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Malgorzata Szumowska, 'Elles' Director And Co-Writer, Talks Prostitution, Love

Posted: 05/ 3/2012 12:26 pm

"They don’t think they are prostitutes," said Małgorzata Szumowska, the Polish director and co-writer of the new film "Elles," which premiered at this year's Tribeca Film Festival, of the women this movie is, at least in part, about. "Absolutely not. For them it is dating."

In a powerful examination of what constitutes sexual freedom and constraint, the film follows Anne (Juliette Binoche), a married, Paris-based journalist as she researches an article for Elles magazine on female university students who have sex for money. As the film shifts between Anne's interviews with the two students she's profiling, Charlotte (Anaïs Demoustier) and Alicja (Joanna Kulig), their encounters with their clients, and scenes of Anne's upper-crust domestic life -- preparing a dinner party for her BlackBerry-consumed husband's colleagues, dealing with a pot-addled teenager and video-game-obsessed child -- the girls affect her more and more, leading her to question the value of the life she has built for herself.

With its NC-17 rating, the movie won't be showing at most Americans' local multiplex, but HuffPost Women spoke to Szumowska about what inspired the film and the impact she hopes it will have.


What inspired "Elles"?

I was thinking about making a film about sexuality, but I didn’t have a subject. I met a French producer, Marianne Slot, and she had a subject, student prostitutes at universities. She said that she wanted to make a film about this.

I started to research, as did the French co-writer Tine Byrckel -- meeting these girls, reading a lot of articles, then step-by-step creating the script. It was two years of work.

You said you interviewed women who did this as part of your research. What was that like?

I met one girl who did this. She was absolutely not ashamed of what she doing. She wasn’t a victim. She was very intelligent, and she was quite satisfied with her life. I was a bit shocked because I thought I would meet someone ashamed, like, “Sorry, I had to do it because I didn’t have money to cover my studies.” This girl said, “Yeah, I did it. Now my last client is my boyfriend, I quit, and he wants to have a kid together. I’m satisfied by what I did because I know a lot about sex, and I enjoy it."

I didn’t expect [that attitude]. That's why I decide to use my reaction, and also the way she talked about it, in the film.

Alicja has just one client. Was that also based on the experiences of a real woman you met?

It’s a true story. This woman had a guy invite her for dinner. They had a dinner. Then another dinner. Then she told him that she didn’t have an apartment and that she was a student, and he said, "I can give you an apartment because I have a small one. You can live there." The sex didn't come immediately.

In the scene where Anne interviews Alicja in Alicja's apartment, Anne first says she doesn't drink and seems frustrated with Alicja's curt responses to her questions, then ends up getting drunk and dancing with the younger woman. What are we suppose to learn about Anne in this scene?

She comes for the interview having already pictured who Alicja is: "She is just a whore poor girl, and of course I feel sympathy, but at the same time I’m better. It's disgusting to be that kind of girl, but okay, I have to write a very liberal, tolerant article."

Then she sees that Alicja is full of life and has this animal sexual spirit that [Anne] doesn’t have, and lost probably many years ago because she is in a stale relationship with her husband. Anne starts to feel old, very old. When she gets drunk and is dancing with Alicja, it’s erotic and sexual, but it’s also about being free, even for one moment, even just because of vodka, being crazy, sexy, young again. She comes in with something completely different in her mind, and she leaves, unexpectedly full of life again.

One sex scene between Charlotte and a client turns violent. What was the purpose of showing that?

The purpose was [to show that] shit happens for the girls. I mean, it is not only a beautiful world, prostitution. Sometimes you make a mistake, you choose the wrong client. It happens.

The beginning of the scene, I think, is quite exciting, because the man is handsome, she is pretty, they are playing this game, and suddenly, it turns into this extremely violent and brutal, asexual thing.

[The point] was to question the audience about sexuality and men about how men treat the women in sex sometimes.

To what extent did porn affect the sexual scenarios you chose? A lot of the scenes between the girls and their clients seem very reminiscent of it.

I have to be honest: Before I start to work on the film, I hadn’t seen pornographic films because I don’t like [them]. I was never interested -- maybe a few seconds, the "Oh, no, switch it off." Then I said to myself, I have to see some pornographic stuff before I make this film. So I watched. Maybe it influenced me a bit, especially since I'd just watched it for the first time. A stronger inspiration was the film "Intimacy" by Patrice Chéreau. There is a lot of nudity and a lot of sex, and it looks like pornography, but it’s absolutely not pornographic.

