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Dara-Lynn Weiss, Author Of Vogue Article 'Weight Watchers,' Signs Book Deal

The Huffington Post  |  By Posted: 03/26/2012 7:26 pm Updated: 03/28/2012 10:59 am

Is "Weight Watchers" by Dara-Lynn Weiss, a mother who put her 7-year-old daughter on a diet, really "the worst Vogue article ever"? According to Jezebel, it is, and the author deserves the backlash she's faced over the past week, all of which is about to be magnified. Weiss, a Manhattan socialite, has landed a book deal, Mediabistro's GalleyCat reports, and the tentative title is perhaps as controversial as the original article: "The Heavy."

In the piece, featured in Vogue's "Shape" issue, Weiss recounts what it was like to realize her young daughter “had grown fat.” Given that childhood obesity is a growing epidemic in America –- according to the CDC, it's tripled in 30 years –- Weiss's concern with her daughter’s health isn't what's drawn attention. Several bloggers question her methods, including Babycenter's Britni Danielle who points out that "Weiss took things to the extreme, sometimes refusing to give her daughter dinner and often becoming irate when she ate 'bad' snacks."

In her scathing indictment of Weiss's article, Jezebel's Katie J.M. Baker also points out that it's alarming to see Weiss exposing her daughter, in a detailed essay, complete with posed portraits of mother and daughter in designer clothes. "The ickiness of the essay is only overshadowed by the accompanying photos, in which Weiss and her now-slender daughter — who even Weiss admits is traumatized by the events of the past year — don miniskirts and giggle girlishly over tea," Baker writes.

The diet Weiss chose for Bea, Dr. Joanna Dolgoff's "Red Light, Green Light, Eat Right" method, is generally touted for being similar to Weight Watchers' simple approach -- a red light for foods you aren't allowed to eat, green for those you can. But Weiss describes the personal agony that went along with her daughter's yearlong adherence to the program. "Everyone supports the mission, but no one seems to approve of my methods," she admits and then goes on to mention her own exhaustion: "It is grating to have someone constantly complain of being hungry, or refuse to eat what she's supposed to, month after month."

Baker was surprised to find that Bea's point of view was mentioned at all, in the midst of her mother's rant. Weiss wrote:

"For Bea, the achievement is bittersweet. When I ask her if she likes how she looks now, if she's proud of what she's accomplished, she says yes ... Even so, the person she used to be still weighs on her."

A blogger on NYMag.com's The Cut pinpoints why the article has tugged at so many parents' heartstrings. She, too, has a 7-year-old daughter and wrote her response under the pseudonym Mom De Guerre because she says she would never put her child's well-being at stake the way Weiss has. "I can attest to the ways in which children are a mirror for our worst fears about ourselves," she writes. And Mom hopes that if her children ever do face a weight issue, she'd approach the issue in a similar vein as HuffPost blogger Janell Burley Hofmann -- an honest, self-accepting response.

Now, with a memoir on the horizon, Bea will forever be the subject of "an experience that epitomizes the modern parenting 'damned if you do/damned if you don't' predicament." To this, Gawker's Emma Carmichael says, "Indeed. You are certainly damned if you don't destroy your kid's self esteem forever and publish it in a magazine dedicated to defying anorexia."

The Cut blogger points out one sarcastic upside: At least when Bea is in therapy down the road, "she won't have to waste those early sessions explaining herself because she'll just be able to hand over that article and say, 'SEE WHAT I HAD TO DEAL WITH?'"

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Is "Weight Watchers" by Dara-Lynn Weiss, a mother who put her 7-year-old daughter on a diet, really "the worst Vogue article ever"? According to Jezebel, it is, and the author deserves the backlash sh...
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12:26 AM on 03/30/2012
I read the article in Vogue and I liked it. I applaud her for her courage and honesty. It is a very sensitive topic, and the article was written in good manner, carefully tackling the subject. I am not surprised she got a book deal.

