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'Sarah,' Teen Reddit User, Threatens Suicide If Maryland High School Won't Take Action Against Cyber-Bullying

Posted: Updated: 03/18/2012 8:44 pm

Cyberbullying

Administrators at Arundel High School in Gambrills, Maryland are reportedly working to address a widespread cyber bullying problem at the school after a student posted a note to Reddit threatening suicide if no action was taken to stop a popular student from bullying his classmates online, the Annapolis Capital Gazette reports.

A student calling herself "Sarah" posted a 500-word note to Reddit on Wednesday under the heading "The cyber bullying has gotten to the point where the school will not take any action unless I kill myself. Reddit- how do I get my story out and make this stop?"

In the note, Sarah alleges that high school administrators continually failed to address her and other students' complaints that a male student was verbally attacking students in person and on Twitter, particularly targeting those involved in the school's Gay Straight Alliance.

"I am not asking for therapy, but help in gaining momentum," Sarah wrote in the Reddit post. "Since the beginning of the school year, I have been harassed both in person and online by the school’s ‘bully.’ It is hard to use the word because almost everyone knows and loves him."

"The bullying isn't worthy of school attention unless I die," she said later in the post.

Sarah posted excerpts from messages she says she received from the bully, which she and other students captured by screenshot and submitted to administrators:

"Life has its ups, and you have the Downs. Please do us a favor, and fucking drown" -- A poem dedicated to Sarah.

"I have AP Lit in the morning. Sarah, if you say a single word, you are getting choked" (I am the only person in the class who will participate in discussions without being forced).

"I was to roofie Sarah"

"Sarah has a boyfriend and I'm still single? Time to die"

"Sarah for biggest slut. Go die"

Less than 12 hours after the note was posted to Reddit, it had already received over 4,000 comments urging Sarah to get help, according to the Capital Gazette. In the meantime, administrators at Anundel High School started receiving a flood of emails and letters from people all over the country expressing concern for the school's students.

Principal Sharon Stratton told the Capitol Gazette that she was unwilling to address particulars of the case but confirmed to the paper that the Reddit post was indeed genuine and that she addressed the issue.

Sarah updated her Reddit post saying that school administrators were now working with her and other students to find a solution to the current problem and work out a larger plan to prevent cyberbullying and respond to complaints.

"[School administrators] might be able to do something about it, which is amazing, because I wasn't expecting it at all," Sarah wrote in an update to her post. "I'm still shocked that many of the school officials were just now learning about this kid, but I know now that they know: every body knows. Nothing can happen immediately, but the process is starting and consequences will happen."

See the full Reddit post by Sarah here and read the Annapolis Capitol Gazette's report for more on the story.

Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

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04:26 PM on 04/18/2012
Any action being taken agains administrators that ignored this child for so long, despite her pleas for help? There are so many stories out there about kids who have reached out to their administrators and teachers for help, but didn't get the help until it was either too late or they've taken extreme action. I'm glad Sarah got the help she needed, but she should have gotten it a lot sooner. Shame on the administrators.
09:54 PM on 04/12/2012
Watch the movie HIDDEN RAGE and also LIKE the facebook page.

The movie is a powerful film about Bullying. Is a MUST SEE for everyone and for schools to have a copy.


http://hiddenrage.com/


MOVIE: HIDDEN RAGE
11:46 PM on 06/29/2012
This movie will be out on DVD everywhere (Amazon, Walmart, Netflix) on July 17, if you haven't seen it. http://issuu.com/cnews/docs/palmetto_6.26/25?viewMode=presentation
05:35 AM on 03/21/2012
Oh Dear, I am so old. Still haven't really figured twitter out. Now,what the heck is Reddit?
08:20 AM on 03/22/2012
Reddit is a different kind of social site. Everyone is anonymous and has user name handles, and users post a collection of anything from funny pictures, to articles, and even questions to the entire community (like this thread of Sarah's) Posts are upvoted and downvoted depending on how the community feels about them (are they funny? interesting? etc.) and posts have places for personal comments, which are typically used as advice, to correct something in the post itself or simply to make jokes about the post.

This particular post of Sarah's made it to the front page, which in the community is a big deal. Its on the list of the first 25 posts you see on the website when you open it. Anyone can read these posts, but you need a user name (which is free) in order to comment or submit. Its a very basic format, so if you ever want to check it out, you don't have to worry about "friending" people, but expect to see a lot of inside jokes inside the community that you probably won't get unless you participate for at least a few days lol
06:35 PM on 03/22/2012
Thanks! Sounds very good, I'll check it out.
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AntithiChrist
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11:18 PM on 05/18/2012
Excellent instruction!
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Skulander
12:24 AM on 03/20/2012
Seriously, the fact that it took THIS MUCH for the school to actually do something about this is truly disturbing. Is this how the U.S. treats its children? And why are there no consequences NOW, since the student is obviously known and everyone is aware of the situation? Or does no one cares because he was targeting students in a GSA alliance so this sort of bullying was deemed acceptable by school authorities? (And of course that's B.S.: no bullying is EVER acceptable, regardless of its form.)

