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What Women Want From A Man's Apartment: What Are Your Biggest Turn-Ons?

The Huffington Post  |  By Posted: 04/25/2012 6:38 pm Updated: 04/30/2012 12:10 pm

Man Apartment

You meet someone intriguing (or at the very least eye-catching) at a party or a bar. You go on a couple of dates -- for a coffee, a beer, a movie, or maybe even a whole meal. After some thought, you decide that it's time ... to see his living quarters.

Going back to the apartment of a man you like can be daunting. You never really know what you'll find there: No toilet paper? Ten roommates with bunk beds? Too many photos of ex-girlfriends? A bag of his baby teeth under the bed? The possible turn-offs are endless -- as detailed by bloggers, women's magazines and television shows.

However, here at HuffPost Women we prefer to focus on the good stuff -- those things in his living space that make you more interested in him as soon as you walk in. Maybe it's a collection of vintage magazines (a curated collection -- we're not into hoarders), or a great piece of furniture he purchased someplace other than IKEA, or the fact that there is not a single dirty dish in his kitchen sink. Below you'll find a roundup of our biggest male apartment turn-ons (gleaned mostly from our friends and co-workers, who will remain nameless), but now we want to hear about yours!

Tell us what you want to see in a man's apartment by tweeting @HuffPostWomen using the hashtag #AptTurnOn. We'll feature your answers in our slideshow.

LOOK: Women Share Their Biggest Turn-Ons In A Man's Apartment

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  • Photos Of Him & His Family

  • Good Books (And A Nice Bookshelf)

    "Nothing <em>too</em> pristine or organized, that means he's trying too hard to be intellectual when he's not."

  • A Big Bed (i.e. Not A Twin Bed)

    "His bed. If it's too small, I can't work with that." "Also, an actual bed (not just mattress) with actual sheets and an actual comforter. I wish that that could go without being said."

  • A Subscription To 'The New Yorker'

    "I really like a good <em>New Yorker</em>. Bonus points if it has his name on it indicating a subscription."

  • A Nice Coffee Machine

  • Healthy Food In The Fridge

    "... Or food in the fridge at all." "At least four fresh fruits or vegetables."

  • Clean, Fluffy Towels

  • 'Jeopardy!' On DVR

  • Triple-Ply Toilet Paper

  • A Plant (That's Still Alive)

  • Big Windows

    "Actually ... say 'lots of natural light.'"

  • A Bathroom Sink Sans Hair From Shaving

    "No little hairs in the sink and a hand towel that looks like it gets washed on a regular basis! I would marry that man if he exists!"

  • No Roommates

  • A Guitar

  • A Great DVD Collection

  • A Nice Wine Selection

  • A Book On The Nightstand

    "... but minus points for self help -- that's what Kindles are for!"

  • A Nice Bathroom (Specifically A Nice Shower)

    "Something that gives a sense of personality. A subscription to something random like <em>Discover</em>, a shotglass shaped like a pineapple, a poster from a concert they went to in high school, a plant ... never mind, just the shower." "I mean ... a stand up shower couldn't hurt ..."

  • Mac Laptop And/Or iPad

  • Clean Sheets

    "Not scuzzy sheets."

  • An Impressive Sneaker Collection

    "Impressive sneaker collection that is dominated mostly by Nike ... not a joke."

  • Cheese (That's Not American Cheese)

  • Good Beer In The Fridge

  • Seltzer

  • Good Cookware

  • A Copy Of 'The Bell Jar'

    (She wasn't kidding.)

  • Art On The Walls (No Blank White Walls)

    "A piece of art that isn't a framed album cover." "No stupid Warhol prints thankyouverymuch."

  • sophie B.

  • Monique Harris

  • Lenore Riegel

  • Meredith Playford

  • Eden McFadden

  • e mc

  • Joy decena

  • K. Bedics

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You meet someone intriguing (or at the very least eye-catching) at a party or a bar. You go on a couple of dates -- for a coffee, a beer, a movie, or maybe even a whole meal. After some thought, you d...
You meet someone intriguing (or at the very least eye-catching) at a party or a bar. You go on a couple of dates -- for a coffee, a beer, a movie, or maybe even a whole meal. After some thought, you d...
 
 
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Lulu0418
Better to reign in hell, than serve in heaven
05:26 PM on 04/16/2013
Hahahaha! When I first met my husband, he lived with four roommates, his house was MESS (there was a 30gal, outside trash bin in the KITCHEN), zero art, the only books were Evola and Ebola (don't ask...), two cats with litter boxes that had never been cleaned, two bathrooms that had what appeared to be a years worth of build up, laundry piled to the ceiling, the dirtiest refrigerator known to god and man, and a curtain for bedroom door! This list that HP has compiled is hilarious! Perhaps if the man is in his late 30s or 40s.... but I met my husband back our early 20s.
03:26 PM on 04/16/2013
10 Things Dudes Might Now Want To See in Her Apartment...Continued from list earlier

6) Other dudes clothes...Yeah, we all know women like wearing big T's and all, but you gotta hide your exes...and throw out once you know we're keepers.

