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9-Year-Old Psychopath: Dr. Alan Ravitz On How To Diagnose Children As Psychopaths

The Huffington Post  |  By Posted: Updated: 05/15/2012 11:29 pm

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This weekend, The New York Times Magazine's powerful cover story, "Can You Call a 9-Year-Old a Psychopath?," explored the experience of a Florida family whose son, Michael, was found to be "two standard deviations outside the normal range for callous-unemotional behavior" -- possibly “prepsychopathic.”

But as the piece, written by Jennifer Kahn, illustrates, treatments for -- and even definitions of -- child psychopathy ("essentially identical” to sociopathy, according to Kahn) are still largely experimental rather than clear-cut.

For parents, though, the piece raises chilling questions, including the most basic: How would I know if my child was a psychopath? HuffPost Parents went to the Child Mind Institute's Senior Director of Forensic Psychiatry and Senior Pediatric Psychopharmacologist Dr. Alan Ravitz, with some of the biggest questions about child psychopathy; what follows is an edited transcript of our conversation.

What’s your initial reaction to the New York Times Magazine article?

They were describing a group of very difficult, very disturbed kids. I was surprised that they were able to find that many of them in one place, because I’ve been doing this for 35 years; I used to run an in-patient hospital; I’ve seen literally thousands of adolescents and children -- and I just don’t run into the problem as frequently as the investigator in the article. ...

I’ve seen people who have the callous-unemotional personality, meaning that they have difficulty empathizing with other people. They talk about these kids as being slick, but they’re not that slick, because if they were really slick they probably wouldn’t have been identified as being in need of treatment. Really good sociopaths escape our scrutiny.

Have you treated children who could have been diagnosed as psychopathic?

Sure. I’ve treated some kids, I think, who are psychopathic.

This isn’t an all-or-nothing phenomenon; it probably exists on a continuum, and all of us have a few sociopathic characteristics. … Once in a while, people make up excuses that are not entirely honest, which doesn’t turn them into terrible human beings -- but it kind of makes them human. That’s what sociopaths do all the time. They lie all the time. The difference between you and a sociopath is that the physiological response that you interpret as anxiety/fear doesn’t exist for a psychopath. So the less of that physiological response you have, the more likely it is that you will be psychopathic or sociopathic.

So, how can a parent tell if he or she is dealing with a psychopathic child, rather than a child with ADHD or another disorder? Is it that lack of empathy and anxiety?

It’s a lack of empathy in addition to a lack of anxiety. There are some people who are unempathic, who are still very anxious. It’s really a combination of no anxiety along with lack of empathy, along with a self-centeredness, along with a predisposition to tell everybody exactly what they want to hear, even if the kid doesn’t believe it at all. So it’s a kind of self-interestedness that’s probably three standard deviations above the mean.

I don’t think parents should be looking to figure out whether their kids are sociopaths, because we don’t have very good treatments for sociopathy. What we should be looking for is to determine whether what appears to be antisocial, insensitive behavior is really a manifestation of some kind of mental health problem for which there is effective treatment.

How is sociopathy’s stigma different from, or similar to, the stigma attached to other mental health disorders?

There is stigma attached to mental health issues, period. We live in a crazy kind of country where people are embarrassed to suffer from depression, from anxiety, from schizophrenia, whatever. It makes us nervous, because we’re all a little bit anxious, and we all tend to get depressed every once in a while, and so when we see somebody else who’s like that, we want to say: “That isn’t me.”

The stigma that’s associated with sociopathy is a kind of implication that there is no treatment for this, so we might as well give up. So it’s like after you’ve tried every diagnosis, and you’ve tried to treat every problem, and the problem continues to exist, and you’re really frustrated, and you’re angry at the patient or you’re angry at the family for not following through with your recommendations, then you might use the label of sociopathy. But three-standard-deviation-above-the-mean sociopathy is really quite rare. … We should be slow to diagnose sociopathy, because sometimes it’s just a stand-in for our frustration at not being able to treat somebody.

In her article, Jennifer Kahn wrote, "A small but growing number of psychologists ... say that confronting the problem earlier may present an opportunity to help these children change course." What do you think? Can this diagnosis ever be positive?

The best that we can do for everybody who we treat is to try to figure out exactly what the problem is, so that we can try to apply a treatment to that problem. The difficulty with sociopathy is that, as far as I know, nobody has identified effective treatments for it. I think that that’s what the article says, too -- we’re just beginning to appreciate the genetic and neuro-physiological aspects of this problem, and until we do more investigation, we’re not going to figure out where to put the lever.

