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Patricia Cohen's "In Our Prime: The Invention Of Middle Age"

Reinvention Of Middle Age

First Posted: 01/17/12 06:47 AM ET Updated: 01/17/12 06:55 AM ET

Middle age is a cultural fiction -- a construct that emerged in the last 150 years through a confluence of factors, including industrialization, modern medicine, government bureaucracy and, of course, media and advertising. That's the takeaway from the new book "In Our Prime: The Invention of Middle Age," a cultural history of aging by New York Times culture reporter Patricia Cohen.

Cohen takes readers on an exhaustive journey of what it means to be middle-aged, from the first concepts of a distinct life stage in the 1800s to contemporary research on the midlife brain. She examines aging in media, medicine, marketing and mythology -- finding no evidence for the "midlife crisis" or "empty nest syndrome." (See slideshow below for the Top Seven Myths of Middle Age.)

Cohen sat down with The Huffington Post at the Times' offices. Fair-skinned with striking pale blue eyes and a cascade of red curls, Cohen tucked her legs beneath her in a chair and spoke passionately about her project of the last four years. Cohen married at 39, was pregnant at 40 and was enjoying a professional peak -- just a few of the factors that inspired her to reconsider midlife as "a time of extravagant possibilities" rather than decline.

"It's hard to think of yourself entering middle age when you're changing diapers and looking at preschools," she said. "In many ways the chronological definition of middle age is the least useful in our own lives. A number means much less than where you are in your own personal journey -- how old your children are, whether your parents are still alive, where you are on your career path."

Advances In Health and Industrialization

Middle age wasn't thought of as a separate life stage prior to the second half of the 19th century, Cohen explained. In the mid-1800s, 85 percent of Americans lived in rural areas. People harvested crops side by side, shared tiny homes, were educated in mixed-age classrooms, and socialized across generations at dances and church services. The word "midlife" didn't appear in the dictionary until 1895.

Several factors conspired to demarcate middle age, starting with advances in health. In 1800, the average woman had seven children and spent 17 years pregnant or breastfeeding, Cohen notes. Half of all deaths struck children 15 and younger. With advances in hygiene, pediatrics and antibiotics, mortality rates declined sharply, and by 1900 women had just three children on average.

"By age 40 to 45 women were finally done, the last kid was out of the house, and a new expanse of time opened up for 20 years or more," said Cohen. The Progressive Era followed between 1890 and 1920, and middle-aged women became the mainstays of social reform efforts and the suffrage movement, Cohen notes.

For blue-collar men, middle age was less of a gift. An industrialized world divided workers by gender and age, and the labor market put a premium on strength and speed. Cohen profiled management guru Frederick Winslow Taylor, whose advances in efficiency revolutionized the workplace. Ford adopted Taylor's principles on its assembly lines, and reduced the average time to build a car from 12.5 hours in 1913 to just over 90 minutes in 1914.

"Farm people worked from the time they were adolescents to when they dropped," Cohen explained. "But factory work really valued speed, and gave younger workers an advantage. Blue collar men in their 40s were finding they were not valued anymore."

A Shared Consciousness Of Image

A growing bureaucracy began to segregate people by age -- in schools, clubs and civic groups. In 1900, the Census Bureau began to ask respondents for their date of birth for the first time. The turn of the 20th century brought a flood of magazines, movies and advertisements that disseminated youthful templates of beauty and style. "For the first time you had a national, shared consciousness of the way you were supposed to look," said Cohen.

The American experience in World War I also inspired youth-worship. "There was an incredible reaction against the older generation which had gotten us into war, with so many of the younger generation wiped out," Cohen explained. "Youth became very sanctified and sacred."

The idea that youth had to be revitalized combined with another social development: mass consumerism. "Industry had reached a point where you could produce and distribute products on a national scale -- and once it did, you had to have advertising," said Cohen. Ads began hawking new products to deal with the infirmities of age -- wrinkles, bad breath, sweaty feet.

In the 1960s, psychologists such as Erik Erikson came up with new framework for thinking about human development, introducing the idea of growth as a lifelong journey. "It's something that seems so obvious now but at the time was quite revolutionary," Cohen said. "Freud believed that most development occurred in first five years of life and nothing of much import happened after that.

"Erikson created a different kind of map of life stages," she continued, "and the stage representing middle age was really the most important, because it was when people began to look beyond their own personal achievements to what they could give back in helping the generation after them."

The "Midlife Industrial Complex"

Fast-forward to the mid-lifers of today, a generation wielding enormous social and economic power. "Alpha Boomers," people 55 to 64, number 35 million and spend more than $1.8 trillion annually, Cohen reported. They spend more on luxury cars, travel, dining, home furnishings and improvements, large appliances, cosmetics and beauty products than people ages 18 to 49. But only in the last few years have mainstream advertisers begun to acknowledge them.

