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Boomerang Kids: Why Multigenerational Households Are Surging Worldwide

Boomerang Kids

First Posted: 01/23/2012 1:44 pm Updated: 01/23/2012 3:16 pm

Lindsay Samakow, 23, graduated from Penn State University in 2010 and took a job selling phone service door-to-door to small businesses. The recruiter promised she'd make a substantial commission over a tiny base salary. Although Samakow landed plenty of appointments, there were few takers: Her firm's services were both unproven and more expensive than established rivals.

"The amount I spent in gas and tolls was more than I made in my job," she said. After eight fruitless months, Samakow -- by then the firm's veteran salesperson -- quit. She moved out of the apartment she shared with a roommate, and into her mother's basement in Maryland while she looked for a new job.

Samakow, sister to HuffPost Parents' Jessica Samakow, is part of a burgeoning trend: The Great Recession has led to the largest spike ever in the number of Americans living in multigenerational households, according to a study by the Pew Research Center. In 2009, the share of the population living in such households had increased to 16.7 percent, from about 12 three decades earlier.

More than 51 million Americans live in multigenerational households, defined three ways: two adult generations -- a household head with an adult child, or with a parent; three or more generations, such as a householder, adult child and grandchild; or two "skipped generations" -- a grandparent and a grandchild. But between 2007 and 2009, the fastest-growing segment of people doubling up with family were young adults ages 25 to 34, according to Pew.

Decades of globalization, rather than years of recession, are to blame for the failure to launch among young adults, according to a new book, "The Accordian Family: Boomerang Kids, Anxious Parents and the Private Toll of Global Competition," by Katherine Newman, dean of the school of arts and sciences at Johns Hopkins University.

"We have a more integrated global economic system and the world has become more competitive," Newman said. "In richer countries, where job outsourcing is taking place and labor costs are high, we are seeing more long-term unemployment and real structural weakness in labor market. That has had a significant effect on new entrants to the labor market."

While the spike in households doubling up is most noticeable in the U.S., the trend has been surging in Europe and Japan since the 1980s, when labor laws were liberalized, allowing companies to hire people part-time and on short-term contracts for the first time, Newman notes.

"Older people were politically powerful and able to protect themselves so the burden (of changing laws) fell on shoulders of those entering the labor market," Newman said. "Ultimately it will be felt by everybody, but for 20 years or so young people have been on the receiving end of this."

In so-called "weak welfare states" such as Italy, Spain and Japan, where there’s less support for higher education, "we see family stepping in as the buffer between their children and the forces of the market," Newman explained. As a result, the number of young adults staying with family well into their late 20s and early 30s has surged. For example, 73 percent of Italian men aged 18 to 34 lived in their parents' home in 2007 (37 percent were age 30 to 34), according to Newman.

"The U.S. is really in the middle; we do provide a lot of money to help young people go to college, we do have a safety net," she added. "It's not brilliant, but we do have it -- and as a result the value of the family home as a safety net isn't as strong here as it is in other countries where there's no safety net at all."

On the other hand, in the U.S., a higher proportion of adult children are living with their parents now than at any time since the 1950s, Newman noted. College-educated adults fare better, "but even they don't look as good as they did before and their earnings have been flat and falling," she said.

What's the fallout for parents from this failure to launch? "They don't lose the role of an active parent," Newman said. "So in that sense they are sociologically younger than past generations -- that's an upside. They retain the pleasures of being a parent and lose the downside. The relationship becomes more egalitarian and less vertical."

That doesn't mean there aren't difficulties. "I have tried to set guidelines but that doesn't make much of a difference to my mom," said Samakow, who found a new job in July 2011 as an agent at a bureau representing speakers for conferences and other events. She is saving up to move out.

"I've said, 'no mom, you can't call my friends 17 times if I don't pick up my cell phone, that's inappropriate.' She doesn't want me to leave ever," Samakow said. "We're still trying to cut the umbilical cord."

Moreover, it's not a completely rosy situation for parents if young people are not making clear steps toward leaving the nest, said Newman. "We have a culture that values mobility, that believes in the work ethic and a sense of direction and goals," she noted. "As long as young people move in that direction, even if they don't get there for a long time, it's okay. But if they're in the basement playing video games, a tremendous amount of tension builds up."

The larger societal concern is whether parents are stripping retirement funds to support children longer than they had planned. Meanwhile, their adult children, who earn relatively lower wages over a shorter period in the workforce, may not have the resources to support their aged parents. "They are coming into adulthood much later, often burdened by student loans," said Newman.

The failure to launch is also resulting in lower birth rates around the world. In the decades ahead, that could be hugely problematic for social security systems, which rely on younger workers' contributions to support retirees, as well as prospects for economic growth.

"It's less obvious in the U.S. than in Japan, because we have a large immigrant population and they have children in large numbers," Newman said. "Without that we would look the same as Japan. Japan is a really old country -- and when your labor force is made up of people over age 65, that usually means a slowdown in productivity."

