/06/2012
Thank You Obama for surrounding yourself with the same Clinton re-treads that were largely responsible for the financial crisis and saving your bankster buddies while neglecting the victims!
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04:43 PM on 01/10/2012
WTF are you talking about?
01:18 PM on 02/17/2012
..the sun just set in the west- once again Obama has brought darkness onto us..
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10:08 PM on 01/06/2012
For many reasons, planned communities have HOA boards. In some, you want a clothesline for fresh smelling sheets in good weather? Tough. Yes, you know all this going in. Apparently, we can discriminate about flapping underwear in the neighborhood. All discrimination is not the same, however. It's illegal to restrict residence based on race or ethnic background. It's not illegal to gang up on a half-way house that wants to establish itself in your neighborhood, even if it's not a planned community you've bought your way into. Sometimes you win; sometimes you don't.
However, since these are communities for retirement living or 'child-free,' courts have found them exempt from discrimination in housing laws. In fact, a resident owner of a two or three family house can discriminate against having children.

Each HOA board should hear cases and circumstances of their neighbors. Exceptions to rules are also called flexibility and adjustment to new circumstances. The idea of a child living for 8 years hiding behind the curtains is heartbreaking. Since most grandparents would not have to deal with this situation, the occasional hardship case should be open for discussion.
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01:29 PM on 01/07/2012
I'm not so sure that maintaining the integrity of an age-restricted community is "discrimination". We have plenty of laws that "discriminate". You can't have 25 people living in a dwelling intended for six. You can't run a business out of your home. You can't set up a zoo in your back yard. You can't let your hoard spill out of your house and affect the health and well being of your neighbors.

When it comes to guarding my rights to live in peace and quiet in a neighborhood which I bought into precisely because it was child free, I'm all for discrimination. While I have sympathy for grandparents who are suddenly thrust into the parenting role again, I have no interest in making their problem my problem.
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04:47 PM on 01/10/2012
Wow. I hope you never need help. Seeing that you're aging, you most likely will. I hope someone takes an interest in your problem when it's not their problem. Good luck.
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08:49 PM on 01/06/2012
Folks who are retired pay to be in a community where people are their same age. When moving in an area like this you know the rules. People who are older like a living environment with less noise and do not want kids playing outside. My parents live in an area like this and that is why they moved their. I think the older couple should move to a regular area with kids. The kid will have friends to play with too.
08:10 PM on 01/06/2012
While I feel for this and other families that may be in this situation, the fact is these grandparents CHOSE to purchase a home and live in an age-restricted community. This is NOT a case of "age discrimination", because this condition of living in that community wasn't forced upon anyone. They CHOSE it because they WANTED to live in an age restricted community, as did all their neighbors in that community. They expected that community to enforce resident age restrictions when they CHOSE to purchase and live there, and their neighbors have that right, as well. That their personal circumstance has changed, making that a problem, is NOT a valid reason to expect variance from the community standard they CHOSE and AGREED to. If it is THEIR CHOICE to continue to raise their grand child, they need to MOVE. Period. If they take a loss on their house, again while I feel for them, but a lot of people have to take losses on the sale of their homes when life circumstances require them to move.
05:50 PM on 01/06/2012
As executive director of Generations United, I hope this article isn’t indicative of family bashing during these severe economic times when they're depending on each other. The grandparents described should be applauded for their sacrifice, not forced to use scarce dollars to ensure their rights to care for their families. They're doing heroic work for grandchildren who need economic security, protection from abuse, and stability whether because of their parents’ job loss, death, or military deployment. That they are willing to lose their homes in age-restricted communities is proof of their commitment to their grandchildren.

Generations United, an organization advocating for strengthening the commitment between generations, recently issued “Family Matters: Multigenerational Households in a Volatile Economy,” detailing the challenges multigenerational families and grandfamilies face, with policy recommendations to help them survive hard times. Among these recommendations is evaluation of local policies, codes, and regulations removing barriers to better serve the needs of the growing number of these families.

Maya Angelou said, “The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.” Her sentiment applies to children needing loving homes without fearing they may lose that pivotal connection to their grandparents’ love and support. Grandparents should never be accused of “harboring children” and grandchildren should never be treated as ‘persona non grata,’ ‘stowaways,’ or have to ‘live in the shadows.’

