Financial Services Guy Uses Excel Spreadsheet For Match.com Dating

From pretending to be an Israeli spy to burning down an ex's parents' house, there's no shortage of press coverage when it comes to dating sociopaths in the financial industry.

Now, there's a new finance guy ready to creep out the Internets.

First posted on DealBreaker, this nameless singleton loves to type up all the details about each of his potential Match.com suitors and put them into an Excel spreadsheet.

Strangely, the guy actually revealed this on a date and later via email to Arielle, one of his lucky ladies listed in the infamous spreadsheet.

But Arielle couldn't keep a secret and, according to Deadspin, proceeded to forward the email to her friends. Now, the attached spreadsheet is making the rounds on the Internet.

From ranking attractiveness, to noting the last time they spoke and listing contact details, this spreadsheet is pretty in depth. But apparently it helps the man in demand stay "organized", he later revealed in a phone interview to Jezebel.

Check out the email and the edited spreadsheet below. (NOTE: Photos and contact names removed.)

From: [redacted] Date: Sat, Apr 7, 2012 at 12:16 AM To: [26, Oyster Bay, 9.0] Subject: spreadsheet… Well…this could be a mistake, but what the hell. I thought about deleting the names, but figured I might as will give you the whole thing. I only deleted the non-match people’s names (at the bottom) since some I’ve known for a long time. I hope this e-mail doesn’t backfire, because I really had a great time and hope to hang again soon :). However, I will keep my word! Have a great weekend!

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Comments

[tobereal]

04:38 PM on 04/24/2012

Didn't look at his spreadsheet.

But I know of,a nd have heard of, people who do this, all of whom happen to be women.

I played around with developing a rating system--creating an equation to rate each prospect (met or not), assigning various weights to the included key factors--on Excel, too.

Then I'd enter the info for a given woman, asignin g scores for each factor, etc. in an attempt to compare.

It was a good way to summarize important info all in one place. I didn't keep at it, and teh "equation" part wasn't fully developed. Too many intangibles to reduce it to an equation
. I did it for considering whom to contact or not.

I see nothing wrong with it. Everyone does this in a way, either on paper explicitly or in their heads and implicitly.

Very, very bizarre that he sent the whole thing with everyone identifed on it to one "potential" though. I'd only do that if a relationship developed and she had come out with flying colors
and without ID'ing anyone else.

What's the story here?

[StinkyMoBub]

08:55 PM on 05/03/2012

Profiling for sex! Yay!

[Iveta Cherneva]

05:50 AM on 01/31/2013

What to you mean "too many intangibles to reduce it to an equation"? How could human and emotional interaction have intangibles, it's all numbers... I think you should just ignore that and plug away... LOL Man, people have become so robotized nowadays, it's sad... Are you serious, cracking excel sheets to decided who to contact or not based on a score?? rofl

[Iveta Cherneva]

05:51 AM on 01/31/2013

Mind you that poster has called themselves "to be real"

[Yasmin Summer]

09:42 PM on 04/21/2012

I find this method of keeping track of the profiles of women you've dated when you're dating many of them quite efficient, and I'm a woman. I mentally assess the men that I've dated this way, he's just documenting it for memory's sake. I, for one, have a terrible memory. I would be flattered if he trusted me enough to show me his spreadsheet. I would actually find it every informative and use it to my advantage.

[Gargamel Ted]

12:02 AM on 02/20/2013

sounds like u been with lots of men. yuko..

[YogiBear53]

09:49 AM on 04/21/2012

The woman who sent out that spreadsheet essentially made herself un-datable and not hirable. Who would employee such a person? What self-respecting guy would even touch her with a ten foot pole?

[metalsmithgirl71]

04:45 PM on 04/25/2012

what does having a job have to do with it? sharing what a pig some guy is is a personal time thing.

[barry444]

07:44 PM on 05/03/2012

How's this make him a pig? Did you look at some of the pictures of the spreadsheet? Doesn't look like that at all.

If I knew of this spreadsheet and was interviewing this girl for a job, I wouldn't put her anywhere she had access to sensitive information because she demonstrated pretty clearly she can't be trusted to keep private information private.

[madgrrl]

03:37 PM on 05/15/2012

A guy that has a conscience. "oh, here you are on the spreadsheet rated number two, and here are the lies I told you" Maybe she won't date so many losers anymore who think doing things like this are perfectly acceptable. I don't see any problem with her being hired - did she lose her job over it?

[Yodsanklai]

06:02 AM on 04/21/2012

A few years ago, some narcissist guy in Europe wrote a book about his dating experience where he rated all the girls he met according to their sexual abilities and so on. Sounds boring but the book was a best seller.

[sensimilla]

03:57 PM on 04/20/2012

His issue was not the spreadsheet, which i guess if you are dating a lot of women, might be a good idea.

His issue was letting his date know about it and sending it to her! Women already compare themselves to each other enough, they don't need to read about it in a spreadsheet from a man.

[RealistBC]

01:17 PM on 04/20/2012

Dating services only appeal to those who still believe that love happens when all the evidence is to the contrary.

[sensimilla]

03:57 PM on 04/20/2012

love happens everyday, but not all relationships can exist on love alone.

[Xak999]

10:34 AM on 04/20/2012

How convenient the spread sheet can't be enlarged. Now everyone is free to use conjecture, heresay and just ASSUME-away.... at will. Anti-man, Huffington Post-style. Trying to enrage the women unnecessarily again, eh, Arianna? Marlo? Got nothing better than this, is that it?