The accordion family is also transforming the milestones by which American culture has traditionally defined adulthood -- finishing education, getting married, having children, buying a home. Young adults interviewed for Newman's book define adulthood in psychological, rather than material, terms.

Samakow calls adulthood a work in progress. "Being independent is the thing that I associate with being an adult," she said. "I understand the importance of having my finances under control and being responsible for myself."

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"Discuss the expectation of parents and kids in terms of how you behave at home and what responsibilities they have," Newman said. "It's better to talk these things over rather than be silent and grinding your teeth behind closed doors." Groceries, cooking, laundry and tidiness can all be areas of conflict, so lay down some ground rules.

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Lindsay Samakow, 23, graduated from Penn State University in 2010 and took a job selling phone service door-to-door to small businesses. The recruiter promised she'd make a substantial commission over...
Lindsay Samakow, 23, graduated from Penn State University in 2010 and took a job selling phone service door-to-door to small businesses. The recruiter promised she'd make a substantial commission over...
 
 
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09:10 PM on 02/16/2012
I used to live w/ my 14 y.o daughter in my parent home, saved tons of money but my mom get really annoying and good paying job dry up in my town, so I decided move out to different state w/ more employment opportunity at the same time renting a reasonably priced 2 bedroom apartment in really nice neighborhood. I love my new found independent. Have to get smart in difficult circumstances, mobility is the key.
01:21 AM on 02/13/2012
Welcome to the new world folks, you have no idea how bad things are about to get.
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02:45 PM on 02/04/2012
THIS IS WHY DOC SPOCK LOGIC DIDNT WORK...........WE R A NATION OF FOOLS NOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
06:28 AM on 02/03/2012
I love the idea of multigenerational families living together. I don't know when we became so sterile and squeamish about living together outside of the nuclear family or couple. My kids, ironically, have not experienced that failure to launch, and we're all spread out at the moment as they start their working lives. But we miss each other! I look forward to the day we all live close together again, especially when the grandkids start happening.!
12:26 PM on 02/03/2012
The only drawback is the older generations in the household butting into your business regarding how you decide to raise your children and such. We had no choice but to move in with my in laws (who also have my partners grandmother living with them) after I lost my job. The biggest pain is constantly going head to head with my children's great grandmother second guessing what I decide for my own children, and getting angry when my decisions don't align with what she thinks I should do. I'm tired of the stress of it, so now my way of dealing, since she doesn't listen anyway, is not acknowledging her or speaking to her when she butts in where she is not needed, but I hate that I have to act like. My MIL and FIL are awesome though, and accept our word where the kids are concerned is indeed the final word.
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01:53 PM on 02/17/2012
It CAN work beautifully for all concerned but it really depends on the individuals. Many parents refuse to understand that their children are now adults and treat them as if they were still 6 years old. The concept of boundaries often does not exist and ultimately the adult children have no choice but to move out to protect their sanity and independence.

There are some families who are loving and respectful but not controlling. That is an ideal situation for multigenerational families to live together and reap the benefits for all.
04:37 AM on 01/29/2012
We have four generations in my house. My grandfather, my mother, my sister, myself and my niece. It works better this way. Mom is able to better care for Grandpa and we can make sure the bills are paid. Once I graduate, I plan on living at home so I can pay off my student loans and hopefully start to save for a house. Plus, I can help take care of mom and grandpa.
01:20 AM on 01/29/2012
We are a 4 generation household. My husband and I take care of my 86 year old mother who is in poor health and midway into Alzheimers. My daughter and her husband and their 23 month old daughter live with us as they have been unable to find jobs that pay enough to allow them to afford housing. The only jobs available pay just above minimum wage and a one bedroom apartment in an area you would not be afraid to live in is $1000/month or more. Since they have no insurance, their medical bills alone are horendous. It seems the majority of the jobs being created today pay $10/hr or less with little or no benefits. The worker is asked to give 100% loyalty when the employer gives none to the worker
07:43 PM on 01/28/2012
I live with three other members of my family (parent, grandma, and aunt). We all live together because we just can't afford to live separately.. Grandma is recently retired, aunt left her job due to health issues (with no income now). And I have been unemployed for about a month, with some savings, and my dad works and earns an average income. But we all do what we can to help each other get by... Until one of us wins the lottery.. we'll be like this for at least another 5+ years. I wish it was more like people here are saying that it's my generation that is doing this, but it's more than that, it's families that don't have dependable and substantial income (as , individuals). Some of my friends 'live on their own' but get money from family.which is worse in my opinion than actually living with their family because that just puts a burden on others. Also they're in massive debt (partially from student loans and not learning how to cook= fast food).
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05:17 PM on 01/24/2012
Each case is different. Some young people never grow up until forced out of the nest. Others, just don't have the ability to leave, due to all types of disabilities. Helicopter parents make it worse. When times are hard as they are today, families need to pull together. Each person needs to do their part, regardless of employment, skill sets or talents. Only in our families can we find the strength that we need when things get really tough. Throwing stones are families that have fallen on hard times isn't the right thing to do. Often times, we just don't know the entire story. If anything, we should help where we can.
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01:54 PM on 02/17/2012
What's a "helicopter" parent?
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07:33 AM on 02/21/2012
A Helicopter parent is one that hoovers over their children, controlling the majority of activities in the child's life. Example: Making career decisions for them, selecting their college for them, overseeing the majority of the action of the child's. Over involvement is the child's life.
01:24 PM on 01/24/2012
im a 23 y/o reading this article on my moms couch... smh lol
09:27 AM on 01/24/2012
People didn't have kids 20 years ago because they foresaw today's recession? I guess it will take a couple European countries breeding their culture into oblivion before we wake up to our destructive contraceptive policies.
08:36 AM on 01/24/2012
And if living with parents is not an option, for whatever reason, people are living with roommates, sometimes many roommates. Keep voting Republican, people, and watch it get worse. Where are the children of these kids going to live?
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05:02 PM on 01/28/2012
Funny but when Republicans were running things somehow we were better off.
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It's been lovely!
10:03 AM on 01/29/2012
Until the Republicans ran us to the ground..now it will take many years to repair but the expectations are for the current president to fix everything in 4 years.
10:09 AM on 01/31/2012
Not true. It was a facade. You might have thought that but the Republicans were selling us out to other countries.
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10:49 PM on 01/23/2012
This is the new America! People moving in together to save money and people renting out rooms in their homes to make the mortgage payment.