Seriously, this is truly shameful. I bow low before the courage of this young woman and I HOPE that for heaven's sake those who CAN take action WILL take action. Not doing anything in this case is unacceptable.
05:47 PM on 03/19/2012
Cyberbullying is quickly turning into an excessive form of bullying. What makes cyberbullying so much more different than other types of bullying is that, with the help of today’s technology, you can harass anyone from anywhere at anytime. I, personally, think that cyberbullying should be more focused on, and helped reduced. Several factors go into my opinion. First of all, like all bullying, it hurts kids’ self-esteem, and can eventually lead to them doing something dangerous to themselves, or others. Also, a study by The Cyberbully Research Center shows that 83% of kids from 10-18 have a cell phone, and 51% of kids have a Facebook.
Cyberbullying not only affects the people who are harassed,, but it can also lead to have a long term affect on a person. Soon, they start to become social outcasts. After all this is over, they start to feel as if they should be the bully. They might start to look for kids to bully. Surely, this kid will most likely be caught due to the age-old expression “It’s always the second person to get caught.” This can cause anger for the kid, who can turn into a physical and mental bully. Overall for the bullied kid, they come to one conclusion, to commit suicide. Although, it’s not the best way out, most kids will think of it as the only way. Someone needs to stand up and put a stop to this before it gets that far.
02:25 PM on 03/19/2012
Welcome to electronic reality. We have enough problems in schools as is, NOW we want teachers and schools to monitor what kids are saying online??? Turn off the dang computers!!! It's very, very easy for people to bully, stalk, harrass, name call, SHOUT, etc. behind a keyboard....get off the social networking, use the internet for research purposes or whatnot, quit reading other peoples facebook walls and create drama when you see something posted about you. If problems IN REAL LIFE occurr, video it, record it....then take legal action. Cyber world is just that, words on a screen....you CAN shut it out.
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Blaze Burton
Who are you to judge the way i live? I know im not
04:47 PM on 03/19/2012
so only popular people should use the internet?
04:54 PM on 03/19/2012
Missing the point. I'm saying quit going to places where you know bully is posting threats. Anyone is more than welcome to have an email address (block someone who has hacked your account), Facebook... but allow only selected people to view your wall...not the entire universe. Share friendships with people who would not allow threatening, rude comments about you on their wall. Just quit following the bullies lead...and going where he/she is directing you. Otherwise, every other week we're going to have teens committing suicide from 'reading' threats on the internet. Real life threats at school etc. is a whole nuther ballgame. Get it?
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metalheadgirl
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02:06 PM on 03/19/2012
I feel sorry for kids today, now not only do they have to deal with bullying kids in school, they have the ability to humiliate these kids exponentially online. I can't help but wonder what the feckless administrators would do if it was their own children being treated this way. Having experience with this myself as a parent, I can only say that unless you raise holy hell about this, they won't do anything. AND you must have open dialog with your children, who can be reluctant to share the torture they go through everyday.
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Cindy Neoneighteen
10:59 AM on 03/20/2012
Kids do go through torture every day and as parents we have to hold our kids closer now than ever before. Fake facxebook pages are so easy to make..a bully did that to my son. I friended him and reported him and the kid left the school the next day. It is a private school so instead of taking the ounishment- he left. But it was a great example to the rest of the school who ALL know what is going on. Cyber - bullies have to be exposed but it is such an easy tool for them, out of school. Then the kid who is bullied has to go to school while the entire community is LOL behind the childs back...so cruel,. Every school should have a policy for cyber-bullying and you can now use the court system. Get a lawyer and file a civil law suit,
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metalheadgirl
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10:13 AM on 03/22/2012
That was a good result for you, my daughter was in a private school being bullied by a child in her class as well, but that parent had 3 children in the school as opposed to my "one", triple the tuition and the school admins did nothing but pander to her and her brat. A little talking too, implying that my daughter was somehow encouraging it...etc. But she is lucky because she has a very strong sense of self, and didn't let it get her down. I firmly believe that NO child should ruin another's experience in school. It's sad, and I do believe that it starts at home. If parents don't educate their children about how to behave, how to treat people, then they are not doing their jobs as parents. That being said, the school is the last line of defense for these kids, barring legal action, which is a last resort.
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ckevinbaldwin
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01:52 PM on 03/19/2012
There are MANY of them and one of him. How does he get "popular" if most kids can't stand him?
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metalheadgirl
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02:10 PM on 03/19/2012
Mob mentality.
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Blaze Burton
Who are you to judge the way i live? I know im not
04:41 PM on 03/19/2012
How long has it been since you were in a High School?
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Penelope Pitstop
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01:36 PM on 03/19/2012
If I were Sarah's Mom I'd take her off of all social networks, she's too young and needs to focus on her school work
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Blaze Burton
Who are you to judge the way i live? I know im not
04:42 PM on 03/19/2012
How do you know what her grades are like? She has a right to use the internet just as much as the bully but your advocating punishing her?
05:03 PM on 03/19/2012
Let her use the internet all she wants. Just NOT to go in search of places where the bully is posting. Change your email address, allow only select people to view your facebook page, etc. Think in terms of real life....if you knew the bully was around the corner planning threats on you and talking about you, would you keep going around the corner to listen up??? It's really not hard, unfortunately these kids are allowing simple hate filled 'typing' to rule their lives. It takes strength to avoid reading things being said about you, but, if you truly want to retain your sanity....quit following the leader. Real life threats, bullying etc. is different and should be treated as such.
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Penelope Pitstop
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08:15 AM on 03/20/2012
so it's better to let her kill herself? I don't think so..time for the internet to go away.
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mattwilliams512
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03:30 PM on 03/20/2012
She's in Advanced Placement Literature, so I'd say she must be pretty darn bright!
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Ender Wiggin
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01:10 PM on 03/19/2012
i'm loving watching reddit learn to flex its muscles...it's kind of like when /b/ woke up and realized the power of the internet hate machine.
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michelleobamaok
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12:44 PM on 03/19/2012
GROWN MAN USES POLICE to record bullying, stalking, and killing kid:

