02/22/2012 12:02 pm ET

Michelle And Jim Bob Duggar Miscarriage: Why They Filmed Their Heartbreak

Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar of "19 Kids and Counting" fame were devastated when they lost their 20th child five months into Michelle's pregnancy. At the time, the couple shared their sad news via a media statement, which made it even more surprising when it was revealed that the miscarriage would be documented on their reality show.

"The kids [are] back home with super grandma," Michelle told me while visiting New York with just Jim Bob. "We have grieved and cried a lot. We don't grieve for those who have no hope. We will see her again."

Explaining why they decided to have the camera around during the distressing time, Michelle and Jim Bob say they did it to help others.

"Three years ago, my dad passed away," Jim Bob says. "We thought filming would help those that have gone through loss."

"We have precious memories of sweet Jubilee," added Michelle.

Spending Valentine’s Day in New York without the children, the couple went to see the musical Godspell and have dinner. But Michelle explains that even when it's not a holiday, they keep their marriage fresh by having date night once a week in the afternoon or evenings when Grandma can look after the babies.