Why has it taken so long for people to start researching potential treatments?

Sociopathy really isn’t all that common. It seems like every time there’s a sociopath, somebody writes a book about them. The same thing happens with airplane crashes. They happen so rarely that every time one happens, it’s news. So part of the reason [we haven’t been researching treatments] is that the frequency of sociopathy is not that high.

A second reason is that if you are a “successful” sociopath, you’re not going to be identified as sociopathic, except by your friends and family. But you’re not generally thought to be identified as sociopathic.

A third reason is that sociopathy doesn’t generate sympathy. People want to look at sociopaths as criminals -- which many of them are. And there is a huge debate in our society right now about the medicalization of criminal behavior. … Do we treat evil? Or do we not treat evil? Can we treat evil medically? I’m not going to weigh in on one side or the other of this debate, because I don’t know the answer to that one.

We’ve had thousands of years of incarcerating criminals, and only a very few years of trying to treat them, and even now when we try to treat criminals, there are a lot of people who reject that approach.

Is there anything else you would add -- particularly for readers who are parents of young children?

Yes. Number one: What the article talked about was that the two parents were not on the same page in regards to treating the child. It’s very difficult to treat oppositional and defiant behavior if the parents are not on the same page. It’s difficult, if not impossible, to generate a good behavior management plan without a great deal of professional help. And the way that we fund mental health treatment these days makes it very difficult for people to gain access to those resources. Because most of the third-party payers and most of the managed care companies will say, “This is just a bad kid, and there are no evidence-based treatments for being bad, therefore we’re not going to pay for this.” So people have limited resources.

At the Child Mind Institute, we have something called Parent-Child Interaction Therapy, which is a treatment that’s been developed for oppositional defiant kids who are age 7 or below, where you’ve got the mental health professional sitting behind a one-way mirror, and there’s a little bug in the ear of the parent, and these people are given intensive coaching in how to manage these types of difficult children. And I can tell you, because I have witnessed these sessions myself (because I sometimes do medication management for some of these kids), that we’ve taken kids who looked to be absolutely cold-blooded and impossible, and we have turned them into functioning little members of society.

You want to try to address these problems early; you don’t want to look at this as a phase or something that’s just going to go away. Yes, it’s true that there is such a thing as sibling rivalry, but if you want to kill your younger sibling, and you engage in behavior the objective of which is to actually commit murder, that’s, again, several standard deviations above the mean.

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10:09 PM on 02/26/2013
He also told a man I was dating if he continued to date me he would slit his throat in his sleep. When people initially meet him he is very much we mannered and EXTREMELY intelligent and knows quite well how to manipulate others views therapists included. I have tried to reach out to various people because I sadly do believe that he could in the future be capable of committing a horrific crime. But I have been told that until he does they will not incarcerate him. So basically I have to wait until he harms me more than throwing me against walls and making threats to kill me, and actually have him go through with one of these threats before I can get help....And once he does, it will come back that it was my parenting or inadequacy even when I have asked for help multiple times. There is nothing in place to help someone in my situation, I can't afford to sent him to military camp or such, and it saddens me that he will have to commit a crime before he will get the help HE needs.
10:08 PM on 02/26/2013
My son shows a lot of these traits, to the point that I am very much afraid to live alone with him. He has been to therapy since he was 5 continually. He easily manipulates others into believing he is a victim. He has falsely accused his father (whom he lived with from ages 2-9) and me (he is now 13) of child abuse. Both cases were disproved. He has hidden knives in his rooms and made active threats of harm to his paternal grandmother whom he lived with for a while and myself. To the extent that he and his cousin (14) had a plan to kill his cousins mother and his grandmother and run away. (Scary part is his cousin went through with the plan and DID shoot his mother 3 times in the head at point blank range, I shiver at the fact of what my son might have done if they wouldn't have been out of town with a family emergency when they had planned to do it.)
08:10 AM on 06/11/2012
I've started a yahoo group for parents of kids with callous-unemotional traits. If you're interested in joining, here is the link:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/callousunemotional/
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LadyXoc
01:27 AM on 05/19/2012
I've known at least one sociopath and don't believe for one moment that sociopaths are unemotional. They don't love, it's true but see others in terms of potential usefulness; and they shape their own behavior to elicit the maximum utility from those around them. If this were all, it would not be a tragic problem, except for the unfortunates who love and trust them

However. true sociopaths do have emotion: a core of hate and anger which drives them to bad acts if they think they can escape the consequences. Perhaps it will only show as emotional abuse or bullying directed at classmates or at family, or stealing, but some young children may torture and kill small animals; adults may do murder.