http://www.justicefortrayvonmartin.com/Activism/index.html
12:33 PM on 03/19/2012
Sarah should try and become friends with the other kids who are being bullied as well as those who submitted the screenshot so she knows she's not alone and so she has something to live for. There's safety and strength in numbers.
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JKing106
06:13 PM on 03/19/2012
What Sarah should really do is make friends with the other bullied kids, take them all to Walmart, each one buy a baseball bat, and then go beat the living **** out of said bully. Problem solved.
04:06 PM on 03/21/2012
Except there is the possibility that the bully became a bully due to being bullied and so violence might push THEM to suicide or worse instead.
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PrettyBaBy
Just let me live my life!
11:20 AM on 03/19/2012
If this happened on school grounds, why are they allowed on social networking sites at all? The school computers should have a firewall, blocking them from anything that distracts them from learning. I think the bully posts just as often from home, and afterall, he wasn't born a bully. Before we demand recourse from the school, we should take a closer look at the parents and THEIR responsibilities. Even if he made all the posts from home, he is probably breaking a code of conduct or SOME kind of bullying law on the campus. They should work hand in hand to punish this doofus, send him to the bad school.
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Blaze Burton
Who are you to judge the way i live? I know im not
04:44 PM on 03/19/2012
Do you really think that computers are the only way to acess social networks? What the bully did can be done over most cell phones (which most high schoolers have) and numerous other devices.
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PrettyBaBy
Just let me live my life!
01:35 PM on 03/21/2012
Then blame the PARENTS that bought the kid a phone!
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11:10 AM on 03/19/2012
Sarah. Sucide would be the worst possible response by you. The bully is actually insecure and jealous of you. If you die, the bully wins. You need to stand up straight and realize how pathetic this person really is. If you really want to make a statement on bullies you do it by living a life of purpose and direction. Fight for yourself Sarah, don't let the bully win.
11:07 AM on 03/19/2012
Its time to take a stand for whats right, like we did not long ago, my son has been bullied all thru school starting in the 3rd grade. The teachers and principal have been notified repeatedly, the schools policy on fighting is to suspend everyone envolved, and he loves school and doesnt want be suspended or get any one in trouble, but after hearing the last event, a kid grabing him by his hair and making him pick up something off the ground, i told him next time someone calls you a name or puts their hands on you,( in a bullying manner) you punch them as hard as you can right in the nose and ask any one watching if they would like to call him any more names, then the real fight is going to start, the school will try to suspend him for fighting, not defending him self, thats when you will hear a news story about a school being sued, for saying a student doesnt have the right to defend him self aginst bullying. ps im going to take disneyland for standing up for him self
11:32 AM on 03/19/2012
Sadly, your son will suffer the consequences for punching another student. Violence is not the answer, though at the time, it seems the right way. Please, please seek alternative counseling for another way to handle this problem.
11:38 AM on 03/19/2012
bull...I dont condone bullying, but at some point, if a person is able, the best defense is to give it back. If you want to be a pushover pacificst, do it and be happy, but dont expect everyone else to "roll over" and"play nice". As with everything, there is a "middle ground"...you try the "walking away" and "reasonable effort" and "reporting it" etc., and when that all fails, then you do what is necessary to preserve your own saftey and sanity. Sorry that you have trouble with reality.
12:09 PM on 03/19/2012
theres a time and place to fight back,my son is in councling to bad the only councling the bully will ever get is a hard punch in the face. if only japan and germany could have talked to a counsler ww11 would of never happened . theres a time when words wont work and you have to kick some ass. the liberal society says if your being robbed give them what they want , but its my and everybodys god given rite to fight back and let the cards fall where they may, when people start fighting back these stories wont be so common
MHT73
words matter
04:01 PM on 03/25/2012
Here's an alternative response to physical bullying: Teach your child that his response has to be loud and SPECIFIC. Not - let go! or worse, "cut that out!" but, Let go of my arm! or You're breaking my arm!!

When a teacher looks, they need to know exactly where to look, or they'll miss it. If they miss it, they have an excuse to do nothing.
05:50 PM on 03/25/2012
kids are way smarter than to do the bullying when teachers are around,we have tried all the tricks to get them to stop, now were going to try it the old school way, because the kinder gentler way hasnt worked