We are grandparents, parents, and children. We are families first.
08:16 PM on 01/06/2012
I agree with ALMOST everything you say here, except, that these grandparents or others should be allowed to violate the standards of the community the AGREED to and CHOSE to live in for this very reason. I feel for their situation, but they put themselves in this dilemma, they expected the resident age restrictions to be enforced when they CHOSE to live there, their neighbors in that community have the same right. If there is an "discrimintation" against children or famlies here, it was in the grandpatent's own action, choosing to purchase and live there to begin with.
11:02 PM on 01/06/2012
Jenell, I think the point here is that family situations are extremely fluid, especially in the wake of the Great Recession. The grandparents may have chosen to live in an age-restricted community, but we don't always have control over what happens in our lives. A horrible scenario: parents die leaving behind their children. Grandparents step in to care for them having not anticipated such a tragedy. They may be underwater re: their mortgages by no fault of their own, living on a fixed income because of the recent financial crisis, etc. What choices do they have? Their choice is typically to raise their grandchildren because they love them and feel responsible for their well-being. Can't there be ways to compromise and support these grandparents in situations they didn't anticipate? Rather than entering the formal child welfare system, I'd want my son to be raised by my mother, a doting grandparent - and I know she'd do anything for him, regardless of her living situation.
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04:17 PM on 01/06/2012
Ageism sucks.
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01:30 PM on 01/07/2012
So don't get old. :)
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kilchis
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02:18 PM on 01/07/2012
it also applies to young.
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Sandra Stipp
03:57 PM on 01/06/2012
I live in an age restricted community and love it. I've been there over 34 yrs. What do I like most about it: no kids, very quiet, very safe, no junk cars sitting out on the street, no one speeding up and down the streets, beautiful surroundings, pools, spas, a library....everything a person could want. Private - very private. An ideal way of life. I would not trade this life style for anything. Property values have never flucuated within the community as outside. Am I rich....no. Am I spoiled.....yes. Thank you very much.
But, living in this community was entirely my choice and my husbands. We never had to make a decision regarding family as we could not have children. I certainly would not want to be in the Stottler shoes. A very hard decision indeed but what should come first is family. I hope they find a good solution to this problem.
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06:20 PM on 01/06/2012
no one cares sandra
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Sandra Stipp
06:29 PM on 01/06/2012
Your right ohioyippihippie - no one does care nor should one.
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01:32 PM on 01/07/2012
How is it that OhioYippieHippie's inane remark passed the screeners? It adds nothing to the conversation and was intended to do nothing but snipe at another poster.
06:46 PM on 01/06/2012
That's a little sad to read. I would never think of living in a place that banned the elderly as that would seem intolerant and selfish. Also, you imply that "age restriction" means no junk cars? My grandparents lived in a place like this adjacent to a golf course and it was like they had already died. All I remember about it were the old people and plastic flowers. Sterile. At any rate, the acceptance of intolerance for some is a short leap to intolerance of other groups and we know where that leads.
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Sandra Stipp
07:17 PM on 01/06/2012
Hi Ron, Well, there is nothing sterile about where I live & I don't see any plastic flowers. This is a very active community with tons of things to do. Plus, there are travel trips going on all the time. We are not in condos but in individual houses. The association maintains the outside so all the houses a painted about every 7-8 yrs., the gardens are planted and attended to (if you don't want to do it yourself) and the side streets are cul-de-sacs which means no one can park on the street - which is nice. I understand your last statement entirely. But, rest assured, in regards to myself only, I am a very tolerant person.....very humble in fact. I never put anyone down.
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04:06 AM on 02/17/2012
What is really scary is that more and more people choose to live in these HOA's and inforcers of some community common law system to manage their lives and interactions with each other. Hiding behind powerful organizations against the needs of your fellow neighbors because of a breach of comfort. That is sick and twisted. Glad I would never live in such a community no matter how old I am or what my neighbors are like. Believe me I have had to deal with some seriously creepy block mates but we get thru it. On our own.
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kathleens
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03:36 PM on 01/06/2012
Why is it okay to discriminate against children? You would never see an ad for "Elderly-Free Living", or "Housing for the Caucasian Christian", so why is it okay to exclude children?

I can just imagine the conversation: "Wow, shuffleboard, golf, and no kids. I can't ever remember having such a good time."

"Yeah, we're SO cool."
08:22 PM on 12/28/2012
Didn't you notice kids are a pain?
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03:33 PM on 01/06/2012
Communities have a legitimate right to make reasonable rules to be followed for inclusion. The grandparents knew that when they bought. Sure, things change. But the grandparents also have options, they could either sell their restricted home and move to another neighborhood, or rent their home to another party and then move. This judge and the court system has become a disgrace. Judges need to follow the law, respect individual rights and make DECISIONS. I blame the court system, this is indicative of many similar abuses of legitimate rights of one group at the expense of another.
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kathleens
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03:19 PM on 01/06/2012
There's a fundamental problem here with the law allowing age discrimination in housing. Why is it okay to discriminate against children?

Imagine a development that advertised "Community Living for Caucasians", or "Senior-Free Living". It's absurd, and it would never be allowed. So I'm not sure why this is ever okay.

I can imagine the conversation: "Shuffleboard, bridge, and no kids. I can't remember ever having so much fun. This is SO cool."