I hope that someday a treatment may be found, my heart goes out to those who have been victims.
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phoebequeen
I blame the dog
12:50 PM on 05/18/2012
I wish my neighbors would read this. I think their daughter has several of these traits and she is only 8. They know that she has issues, just don't think they are dealing with them.
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wildcali
Ride or die kinda girl
10:08 PM on 05/17/2012
FTR- Anti-social does NOT mean shy. (I used to believe this) it means working against everything the rest of us are working for. Happiness, peace, to get along and gel in society. This drives anti social people nuts. They HATE social norms. People being happy is equal to a crime for them, they are offended by it. They will charm and schmooze people they perceive as happy simply to get in and destroy. Scary stuff.
03:06 PM on 05/17/2012
continued ................
On a positive note, After the age of 10, when the primary abuser abandoned the family and they moved out of the projects, some of the abuse started to lighten, and I had certain adults, mainly Mr. Egan from Elihu Burrit, and Mr Canton and Mr. Foberg from Nathan Hale.these men helped me see the good in myself, and respected me, and taught me honesty and to respect myself. The were the start of my life changing for the better.
Now uit is 50 years later. I married, had a child, and have a better life.
Long story short is........people should not label children. These 3 teachers did not see a little sociopath in front of them. They saw a battered little soul in need of care and help. I am forever grateful to them, for helping me when no one else cared to.
To all teachers out there, you DO have a huge chance to be a positive influence on a child's life. All children need guidance and respect and encouragement. Sometimes you are the only chance a child has to receive those things. I hope you follow the example my teachers left. I have, all my life.
10:19 PM on 06/04/2012
thanks for the honest account of your experience. I know life gets too busy, but you seem like you'd be a perfect mentor to a difficult kid in need. Maybe when your kids get older and you have the energy for it. As horrible as your experience is, it's a gift to someone else.
02:47 AM on 06/06/2012
I have, in all aspects of my life, tried to "flip" evil for good. When I was young, I decided that all the abuse would end with me. The the parents that abused me would not make me be like them. I would not become the monsters I hated. So I took early childhood education classes. I volunteered as a candy striper and then as a nurses aide in the hospital. I worked with profoundly developmentally and physically delayed and challenged children from bith to 16 years. These kids taught me the most about what love is. Love is selfless giving, with no expectation in return. They taught me to live in the moment, because yesterday is gone, and tomorrow may never come. They taught me that basically, "things" aren't important. People are.
But what I remember as having turned my experiences into good was when children crossed my path who were being abused too. I taught them they are deserving of respect, that they are worthwhile kids with amazing talents to build on. I helped them see the good in themselves, and taught them to cope with things. I showed them how to be happy and stay sane. So many individuals that when our paths cross, I try to help them to see they are deserving of the respect &caring, and if they don't get that at home they can find it in themselves. I basically guess that's what me teachers taught me too....that I can love myself.
03:06 PM on 05/17/2012
As a child, up until the age of 10, I was physically/emotionally/sexually abused. It was like war.every day was another test of survival. I walked around numb all the time, and did not care about anyone but myself, and I did not care about other people if they got hurt. I saw people/children die, and I didn't care. I couldn't care. I lied constantly and told people what they wanted to hear because it wa the easiest way to get through the day without added confrontations. I was severly self-interested because I HAD to be to protect myself. To survive.
The point I am trying to make, using the guidelines in the article is that, as a child, people looking at my behaviour would have labeled me a sociopath. But in reality I was shell-shocked from my childhood war. I was one of the walking wounded.

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wildcali
Ride or die kinda girl
01:26 PM on 05/17/2012
TONS of great reading out there on this fascinating subject.