On the other hand, certain industries maintain a laser-like focus on the demographic. Cohen argues that a "Midlife Industrial Complex" invents conditions that prey on middle-age anxieties. "Sexual desire disorder in women and male menopause keep coming up even though research shows no basis for it," she said. "But there's a highly lucrative business of testosterone supplements. These things are driven by pharmaceutical companies." In the book, she furthers this argument, offering a lurid history of age-related medical experiments, including the doctor who transplanted monkey testicles into men in an effort to restore their libidos.

Industry and marketers are also pushing a certain fabulous-over-50 "Stepford perfection," noted Cohen. "On the one hand, it's better than an aging, asexual house-frau, but it's a different kind of pressure," she explained. "The reality is that inhumanly thin bodies are still what's desired -- only now they're desired by 50-year-olds. That's why there's an epidemic of anorexia in middle-aged women that didn't exist a few years ago. As much as one can talk about the importance of inner beauty, we are all subject to wanting to look outwardly beautiful as well."

Cohen noted that Norma Desmond, the washed-up silent movie star played by Gloria Swanson in the 1950 film noir "Sunset Boulevard" is supposed to be 50 years old. She contrasts it with the last "Sex in City" film, which includes the 50th birthday celebration of Samantha (Kim Cattrall).

"Middle age is a 'Never-Never Land' -- when you're younger you never want to enter it and when you're older you never want to leave it."

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  • Middle Age Myth #1: Midlife Crisis

    Research shows the midlife crisis is largely fiction. People in their 20s and 30s are more likely to experience the kind of "crisis" associated with middle age. Only an estimated 10% of middle-aged people have the classic midlife crisis.

  • Myth #2: The Empty Nest Syndrome

    Researchers have found no evidence of the so-called empty nest syndrome. Many parents relish and enjoy the transition, taking pride in the fact that all their child-rearing efforts have paid off, and their offspring are on the road to accomplishing their goals.

  • Myth #3: The Trophy Wife

    Men don't abandon their middle-aged partners for younger trophy wives as the stereotype suggests. Most marriages break up in the first eight years. The recent rise in divorce among the middle-aged is because second unions are breaking up (usually within the first eight years of marriage).

  • Myth #4: Menopause Stinks

    Hot flashes aside, nearly 62% of women in one survey said they felt "only relief" when their periods stopped, while fewer than 2% said they felt "only regret."

  • Myth #5: The Death Of Libido

    Despite the latest hype about testosterone supplements, low sex drive, depression and sagging energy levels were more likely to be caused by stress, poor eating habits and laziness in midlife than lower hormone levels. Meanwhile, many researchers think that warnings about female sexual dysfunction in middle age are highly exaggerated. What may account for women's flagging sexual life is that they are less likely to have a regular partner than men.

  • Myth #6: Health Inevitably Declines

    It turns out age really is about attitude: Research has found that believing that you can improve your health in middle age actually improves it. A sense of control in midlife can dramatically reduce disability and preserve one's health and independence later in life.

  • Myth #7: Happiness Plummets

    The truth is just the opposite: Many people view midlife as their happiest period. Several surveys have found that while happiness dips in the 40s, people start to feel more content with life after the age of 50.