I know several people who work for one of the largest banks in the US, some were awarded with gift cards to Goodwill? I didn't even realize Goodwill had gift cards.
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tomteboda
01:47 PM on 02/17/2012
This was the old American paradigm as well.
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10:49 PM on 01/23/2012
Family is life, family who are not there for one another in bad or good time is not really a family.
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Tom Rowland
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10:40 PM on 01/23/2012
I think another reason for this is all the "built in expenses" that kids have when they're trying to move out of mom and dad's versus previous generations...this is the first generation where cell-phones (and their expensive plans), computers, internet connections, laptops, ipads, ipods, video games, and so on, are just sort of the norm, and young adults have had them all their lives and just sorta expect that that's how it's "supposed to be"...not that that's their fault, nor is it all of them, but those things add to initial living expenses that didn't exist a generation ago--more than doubling the cost of living...it even seems like cars, by and large, are considered "part of the package" along with all those other things that young adults just really can't or don't know how to do without, and with cars come payments, insurance, gas, tolls (for some in cities) and all that...the last 20 years have seen extreme changes in consumer/household devices, and this generation is the first to deal with how to make it all happen as soon as they're into the "real world"...and to top it all off, the economy is in the dumpster and decent paying jobs aren't even close to guaranteed, even for the college educated.
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11:53 AM on 01/24/2012
Exactly, Tom.
08:42 AM on 01/27/2012
Exactly Justin.

My 26 year old just moved out. She had to pay off her student loan, then save for 1st and last month's rent and while getting her BSN, (tution) pay for car insurance, gas, food, utilities and wake up to the fact that if she wanted to live in a safe area she would need a roommate, even on her LVN salary. It can be done but family like the old days is extremely important again. I pity the kids whose parents think they don't need to do anything after the kid turns 18. Not really becuase it means less competition for my kid!
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doctor pangloss
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10:21 PM on 01/23/2012
When times were tough I enlisted in the army and got stuck in a war ,but when I got out I took any job that was available,moved out of the house,worked like a dog,joined a union,got free lifetime, medical, dental,and pension,because we demanded it for giving the best years of our lives to the corporation ,got dirt under my fingernails from physical exertion went to college at night, built today's communication infrstructure and continued to work till Social Security retirement age. And now I am free to troll the net 24/7.
So today's parents should kick out the free loaders and force them to grow up.
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12:10 AM on 01/24/2012
I take any job that is available, but these days, there are no jobs available, and for those that do have a job, they get nothing beyond pay despite giving their all to the corporation. I agree that parents should kick out the free loaders and force them to grow up, but parents should also recognize when their children are responsible and industrious and struggling despite their best efforts and cut them some slack.
08:37 AM on 01/24/2012
Because you demanded it AND a democratically inclined government backed you up. Now, government is busting unions, and union jobs have gone overseas, anyway. You're a dinosaur. Your life choices are gone for younger people. Wake up and stop being so self-satisfied.
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doctor pangloss
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04:01 PM on 01/24/2012
Dinosaurs rule. Young people have to fight for their jobs,dignity,and living wages,just like the dinosaurs did.