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Broken Hearts Are Truly Painful, Research Shows

Broken Heart Pain

The Huffington Post   First Posted: 02/23/2012 5:34 pm Updated: 02/23/2012 5:34 pm

If you've ever gone through extreme grief, a rough divorce or a break-up, you'll know this to be true: that aching feeling in your heart truly hurts, and now research backs it up.

New research, published in the journal Current Directions in Psychological Science, examines a number of studies to find that social pain and rejection are quite real. One study showed that brain activity is similar in people when they talk about both moments of social rejection and physical pain.

"We were sitting next to each other and noticed how similar the two brain images looked," study researcher Naomi Eisenberger of the University of Califiornia-Los Angeles said in a statement. She noted that this could be because some of the same brain regions process both physical and social pain.

Researchers found in another study that people sensitive to physical pain also feel social pain more deeply. In that instance, people with a high physical pain sensitivity were more likely to feel rejected after participating in a social exclusion experiment.

And in another study, researchers found that people who took Tylenol for three weeks were also less likely to report having any hurt feelings during the time period than people who took a placebo. Eisenberger said she doesn't think it's a good idea for people to take a painkiller for social pain, but she thought the finding was interesting -- particularly because "we take Tylenol for physical pain; it's not supposed to work on social pain."

Earlier this year, a study was published in the journal Circulation showing that broken hearts could actually lead to a higher risk of heart attack, with heart attack risk being 21 times higher than normal on the day of a bereavement.

That study, which included 2,000 people, also showed that heart attack risk is six times higher than normal during the first week after the day of bereavement.

And then of course, there's the actual broken heart syndrome, also known as stress cardiomyopathy. With this condition, heart muscles are weakened because of extreme stress (like that which comes from grief), the Chicago Tribune reported. The condition is most common among post-menopausal women.

"I think that this is one of those diseases that clearly points to the fact that there is a connection between emotions and physical health," Dr. Annabelle Volgman, medical director of Rush University Medical Center's Heart Center for Women, told the Chicago Tribune.

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If you've ever gone through extreme grief, a rough divorce or a break-up, you'll know this to be true: that aching feeling in your heart truly hurts, and now research backs it up. New research, pu...
If you've ever gone through extreme grief, a rough divorce or a break-up, you'll know this to be true: that aching feeling in your heart truly hurts, and now research backs it up. New research, pu...
 
 
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05:41 PM on 04/28/2012
how do you stop the pain? Please dont tell me time...... i have heard that a million times.
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Xylem44
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11:12 PM on 02/28/2012
No kidding! So my emergency room visit two days after my big break-up may be related? Now I'm ever more upset with him.
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03:29 PM on 02/28/2012
No it isn't. Get a grip.
02:16 PM on 02/28/2012
The only reason that I do not stab my heart with a nife or poke my eyes out is that I do not want to feel the same pain over again. Once is enough for a life time to a mortal man for love lost.
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willowtree3
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08:59 AM on 02/28/2012
Woman and men have known about this for years but I don't know if research $$
were wasted on it or not . Research facts? I guess.
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Connie Markley Boppre
10:00 AM on 02/27/2012
oh yes. being "broken-hearted" is much more than an emotional pain
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sbrannon
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05:12 PM on 02/26/2012
I told my ex that my heart hurts and he said, "how old are you?" then my heart broke more. I'm over it now, thank god.
09:53 AM on 02/27/2012
Sounds like a lucky escape.
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sbrannon
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05:44 AM on 02/28/2012
Yeah on his end. My heart turned a bit "colder" I am not so soft anymore.
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Xylem44
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11:08 PM on 02/28/2012
Iucky escape indeed... Thanks for sharing that saying.... I think I will borrow it.
04:30 PM on 02/26/2012
Not only hurts, it actually breaks. When I discovered my partner of ten years was cheating ... and knew the relationship was over, I could actually hear my heart "crack" ..... it made a most astonishing little noise which I've never heard .... before or since. And I realized where the term "broken heart" must have come from. Years ago someone must have felt exactly that same odd noise and thought their heart had indeed broken,

Mine did. But it healed. And I understood that the flow of my life needed what followed .... in terms of so many positive things. My life opened like a flower.
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04:00 PM on 02/26/2012
Life unfortunately is about heartbreak and disappointment. Anything we put an emotional investment in and it doesn't turn out the way we want we get stressed/depressed.