One early criticism of the film was that Anne, the privileged journalist, is much more fleshed out than Charlotte and Alicja, the struggling young students who affect her so strongly. We don't see the girls' day-to-day life, their experiences at school, etc. What's your response to that critique?

It’s not a film about that. The whole idea was to make a film more about Anne than about the girls, and how the experience of the girls influenced Anne's life. A film about the girls who prostitute themselves [is] going to be a different film. We'd find, like in American films, a reason why, like they have terrible parents, for example, or they had a traumatic experience in childhood. I didn’t want to make that kind of film.

What message do you want viewers to take away from the film?

There’s not a message. It's more about putting uncomfortable questions -- about society, about loneliness, about sexuality -- to the audience and also to myself. I don’t know the answers; I’m not judging the situation. I want people leaving the theater and starting to ask each other those questions.

Maybe in America there is a different point of view on cinema -- very moralistic, very often giving answers: "This is good and this is bad and you have to be a good person," and that’s the message. I’m not making films with a message. I’m just asking questions.

So what were the most important questions, then, for you to raise in "Elles"?

One was about the lack of sexuality and love in couples. Is what the girls are doing bad, or is it worse to be in Anne and [her husband] Patrick's position, to not to have any sexual contact?

A kind of sexual frustration appears in marriage if the people are not taking care of the sexual aspect. First they turn into kids too much, and then they turn too much into work, and then they are too tired to have a real sexual relationship. They build two separate worlds next to each other. Patrick (Louis-Do de Lencquesaing) searches for sexual [stimulation] in porn, on the Internet. Anne refuses sexuality, doesn’t think about it. She’s working, she’s writing articles. When she meets the girls and they are talking about sex in a very free way and they look paradoxically sexually satisfied, she feels a hole in her that comes from her loneliness. Missing sex is also missing love, in my opinion. I don't separate the two things.

It's a hard time for sexuality. People are so busy that sexuality turns mechanical. Like, let’s do it, ten minutes, bye. That's not sexuality. Sexuality needs time.

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lisalawless
Ph.D. Sexual Health / CEO Holistic Wisdom, Inc.
04:36 PM on 06/30/2012
Regardless of how one feels about prostitution, it would be safer and more empowering for women if we made it legal. Here is an article that explores why legalization would do this-

http://www.holisticwisdom.com/pimps-legalization-prostitution.htm
07:30 PM on 06/19/2012
one word: SUGAR DADDY

It is fine; just admit it is what it is, and a growing industry.
05:45 PM on 06/17/2012
Women using the hint of sex for money, gifts, vacations, dinners, entertainment, labor, drinks and good times? Why it's unheard of.
10:25 AM on 06/12/2012
I was once a doorman at a NYC hotel and I noticed a good looking female body builder that stayed at our hotel from out of town. She would wrestle men for money and if she found them attractive she would charge them extra to have sex with her. I was curious as to what see was doing becouse men were always asking for her and calling up to her room. I asked her privately what she was doing and she told me her full story. She said she really enjoyed having sex with really good looking men she was able to overpower when she wrestled with them.. She only did it with 10% of the men only when their was an attraction. She had huge muscular legs but a feminine look. She said she was attracted to me and would give me a free session if I was interested after work. It was really enticing but I turned it down becouse I would have felt too shamed. But she said she made a lot of money and really enjoyed it.
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Nastasya Filippovna
The vitality of a cat.
06:19 PM on 06/07/2012
Excellent interview- I think one thing that's really important to come back to is the reference of being "satisfied" vs "empowered"....very important distinction here, and a vital one to pay attention to, especially when discussing high end prostitution. However, those that claim there are not many extremely satisfied high end call girls are very naive, and if asked, many that refer to themselves as satisfied and unashamed would also, I'm sure, agree that they were empowered by their profession as well. I believe this to be the case for many, however not all, and this is where society dissents...
Some will vehemently disagree with me for saying that there are women who feel empowered by such a job, but I insist that there are women who do- it's always difficult to wrap your head around something that'ss foreign to your own taste, personal "morals" or instincts, but the fact is that they're not hurting anybody so I don't believe that morality is at play here)....I believe more women are swayed by sexual abuse or past factors and traumas that they are trying to resolve, and I think the director is spot on in her thoughts & uses her films to provoke thought and create and internal and then social dialogue instead of propoganda, as does the majority of foreign cinema, hence why it is such a gem. Ac
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Helene Hoffman
08:36 PM on 06/03/2012
My best friend did this after her divorce. . . . Instead of judging, I just listened to her, She did it because: She loved having sex; she needed the money; and she was very very ANGRY! She said society/parents, etc., told her to get married; and the rest of the world told her to be her own person, including having a good profession & able to support herself. At the time of the divorce, she had no money (her husband spent it all, and she was just laid off), and the marriage she was 'urged' to do, led to an awful life. So she was PISSED! She explained she did it for 6 weeks, using Craigslist. She was lucky - the men weren't bad to her at all, and she ended up being friends with a few of them! Shec. stopped because, she said she was afraid her luck would run out & a guy could beat, kill her, etc. Also, said she had gotten BORED! She realized she wanted sex only with a boyfriend, in a relationship. And, she probably was less angry, and wanted to get on with her life.
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Sam Badger
04:57 AM on 06/02/2012
Prostitution is only "empowering" insofar as the women who become prostitutes are denied some important power by society. Students become prostitutes because they need to pay tuition. They aren't looking for "sexual liberation" they are looking for socio-economic support. And a relationship between a "client" and a prostitute disempowers the partner of the "client".