As for the people that posted comments here without reading the article in Vogue (and to my surprise there are quite a lot of people in this situation) but are so eager to judge her - shame on you! well behaved people have an educated opinion.
07:46 PM on 03/29/2012
When kids get fat, it's probably the parents fault for not teaching them good lifestyle habits. So, if your child becomes obese, don't blame it on them and make them feel awful.... what does that do but cause your child emotional trauma that will follow them the rest of there lives? These are the types of people who should probably not try to raise another human being. A parent's job is to love their children, and teach them to love themselves and others. That includes eating right, exercising, and being confident enough to stand up for themselves.
02:03 PM on 03/29/2012
you know what they say, nobody loves a fat girl but her mamma
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02:00 PM on 03/29/2012
being fat is not acceptable. she took responsibility for her daughter.
12:13 PM on 03/29/2012
She did the right thing!
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12:11 PM on 03/29/2012
The mother certainly sounds very extreme in her approach. I do know, however, that it is difficult to limit what a child eats, once they have grown accustomed to a certain amount. To not give her dinner, though, is just wrong.
11:54 AM on 03/29/2012
I read the article--and support the author. A fat kid is never a good thing.
12:30 PM on 03/29/2012
You have no soul. You have no idea what it is like to be heavier, even by a few pounds, than your friends. This woman has no business humiliating her daughter in public which she has done with her article and now a book. She should be supportive of her daughter and help her learn about healthy eating and fun exercise. How overweight is this child? I bet she is only over by a few pounds. We need to be a healthy weight. Not everyone is meant to weigh
98 pounds.
11:32 AM on 03/29/2012
unplug the gadgets and put your children outside to play, this is not rocket science people! All you get from actions such as these are a significant rise in eating disorders!!! UNPLUG the GADGETS!!
10:14 AM on 03/29/2012
Why are there so many fat young girls these days? When I was in school there were one or two, now there are lots. We all know it is hard to lose weight so why are parents okay as they watch their children get fat? They are only creating battles and heartbreak for them later in life. Teen years are hard, being an overweight teen girl is even harder. People say be comfortable in the body you are in, fat is not healty. Look at all the kids with diabetes.

Don't go crazy on the kids, but as the parents control what they eat. Have fruits and vegetables, cut out the sodas and candy. Be the parent!
10:06 AM on 04/15/2012
Type one diabetes (sometimes known as "childhood diabetes") is not weight related, it is auto-immune. Very few children have type 2 diabetes, since this is a condition generally takes some time to develop.
03:55 PM on 04/15/2012
Doesn't change the fact that so many young girls are fat.
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09:46 AM on 03/29/2012
I don't understand some of the comments people complain kids are too fat, now complaining about this mother damn if you do and damn if you don't.
12:10 PM on 03/29/2012
From what I read, I feel the mom didn't emphasize the child's HEALTH. For her it was all about how she LOOKED.

"For Bea, the achievement is bittersweet. When I ask her if she likes how she looks now, if she's proud of what she's accomplished, she says yes ... Even so, the person she used to be still weighs on her."

I'm betting this child will battle weight and self-esteem issues for the rest of her life because of how her mother handled this.
Learical
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09:36 AM on 03/29/2012
Over-the-top parents. I have one, too. I'm 61 and she still bitches about everything about me and my daughter! I learned to tune it out long ago.
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09:32 AM on 03/29/2012
My children's pediatrician once told me to give them fruit for snacks, meals healthy and reasonable and keep them active...and that's the only "diet" a growing child really needs.
09:31 AM on 03/29/2012
This is how eating disorders are born.
12:11 PM on 03/29/2012
Exactly!
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02:27 PM on 03/29/2012
Eating a healthy diet means you will develop an eating disorder? hmm
04:18 PM on 03/29/2012
No, but being publicly shamed for eating what your parents provide for you sure will. A seven-year-old isn't able to make their own food choices, and this seven-year-old was brutalized by her own mother because Mommy Dearest gave her too much "bad" food and not enough exercise when she was a baby/toddler.
05:55 PM on 03/29/2012
No, demonizing food, like this mother was doing leads to eating disorders.
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Omamac
09:19 AM on 03/29/2012
For starters, I did not read the article so probably some people feel that I should not comment on that woman; I have better things to do with my money than to waste it on Vogue magazine. I find it hard to believe, though, that any mother would refuse to allow her daughter to eat dinner. Any eating plan that I've ever seen stresses the importance of eating at least 3 (and some eating plans suggest 4 or 5 small meals) well-balanced meals every day.
08:19 AM on 03/29/2012
Please, stop deranged people like this. When her book comes out, the best thing we can all do is not buy it. Put her on a diet, one that says we disapprove of your way of dealing with your child. In the meantime inundate Vogue with letters (not emails) expressing your disapproval of the article and Ms. Weiss' methods. Why no emails. you ask? It is too easy to just press delete. Letters, physical letters, make a statement when there are thousands of them dumped on an editor's desk. Better yet, find out who is going to publish this rag and go after them.