The more ya know. :)
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wildcali
Ride or die kinda girl
01:16 PM on 05/17/2012
Read: "The sociopath next door" Considered THE leading book on the subject and a short but fascinating read.
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wildcali
Ride or die kinda girl
01:15 PM on 05/17/2012
One in 25 people around us is a sociopath. This needs to be discussed more!!! Most people don't know what a true textbook socio is until they are a victim.
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mgrant33301
07:23 AM on 05/17/2012
minority turns majority.
07:17 AM on 05/17/2012
My best friend's ex-boyfriend was diagnosed as a sociopath.
He did not have any empathy or conscience but it was much more than just that. I'm not sure if it's the same with all sociopaths but he knew what he was supposed to feel and was able to mimic the emotions very well. He was a very good liar no matter what the situation was and he wouldn't even have to think for a second, he could instantly comes up with lies upon lies when confronted with anything. I truly believe he could pass a lie detector test even though he knew they were lies. He was very intelligent and very manipulative. I'm sure most women are reading this thinking that it describes most of their ex-boyfriends, but it was much more than just a typical lying ex. I hate to admit it but I was a little envious of his ability to manipulate people in the way he was able to.
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wildcali
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01:22 PM on 05/17/2012
Thats EXACTLY what they do. They MIMIC who they think YOU want them to be. I have seen a female socio have a complete physical meltdown and literally transform into another person completely right before my eyes when they were exposed as a socio. She had nobody to mimic, she was completely befuddled, lost, within 6 months she had changed to completely different person, gained 50 lbs and was clearly melting her brains out at being exposed. It was BIZZARE. Being found out is their biggest fear and if you ever get a chance to watch the show that ensues, grab the popcorn!
01:58 PM on 05/17/2012
I guess if they are exposed, then they have no "cred" and can no longer succeed at manipulating? I suspect that most lose cred several times throughout their lives and just pick up and move on to less suspecting pastures.
07:53 PM on 05/23/2012
re:"Being found out is their biggest fear and if you ever get a chance to watch the show that ensues, grab the popcorn! '

Your own words testify to the fact your values are sick, and that you would do well to look up the word "sadist" and then check into your nearest Psychiatric facilty for treatment yourself.
03:42 AM on 05/17/2012
I believe psychopathy, as our culture thinks of it, does not exist.

According to Dr. Ravitz, psychopathy is lack of empathy, lack of anxiety, self-centeredness, and predisposition to tell people what they want to hear.

Does that sound like a somewhat random cobbling of traits into a single diagnosis to anyone else? I know people who seem not to care about anyone else, but they might still be aware of others, feel fear, and be blunt. I know people who manipulate others for their own good. I know people who combine two, even three, even all of these traits. One combination doesn't seem markedly more different than another.

Those four traits seem completely unconnected to me, and calling one specific combination of the possibilities a mental illness and the rest nothing seems fallacious to me.

Not only that, but I think all four of these traits are far and away most affected by environments and how somebody is raised. If somebody is raised to believe that they need to be guarded, fearless, cautious with trust, but kind, they will probably develop these four characteristics, but I wouldn't label them a "psychopath", nor unchangeable.

I think we're going about this the completely wrong way.
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Conwaycritic
02:52 PM on 05/17/2012
I have a grandson who fites all of these symptoms to a t - and we started noticing them around 8-9 years old. He has been in and out of mental hospitals since then, and finally sent to Boys Town for treatment when he was 12. He is now 18 and they are trying to decide what to do with him. As much as I love him, I hope he is kept locked up. I would feel really horrible if he is released and does something to someone. When he does something wrong, he doesn't feel bad that he did something wrong. He only feels bad that he was caught. And he can lie so convincingly. So yes, there are people out there with all these symptoms.
10:11 PM on 05/17/2012
I never denied that there were. But here's another way to think of this: I can lie very convincingly, and I don't value rules in and of themselves. However, in order to fit into the social contract and be considered a "good" member of society, I'm perfectly happy to do things that I consider inherently silly (wear clothes, get pieces of plastic from the government that say I can drive, dress one way for work and another with friends), because if I do those things, I get all the benefits society gives me through their end of the social contract. Personally I consider myself empathetic and other-centered, but as Dr. Ravitz said, the "really good psychopaths" don't act any different outwardly than "regular" people. I think if people expect your grandson to break social norms, he will--and if they expect him to learn the ins and outs of the social contract, he will do that too.
11:23 PM on 07/03/2012
yes there are... agreed
12:22 AM on 05/17/2012
All I can tell you is it's exhausting. I was a fostermom of ODD, ADHD, Bipolar, PTSD kids. they do better one on one. One child had harrassed another student, didn't even phase her when the police showed up at my house, kept right on eating her dinner. I didn't think they could place that label on a child that young. Kids are smart, they know when a label is placed. That's a label they don't need, it's hard enough just trying to control the impulse's in their little lives.
03:19 PM on 05/17/2012
I agree with you whole heartedly. Especially because once a label is put on a child, everyone that interacts with that child will be prejudiced because of it.