Prostitutes deserve much more respect than they get, but the social conditions which actually cause it can be very tough on the women involved! They don't chose that line of work for fun but because they need to pay bills.
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mrportman
07:15 PM on 06/02/2012
Can you expand on the statement that prostitutes deserve more respect than they get? I don't disagree with you, just would like to know more of your thoughts. Thanks!
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Sam Badger
07:22 PM on 06/03/2012
I feel like they are hard working women, many of whom are exploited by pimps or face dangerous working conditions, yet lack any legal avenues to fight for protection. Even if they wanted to leave that life, their pimps, the police and society at large conspire to deny them rights necessary to do so, and even if they are ok living that lifestyle i think people are mistaken to judge them. Most people in society disregard them as sinful and degraded even while their clients are often people of great status and power, yet they are human beings as much as any other. In particular, both the law and society in general should change how they view the women.
06:49 PM on 05/16/2012
"I mean, it is not only a beautiful world, prostitution. Sometimes you make a mistake, you choose the wrong client. It happens." OH YES. It is all your fault babes.
victim blaming will never die
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WWZander
Where were you the day the Music died?
12:55 PM on 05/11/2012
Prostitution is the act or practice of providing sexual services to another person in return for payment.

Thats the definition from wikipedia. Now, for a more cynical look!

Unless your going "dutch", its usually expected of the guy to pay, for the whole date! So, if there is sex at the end of the date, isn't that prostitution? The payment being the night out on the town. The definition never refers to actual monetary gain!

Now, this can be reversed, I have actually gone on dates and the woman has paid for everything, I know, crazy, isn't it! If I have sex with her, does that mean I am a giggilo? Well, again, I think the answer is yes.

Now, the traditional family, husband works to provide money for the family, the wife provides sex to the husband, mostly to keep him happy, lets face it, dad was grumpy when he didn't get any! Bottom line, wasn't mom a prostitute? Look at the definition, and think about it, mom has a roof over her head, clothes, spending money, food to eat, etc etc etc!

Now, stop and think how absurd this all is! My mother wasn't a prostitute, she was just keeping my dad happy and "motivated"!

Lastly, and hang on tight! ITS A JOKE!

Seriously though, the similarities are too close!
RealistBC
Micro-bios must pass muster.
03:42 PM on 05/18/2012
Better logicians and phiosophers have made the same case you have.

If women don't want to sell sex, then they get to remain single - or go gay.
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mrportman
07:24 PM on 06/02/2012
I think the hole in your argument is intention. If a man pays for a date and then sleeps with his date, but the intention of the date was not to lead to sex, then it is not prostitution (and vice versa for women).