[The JillyBean]

06:48 PM on 04/20/2012

If you had read the HP story, you would have seen the link to the original story on Jezebel. The Jezebel story has the clear images of the spreadsheets (page sized), as they had the originals to make the images from. The spreadsheet image is just the victim of HP's layout format, not *gasp* anti-man-ism.

Take a chill pill, the world is not out to chop your penis off. But your hyper-critical assumptions are doing yourself in. If your post is an indication of how you interact with women, I'll hazard a guess that you end up wearing a lot of drinks. Do a little personal inventory and some self criticism, make adjustments and re-introduce yourself to the world.

[Xak999]

07:22 PM on 04/20/2012

Gee, JillyBean:

Guess it's far too late to apologize then. Thought I had read it, missed whatever the Jezebel part was. Now that I know my post wasn't based on all the information I should have had at my disposal, I can see how I needed to be informed of this. Don't think my scroll was all the way up or something because later, I did see people refer to it, but wasn't sure what they meant. It's one thing to correct me, which always gets an 'I stand corrected', but another to be told off in such a negative, hostile 'go away and never come back' kind of way.

Why is it that some Huffington Post commentors can gently point that out and give a peson a second chance while others can only 'inform' with bridge-burning? You must win many friends and inluence people left and right with such wisdom. For the record, I've never worn a drink (have you ever worn a dress?) I'm my own worst critic--until I ran into you, and make adjustments continually. Since your are not looking for an apology, only my immediate departure from planet Earth, I'll make an attempt to say how sorry I am to everyone else for my eggregious lapse in judgement and hope there are more compassionate folks out there.

Now about dating: It's no wonder you'd be out there scanning the websites. How many drinks have you forced potential suitors to wear--so far?

[Gargamel Ted]

12:06 AM on 02/20/2013

why do u hate men so much? the media as rotted your brain..

[Weathermaker]

09:42 AM on 04/20/2012

Dating gurus (yeah, I know) tell us that online dating is a numbers game. This guy apparently took it literarily and deployed Excel to max out his chances.

There was another story few months back about some NYC girls who did the same, but their motive was free meals. They dated so many guys they had to keep a spreadsheet not to let themselves taken out by the same guy twice. According to the story they were eating 3-5 nights a week for free. More than $10k/yr worth of meals.

[Xak999]

10:37 AM on 04/20/2012

Weathermaker:

Now THAT I believe. Notice how no women thing anything odd about that. It certainly not taking advantage or anything is it? Fertilizer with wallets have those wallets for one thing: To feel faux manly by women out to laugh at them behind their back. Good thinking girls. (and thanks Weathermaker for bringing it to our attention.

[The JillyBean]

06:50 PM on 04/20/2012

That's gross behavior. Which contributes to the image that women of dating age are looking for walking wallets. Not to mention it's emotional abuse toward the guy who is looking for someone to meet and date.

So glad I'm not dealing with that crap.

[Melinda Maher]

07:46 AM on 04/20/2012

I can just picture the spreadsheet he's going to keep when he gets into a committed relationship (hypothetically, because it won't ever happen). Ratings on her sexual performances, the outfits she chooses each day, the meals she prepares, and her hormonal fluctuations. Oh what fun.

[RealistBC]

01:56 PM on 04/20/2012

Women just might learn something from such data.

[mizzzzuniverse]

03:28 AM on 04/20/2012

Call me old-fashioned but this is just another reason I prefer to meet potential dates in real life and let chemistry flow naturally. Data and opinions are nice but don't substitute for the actual experience of discovering someone while experiencing your real life and feeling natural chemistry. Personally, its a total turnoff when I discover a bachelor has online dated. I know it works for some people but I'm just too much of an emotional purist to be comfortable with trusting a person via a profile without face to face interaction.

[The JillyBean]

06:57 PM on 04/20/2012

You can still apply the spreadsheet to real life dating.

I'm waiting for arranged marriages to come back into vogue in america. dating is a hassle and there are some seriously delusional people out there.

Several years ago when I was job-hunting, I used a spreadsheet to track all the statistical information about the jobs, copies of resumes, cover letters and job descriptions embedded. Follow up contact activity recorded, etc.

[Iveta Cherneva]

05:58 AM on 01/31/2013

Yeah, exactly, it's used for work, organizing projects, interviews, rating, etc. -- not for people.

[Gargamel Ted]

12:10 AM on 02/20/2013

yeah your probably old..

[Veritas2005X]

01:38 AM on 04/20/2012

This is how I learned how to use pivot tables and VLOOKUP.

[The JillyBean]

06:57 PM on 04/20/2012

the only hassle is that you have to build the table first. :P

[dingflofbips]

08:11 PM on 04/19/2012

Maybe if he was really interested he didn't have to write it all down... Quality over quantity ring a bell?
Why would he send this spreadsheet of his 'flock' to one of his 'sheep' anyway??? To impress her with how insignificant she is to him?

[barry444]

07:48 PM on 05/03/2012

I don't think online dating works this way. It's definitely a numbers game.

[entwife74]

05:31 AM on 04/19/2012

well, ya gotta applaud his organizational skills! I bet he never leaves his dirty socks or wet towel on the bathroom floor. Of course cross spontanious off the list of desirable traits.

[sadwitness]

02:55 AM on 04/19/2012

Monitor Closely (Bold=ASAP)

Okay, that is pretty creepy--- I totally get why he's single. He may be "just a tad" out of touch with what women want and seems to have a Mitt Romney sort of social awkwardness-- poor guy

[agb1953]

02:16 AM on 04/19/2012

OCD. So what?