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Susana Martinez Hairstylist Troubles Prompted By Chris Christie Gay Marriage Veto

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First Posted: 02/24/2012 4:30 pm Updated: 02/24/2012 4:47 pm

WASHINGTON -- The hairstylist who refused to cut New Mexico Gov. Susana Martinez's hair out of anger toward her opposition to same-sex marriage says that it was another governor's rigidity on the issue that inspired his bout of non-violent protest.

Antonio Darden, an openly gay 46-year-old Santa Fe resident, said he never expected that his decision to decline his governor's request for an appointment would garner national attention. But when he rejected Martinez's ask for another shoulder-length bob, he became an unsuspecting symbol of the fight for LGBT rights.

Darden told The Huffington Post that he has received an "outpouring of support beyond belief and from as far away as Hong Kong." His salon has received a wave of calls for appointments. He's even heard from fellow hairstylists, including one in Toronto, who claim that they would follow suit and not accept clients who publicly opposed marriage equality.

"It makes me think more, why don’t gay people, because of the service industry we provide, start doing the same thing and get our rights," he said. "We are not asking for something outrageous."

None of it would have happened if not for Chris Christie, the Republican governor of New Jersey. Darden had known that Martinez opposed marriage equality but had been willing to cut her hair regardless. It was only when the governor was asked about Christie's opposition to a bill legalizing same sex marriage in New Jersey -- and responded that she would oppose a similar bill in New Mexico -- that he chose to speak out.

"Christie in Jersey is one of the reasons I went to the news," he said, adding that he was additionally irked that the governor would lower the flag to half-mast for Whitney Houston (who Darden likes) but not support the "hundreds of thousands of gay people who are denied their rights."

Darden made two calls. The first was to Martinez's office. "I called and left her a lengthy message. I was so upset with her. I said, 'You should be ashamed with yourself,'" he said. "I just couldn't believe she said it. I said no. We don’t have to do it. If we are good enough to do a service for you, we should be good enough for equality."

The second call was to a local television station in Santa Fe, encouraging reporters to look into the governor's position. That, in turn, led to a story that he had declined requests by the governor's aides to schedule an appointment. What followed clearly illustrates how even the most provincial of news items can quickly turn into a national story. The political press corps -- already closely following gay rights issues across states -- rushed to report the colorful anecdote.

Darden, whose been in a relationship for 15 years, is not a novice when it comes to political battles. He started a coalition against hate crimes in Santa Fe in the mid 1990s when he himself was attacked. He worked with the offices of Govs. Gary Johnson and Bill Richardson to advance legislation and helped organize protests. Tucking away his clippers over same sex marriage, however, was this first foray into civil disobedience.

"I do believe we should be able to refuse the service," he said. "If our equal rights are being violated, I think I should refuse the service."

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WASHINGTON -- The hairstylist who refused to cut New Mexico Gov. Susana Martinez's hair out of anger toward her opposition to same-sex marriage says that it was another governor's rigidity on the issu...
WASHINGTON -- The hairstylist who refused to cut New Mexico Gov. Susana Martinez's hair out of anger toward her opposition to same-sex marriage says that it was another governor's rigidity on the issu...
 