You also take a leap in logic with the traditional family example by stating that sex between a man and a woman is just to keep the man happy. Although I'm sure it happens (wives have sex with husbands to placate them and vice versa), I doubt that the majority of encounters are for this reason. Another way to look at it is that is x amount of work to be done and that work is divided between two people. Just because one person in the scenario isn't earning money, they are still contributing by taking care of things at home. It's a division of labor rather than a trade for intercourse. You could compare it to a business where the front office generates revenue and the back office (accounting, etc.) is only an expense, but the front office couldn't survive without the help of the back office.
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WWZander
Where were you the day the Music died?
01:37 PM on 06/06/2012
I also mentioned at the end of my comment that I was joking around too! I would probably get lynched by a large mob of women if I was being serious! I have a feeling women frown heavily upon being called a prostitute.
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zippy335
It's only hypocrisy if someone else does it.
06:48 AM on 05/11/2012
If they do decide to have a lasting relationship, will the women who do this fully disclose their past with their partner?

Otherwise, their partner is being dis-empowered.
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mrportman
07:32 PM on 06/02/2012
Unless the partner doesn't wish to know. For example, many couple don't share the number of people they've had sex with, deciding that it'll only lead to hurt feelings. The idea is that what a person has done in the past isn't necessarily who they are today. Such discussions should be up to the couple.

Personally, I'm on the other end of the spectrum because I've shared everything (or almost everything - can't be certain) with my wife. Then again, we were friends for years before we started dating, which meant she already had a pretty good idea of my past. I may have been able to share more because my wife already knew so much and made the conscious decision to date me anyway. In other words, I felt safe providing extra detail because I didn't have to worrying that I'd scare her away. I'm not sure I would have shared as much if I hadn't had such a luxury.
wsdave
Abusive or Insulting? I won't be responding.
02:14 PM on 05/10/2012
ANY situation that gives a person a choice is more empowering than one that doesn't, even if the people choose not to do the thing.

Being a soldier can get you maimed, killed, and/or driven to suicide. Should women not be allowed to join the military?

No, they should be given the opportunity to choose for themselves.

That's power.
reciprocat
On November 6, 2012...God blessed America
02:03 PM on 05/09/2012
Speaking as male who has been in position where an older female was "paying my bills" I can say that it, generally, is NOT an empowering feeling...even though it might have some psychological perks. Having a second offer at that type of relationship...it was easy for me to balk and say, "no...I'd rather join up and soldier"...which on a whole different scale was an experiment in disempowerment AND empowerment alternately.

That said, maybe, if I were more of the submissive or manipulative type it might have been better for me, but I guess I am not that flexible/clever. The need for control may be too ingrained in my personal make-up.

That could be a sort of weakness on my part....so, maybe, in a way, it takes a strong woman/person to make prostitution empowering. Yeah, so maybe it can be empowering...sometimes.
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WWZander
Where were you the day the Music died?
01:08 PM on 05/11/2012
My wife and I have been together going on 18 years. When we first started dating, I made her pay for EVERYTHING! I was tired of always being the one shelling out the money, felt like I was being used! It didn't bother her at all, and I knew she was the woman for me! As the years passed however, I started paying, makes me feel better that way!
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mrportman
07:39 PM on 06/02/2012
Good for you and kudos for your wife!

When I first started dating my wife, she wouldn't allow me to pay for anything. According to her, she didn't want to "owe" me anything in return. This allowed her to feel more comfortable that the relationship was fair/equal from the start.

Since we both work at the moment and earn about the same amount of income, we're still technically going "dutch" since whenever I pay the bill it comes out of the same pot. I just so happen to be the person to reach in my pocket first when the bill arrives.
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04:06 PM on 05/05/2012
I used to do this while in University. I wouldn't say the entire experience was empowering, but it was certainly enlightening.
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WWZander
Where were you the day the Music died?
01:09 PM on 05/11/2012
I bet it also paid the bills too!
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gayleg
10:01 AM on 05/05/2012
Buying and selling women(prostitution) is never empowering for women. This is one reason why the average age of a "women" entering prostitution is 14 (and dropping). These girls are throwaways and runaways and ultimately have no choice. Pimps and johns are the only ones benefiting from Prostitution.
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janmB
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08:54 AM on 05/05/2012
We have a lot of things to "fix" as yet...but I wouldn't want to be a woman anywhere else but the USA