7) A room-mate...If you do, it's cool, but let us know what to expect. If he's gay, let us know so we can clean our nails and be ready for the critical interview.

8) Bunch of Cosmos/US Weekly's. Everyone has their smut material somewhere, but if you care more about Kardashian's weight gain than stuff that matters...prob gonna put you in short-term category.

9) Messy kitchen...yeah, casual when visiting our buddies, but not so much when visiting a dates house and having to move week old sauce pans to wash a few dirty wine glasses.

10) More sex toys than Steven Seagal has straight to DVD movies. Hide them well...and bring them out slowly as we get the previous one figured out or able to wrap into foreplay ensemble.
03:22 PM on 04/16/2013
Ten Things Dudes Might Not Want To See In a Woman's Apartment:

1) 50 Shades of Grey trilogy. (Yeah, we like women not scared to be a bit more sexual, but this stuff kind of raises expectations to 'Fabio riding in on a black stallion' level.

2) Condoms...especially magnums! Great to see a woman planning ahead, but we don't want to think about who was there before us...so hid them and pull out so you don't have to trust us to pull out.

3) Messy closet. If you're messy and can't pretend to be clean like we do early on, then who is to clean after us later [dry humor here]

4) More than two animals. Respect the fact you like dogs and cats and stuff, but really, three cats?

5) Messy bathroom counters. If you have a bunch of makeup all over and spread out...we think, "this chick spends a lot of time painting her face and could be high maintenance...better be worth it."
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feraltyger
God doesn't believe in atheists.
07:13 PM on 07/10/2012
Only suckers allow a female into his man cave. They're normally like Ghengis Khan on steroids taking over land to colonize it with all their witch craft supplies and war paint. Show her where you live and where your car is parked overnight? Ha...yeah right, maybe if you enjoy paying for damage deductibles through your auto and home/renters insurance whenever you unwittingly or on purpose unleash her inner Linda Blair/Sybil. She better be Charlize Theron/ Salma Hayek level hot to allow that kind of possible damage into your life.
02:29 PM on 07/06/2012
I would add fake party moustaches to the list. Whenever I have girls over they love putting on those things.
09:57 PM on 04/16/2013
Gross!
01:16 PM on 06/18/2012
And this is why so many women are miserable and sleeping around complaining that they can't find a good man.

Because you could essentially be Jesus in the body of Brad Pitt but if you haven't purchased the correct bedroom set, she's been taught that she has to reject you.

Whatevs. Keep handing out that free milk, ladies.
01:12 PM on 06/18/2012
Are you kidding me? By the time we make it back to my apartment we've already had sex twice.

But seriously, any chick that is gonna turn me down because I purchased a bureau at IKEA is a chick I hope drowns in a river.
02:24 PM on 06/15/2012
They miss ONE important thing http://www.blissfulgoodies.com/Sensis-quik-strips-condoms-thin---box-of-3/sku-CNVELD-7595-02?a=artificial_vagina These are for all my drunk and having sex people lol Enjoy ;)
09:41 AM on 06/14/2012
To falsely accuse him of domestic assault so he gets kicked out of his own place but still has to pay rent for you to live there.

And that's why you never let a woman move in.
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Peter South
03:51 AM on 06/09/2012
Now onto what men expect from a woman's apartment...
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feraltyger
God doesn't believe in atheists.
07:03 PM on 07/10/2012
Hopefully not having to roll over in bed on the last guy's DNA deposit.
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joncavanaugh
I am, and forever remain, at your service.
04:54 PM on 06/08/2012
The problem is the men who have all this stuff already have boyfriends.
09:58 PM on 04/16/2013
TRUE.
01:09 AM on 05/24/2012
My personal list:
1)larger than twin bed
2) clean bed sheets, top and fitted thankyouverymuch
3) at least one real book
4) at least one clean towel
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WWZander
Where were you the day the Music died?
06:51 PM on 05/15/2012
Besides, most men already know how to please a woman ... it only takes 3 and a half inches! An has the Master card or Visa logo on it!

Sorry, I couldn't resist!
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Craig Schultz
Reach out and love somebody.
03:50 PM on 04/16/2013
And, is Platinum, or Black, preferably.
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WWZander
Where were you the day the Music died?
06:46 PM on 05/15/2012
I loled real hard here! OK, a couple on the list make sense, others though, are you kidding me? I am also curious as to how many of you are still single? An if you are, guess why .... I wish to thank you all for your "in-depth" views here, it makes me glad to NOT be single! Though I am curious what my wife thought of my place/rooms when she first came home with me!

On a more humorous side ... Why you checking the guys stuff out? Making a list of half the stuff you want after you marry him, then get divorced?
04:36 AM on 05/14/2012
As a woman, I just have to say -- what a stupid list. These are NOT the things that matter.

If the feeling is there, these are things you might mention as nice if they're there, and you might totally ignore if they're not there.

If the feeling is not there, these are superficial reasons you might give for things not working out.

And to several below -- you're right, the boxes of photos of ex-girlfriends are more important than clean sheets. ;)