 
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10:01 PM on 02/26/2012
You go, Susana!
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Asmodean1
Truth is only true if based on facts.
10:41 AM on 02/27/2012
At the next election? I completely agree with you! Out with Susana Martinez!
12:32 PM on 02/27/2012
Wrong answer, she'll win her next election and Proposition 8 will be approved by the Supreme Court.
05:59 PM on 02/27/2012
Hopefully, she'll go back to the prejudiced hole she crawled out of.
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07:53 AM on 02/26/2012
This is a very good example of why this is a civil rights issue. The New Mexico Governor is perfectly willing to defend that a gay person has the equal right to give her a haircut or to otherwise do her bidding as any straight person, but still maintain that the same gay person is not quite equal enough to be accorded the full measure of their Constitutional rights to equality. Christians somehow believe they can Constitutionally hold this untenable view. Isn't that the exact same rationale used to required blacks to serve during WWII, but to continue to deny them access to all sorts of basic rights? Yes, it is.
01:32 PM on 02/27/2012
This is not civil rights issue. blacks are born blacks. being a lesbian or gay is a choice.
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HeliosOne
03:13 PM on 02/27/2012
How do you know?
06:00 PM on 02/27/2012
Is being straight a choice? The AMA and the APA don't agree with you. I'll trust the experts. In the meantime, seek knowledge as you desperately need it.
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gayandmarried
05:06 AM on 02/26/2012
christie COULD have just not vetoed it and let it become law , and still hold on to his position ,, but NO
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dancerctry
I love Gardening and Decorating
11:03 AM on 02/27/2012
I'm from NJ and agree with you (i'm strait). He has a right to his views but it's not being a good leader to let them get in the way of your job. I would have loved to take part in this sudden "most states not in the bible belt are passing gay marriage bills which is awesome" trend.
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John Shuck
Properly used, profanity is punctuation.
02:00 AM on 02/26/2012
Memo to Governor Christie and others opposing fundamental rights: This is how to be a stand up guy. Since you cannot seem to lead, then at least have the compassion to follow a good idea.
01:34 PM on 02/27/2012
Go Christie. bad idea, bad values sin against the bible. send them all to an island in russia nd rejoice in the cold air. maybe the cold air will purify these these these sinners.
06:01 PM on 02/27/2012
The bible is a book of fairy tales and you are delusional.
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John Shuck
Properly used, profanity is punctuation.
02:28 PM on 03/01/2012
You're makin' my point...........
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ZeraLee
A Citizen's View from Main Street
01:33 AM on 02/26/2012
They're right, it does get better.
pillgirl
Obama/Biden 2012
11:09 PM on 02/25/2012
why call this civil disobedience? its a protest yet, but disobedience, no.
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BooBoo Bob
Snark is my life.
10:53 AM on 02/26/2012
It's called civil disobedience because someone could technically sue for discrimination. They'd lose, but they could sue.
08:42 PM on 02/25/2012
American Hero!
08:10 PM on 02/25/2012
Support from Durham, NC!!
pasquamar
respect yourself and others will respect you
06:25 PM on 02/25/2012
GOOD FOR YOU...show them what it feels like to be refused on the most basic services. great move on your part...I mean you could have given a really bad DO, but you seem better than that!
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Zork4
You can have your own opinion, not your own facts.
12:02 PM on 02/26/2012
Like Jan Brewer's hairstylist, you mean.
pasquamar
respect yourself and others will respect you
12:23 PM on 02/26/2012
ROFL, never thought of that, but YES!
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mollynova
Oh, Toto! Where did our democracy go?
06:19 PM on 02/25/2012
More power to him. It takes a lot of bravery to stand up and say "No" (for any reason). The fear factor is so high because you don't know what will happen when you do make a stand. The great thing is, once you've done it, you feel so empowered!
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oakspondman
Proud US Veteran
09:16 PM on 02/25/2012
Its time for all deniers of equal rights to be told NO.
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mollynova
Oh, Toto! Where did our democracy go?
09:31 PM on 02/26/2012
Great comment!!
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outloud
Illegitimi non carborundum
05:23 PM on 02/25/2012
I have stated this before but it bears repeating....

Wouldn't it be revealing to the country if on one day all GLBTQ folks just didn't show up to work?

Then maybe a whole lot of folks would see that we are far more in numbers than 10%. Of course, that would mean that everybody leaves the closet.
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TheBluesGuy
I'm too old to be governed by fear of dumb people.
07:25 PM on 02/25/2012
Gays are not different from any ethnic group, in that people like living around other people like them. There are concentrations of gay population that are far greater than 10 percent, and other neighborhoods where the gay population is far fewer. According to Sex In America (probably the best national study of the sexual habits of Americans) the national average is roughly 3 percent.
08:00 PM on 02/25/2012
more like 10-15% if everyone is honest about it.
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outloud
Illegitimi non carborundum
08:12 PM on 02/25/2012
Since I have done extensive personal research into this matter, I know there are a lot more than 3 or 10 %.
Only if and when everyone fully acknowledges his/her true self would we have the actual number.
For further consideration what about the confusing situation of folks being somewhere in-between completely str8 or totally same gender attracted.
Who gets to count them in their camp?
PatrioticUSGlory
Lawyer, Market Analyst, Economist
04:43 PM on 02/25/2012
Watch Republicans stop patronizing those who advocate for gay marriage.
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zeroesandones
just a regular guy
05:12 PM on 02/25/2012
And those people will be on the wrong side of history...
Years from now in the history books they will be viewed the same as those that tried to stand against the civil rights era, abolishing slavery and other sad points of history...

Change has come.. And to be on the good side you have to be on the side with equality for all...
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outloud
Illegitimi non carborundum
05:20 PM on 02/25/2012
Fine by me.
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neogejo
04:43 PM on 02/25/2012
You go Antonio!
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Op2mystic1
Life is short, and only YOU can make it worthwhile
04:18 PM on 02/25/2012
He should have said, "I'm sorry I am unable to set and appointment for you until further notice as I am booked up solid due to an on-going special for Gay people and their supporters."
PatrioticUSGlory
Lawyer, Market Analyst, Economist
04:37 PM on 02/25/2012
Yes, lying is what works best on his side.
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John Shuck
Properly used, profanity is punctuation.
02:03 AM on 02/26/2012
Yes, your side is honest as the day is long....in Anchorage in December.
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BooBoo Bob
Snark is my life.
10:57 AM on 02/26/2012
Seems to be working for the conservative right...

For now...