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Middle age is a cultural fiction -- a construct that emerged in the last 150 years through a confluence of factors, including industrialization, modern medicine, government bureaucracy and, of course,...
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10:01 AM on 01/19/2012
It's true, age is a mindset(and one can definitely look beautiful at any age!)....but make no mistake! 50 is not 30...and 60 is not 50! Childbearing actually has an expiration sticker.(No matter how good you look on the outside at 40, your eggs are cooked.) Having children late keeps YOU young, but causes extreme anxiety in your kids. All part of the self centered core of a woman thinking only "ME,ME,ME!" A childs worst fear? To lose a Mother.Even a 20 year old needs one. A baby in a stroller with a fresh face lift? The new pre menopausal fad? When will this selfishness stop?
04:55 AM on 01/19/2012
This is great but............you still can't get a job if you aren't in your twenties or early thirties.
12:36 AM on 01/19/2012
And how old is Laura??? You are as old as you feel. I am 60 and aside from the night flashes I still am beautiful, intelligent and sexy. older women are the new beautiful women, not the skinny over made and fakey ones in their 20's, 30's or even 40s.We know what we want & where we are going. don't underestimate us.
12:32 AM on 01/19/2012
Great article............
12:03 AM on 01/19/2012
Live your life..............not your age!! Each day is a gift and we must make each moment count, taking good care of ourselves and a little wine every day is good for the heart in moderation. God bless all of us who are in the GOLDEN YEARS~~ They can be the BEST years of our life! All of this and HEAVEN, too!
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nottenkamper
08:46 PM on 01/18/2012
Depends on the "middle ager", as some are physically out of shape, and "old", while others are
in shape (not skinny) and still interested in life and doing for themselves and others. Also physical health is a concern. If one is healthy, one is feeling young. My mom, at age 84 felt like she was when she was a teenager, as her health was good, and her thought processes very good. Forget
media, and what they try to make us buy and be....it is about yourself, and how you feel in body
mind and soul.
08:25 PM on 01/18/2012
A lot of the women I work with see midlife as a time for reinventing themselves. It is common in midlife to experience a middle age shift. Your values change and you begin to want to align your outer life with your inner desires. Many women start second careers or businesses, they blossom and are not so concerned with what others think. They surround themselves with supportive friends and let go of the negative ones! http://www.BreakThroughLifeCoaching.net
08:19 PM on 01/18/2012
Empty nest? Are you kidding me? They never leave. Or they come back with their kids. Dream On.
12:30 AM on 01/19/2012
True in some cases. I know of two different families experiencing the return of their children, carrying babies and one came home with the a spouse too. I wonder if our generation, in some cases, actually hindered our children's maturity by excessive indulgence in material things and money, also, lax discipline, little accountabiliy, little responsibilities and always the rescue. Who knows? Sometimes it's fine and sometimes it's not, but I can't imagine saying no. Hard one friend.
ChoppyBob
I survived 8 years of Pres Cheney, so scuk it!
08:25 PM on 01/24/2012
you *wonder?*

no need to wonder. spoiling those brats created the monsters you have now.
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cmdrmom2
05:39 PM on 01/18/2012
I am one of those Alpha Boomers: Newsflash for people under 40 - 60 IS NOT the new 40! Your body still knows that it is 60.
05:08 PM on 01/18/2012
middle aged @ 55? only if you plan on living to 110. buy the red corvette,have your teeth capped,get out the rogaine and viagra and start drinking heavily. hey it works for me.gotta go lawrence welk jusy started
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realwoman8
Curioser and curioser
08:12 PM on 01/18/2012
I'm shooting for 120 myself. ;-)
04:41 PM on 01/18/2012
my daughter was born when i was 40.(unwanted pregnancy, perhaps) after 9 months of morning sickness, here she was. 6 o'clock feeding, colic, potty training, teen age rebellion...in her i see so much of myself. middle age crisis ? did not have time for it...
04:20 PM on 01/18/2012
Can we extend middle age to a later age...or call it something else..like just past middle age...or seasoned adults? It seems that now the cut off is 64. Hopefully we can up that quite a few more years or just say 65 and up :)

We're here and we also do the same thing as middle aged people do and we are probably more understanding, more patient, many of us still work or want to and with a little help we look pretty darn good. Of course smiling is better than plastic surgery.
04:13 PM on 01/18/2012
I am a 65 year old Freshman in college. I still feel 18 and have as much energy that I did then........I won a sccholarship, because of what I wrote about my life.

I ignore/dismiss anything irrelevant to ME..........I don't care what others think I should be or put me into little square boxes; nothing about me is the usual!

www.soulpoetry.org (my book, Sanctuary of the Soul)

and...I just received the "Distinguished Undergraduate Student Award"---and it will be who knows how long (10-15 years until I graduate!)
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fpwillson
Fighter for justice and the truth
04:25 PM on 01/18/2012
Good for you, Cap. One is never too old to learn.
mazaranne
Texas liberal is not an oxymoron
04:03 PM on 01/18/2012
I grow old.....I grow old....I shall wear the bottoms of my trousers rolled.
04:03 PM on 01/18/2012
When I was a kid, I had a staggeringly beautiful aunt. As she aged, she told me, "There isn't one damn thing good about getting old." Unfortunately, now I'm in a position to believe her. But, she also said that it's better to be a has been than a never was.
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fpwillson
Fighter for justice and the truth
04:27 PM on 01/18/2012
Don't worry about your old age. It doesn't last that long.
04:42 PM on 01/18/2012
Thanks! I'm feeling better already!
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cmdrmom2
05:41 PM on 01/18/2012
I know how your aunt felt. I used to be a beauty and my day in the sun is over. But I rejoice because I have health - that's most important.
07:37 PM on 01/18/2012
Thank you for your reply. I still love Aunt Bernice's line that it's better to be a has been than a never was. Best of luck!
isisreptiles
Pro-choice, pro marriage equality
09:37 PM on 01/18/2012
I'm feeling that too, but I look at it as having had good looks for a long time which have now faded. Some women don't even have one day of being beautiful, so I'm still ahead the game. Better a has-been than a never-was.