The teaching lesson from the saga of heartbreak is to remind a person that:
1. You're a complete person by yourself. You don't need another person to make you complete.
2. The odds that you'll match up with a person that is dedicated in making your life better is low. (See divorce rates, the myth about co-habitation and happiness)
3. As it is written, "The heart is a deceitful and wicked thing". More bad decisions are made listening to one's heart than anything else. (Jeremiah 17:9)

Don't mean to sound pessimistic but an individual should expect that their love interest or "soul mate" is going to let them down. The divorce rates and issues in co-habitation bear this out. The fact in love songs the man usually screws it up, should warn a woman that the guy that you're so in love with is going to let you down. The history of relationships dictates that it’s best to love yourself and God with all your heart and soul. Best to wait on that spiritual connection rather than proclaiming, "I know in my heart that this is right." Your heart is setting you up to laugh at you when you're crying (Jeremiah 17:9)
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01:54 PM on 12/26/2012
I am watching someone I love destroy every good thing in his life because he is "following his heart" instead of using his head. I can't reach him with anything I say or do. He's losing his wife and child chasing after a woman who is pushing him to leave a marriage that was good before he strayed. His only complaint about his wife is that she is a beautiful woman, a wonderful wife and an excellent mother. He says she didn't do anything wrong. It's just that he loves this new woman more than he's ever loved anyone in his life, even his own child. He admits it's all his fault for letting it happen, but he says he's powerless to stop it.

Our family is horrified by the damage he's doing to his home with this affair, and his wife is just destroyed by this. If she leaves, I just know that this thing with the new woman will run it's course and fizzle out in a few months like every other relationship he's ever had, and he'll be left with nothing. This was the one good woman he's found and she's stuck by him for eleven years. If it was an unhappy marriage I'd understand. But he's walking away from a perfectly good marriage on a hope that this new woman is "the one".

I'm going to share this Bible verse with them because I too believe that only God is faithful. Men...not so much.
03:59 PM on 02/26/2012
I know the feeling, am going throigh it right now. Won't bore anyone with the story but there didn't have to be a study done on this. Even the ancient Egyptians valued the human heart over the brain.
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11:09 PM on 02/28/2012
Sending peace vibes in your direction.... Was just in that neighborhood myself.
02:21 PM on 02/26/2012
Lets hope our government didn't spend 30 million dollars to research this. Any 3rd grader could have told us that, a broken heart actually creates physical pain.
06:00 PM on 02/26/2012
Haha. I laughed out loud at this. I agree.
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02:13 PM on 02/26/2012
Hurts like hell ..
02:03 PM on 02/26/2012
Its not so much pain as discomfort. For me, when my mind circles around to a special memory and then connects it with "i will never have that opportunity again" its as if ice water is pumping outward from heart combined with a nausea. It happened when I lost the love of my life at 30 and felt just the same when after having my best dog put to sleep 20 yrs later.
03:30 PM on 02/26/2012
I know when I lost my first love to suicide, my heart truly was feeling hurting me. I felt the pain. It took a very long time before that pain went away. So I do believe that you feel pain with a broken heart.
04:40 PM on 02/26/2012
Yes, there is a physical reaction to emotional chaos and it seems to come at us all differently.
01:59 PM on 02/26/2012
Broken heart pain....So true. When my son's ashes were tossed into the river according to his wishes, I felt as though a knife was piercing my heart. For a few seconds, I thought I was dying.
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01:09 PM on 02/27/2012
:( So sorry.
12:50 PM on 02/26/2012
Anyone who has truely been heart broken already knew this...
03:13 PM on 02/26/2012
Anyone who has ever had a broken heart can tell you it hurts like someone is ripping your soul from you
07:54 PM on 02/26/2012
That is correct!