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WATCH: Becoming Fearless About Relationships

First Posted: 05/15/2012 8:31 am EDT Updated: 05/21/2013 2:17 pm EDT

What makes relationships work? In this exclusive Becoming Fearless video, Arianna Huffington and three high-profile celebs and authors share some of the love lessons they've learned over the years. As Arianna says, "It's critical to have a tribe of women friends whose advice you value and who can support you in good times and bad."

From actress and director Christine Lahti to authors Jane Buckingham and Christine Hassler, these all-star experts have mastered the art of being fearless in relationships while remaining true to themselves. "I think that the most important relationship you have is with yourself," notes Hassler. "The better that relationship is, the more confidence you have, the more able you are to not only attract a relationship, but to sustain it."

The 10-part Becoming Fearless video series is sponsored by Toyota Corolla and will run through August. Hosted by Arianna Huffington and inspired by her book "On Becoming Fearless," the series will explore how fear affects our lives -- while celebrating the strength, courage and resilience that result from overcoming it (or at least trying to).

During the course of the series, Arianna will be joined by noted individuals -- Martha Stewart, Sherri Shepherd, Dr. Phil -- as they examine fearlessness and its impact on love, money, parenting, work, health and beauty.

What lessons have you learned about fear and fearlessness? Comment below, or tweet us all about it @HealthyLiving using the hashtag #becomingfearless. Tweeters will be automatically entered into Toyota Corolla's Most Fearless Tweet Contest! (Click here for the Official Rules.)

To see the first video in the series -- "Becoming Fearless About Money" -- click here.

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  • <strong>"Fearlessness is like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the more natural it becomes to not let your fears run you."</strong>

  • <strong>"To live exuberantly, we must be prepared to illuminate the dark spots in ourselves."</strong>

  • <strong>"The first step toward changing the world is to change our vision of the world and of our place in it."</strong>

  • <strong>"Children brought up to feel that their lives have a larger purpose are more likely to keep their own troubles in perspective."</strong>

  • <strong>"When we feel we constantly have to prove ourselves at work, we give priority to our jobs over everything and everyone else."</strong>

  • <strong>"Being fearless doesn't mean living a life devoid of fear, but living a life in which our fears don't hold us back."</strong>

  • <strong>"Given adequate time and sufficient fear, we may hide so long that we hardly notice we're slowly suffocating."</strong>

  • <strong>"Naysayers have little power over us -- unless we give it to them."</strong>

  • <strong>"Squashing our true selves is a major cause of fear, anxiety, and depression."</strong>

  • <strong>"The more fearless we are in our personal lives, the more of that spirit we'll bring to changing our world."</strong>

  • <strong>"If we do rush in and make a bad decision, let's at least quickly forgive ourselves, learn, and move on."</strong>

  • <strong>"Survival behavior can be triggered by the fear of losing anything that we perceive as being part of our identity."</strong>

  • <strong>"Making the choice to move forward despite fear is an evolved decision that transcends our animal nature."</strong>

  • <strong>"We may not be able to tune our inner critics out entirely, but we don't have to let them run the show."</strong>

  • <strong>"That virtue called manliness is highly underrated in women. To me, it includes choosing to be brave rather than fearful."</strong>

  • <strong>"Refusing to be controlled by threats, guilt, blame -- even praise and blandishments -- is our true calling as human beings."</strong>

  • <strong>"A fear-driven life is a life not fully lived."</strong>

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08:17 PM on 05/28/2012
i have my thoughts on this and i will never be married more than once
08:04 PM on 05/28/2012
some i aggree with but i have my own thoughts on a relationship that never fails or ends shhhhhh i cant say here
07:54 PM on 05/28/2012
lol
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PhoenixProg
Don't make me stop this blog.
11:14 AM on 05/16/2012
Trust. Communication. Compassion. Laughter. Respect. Love. (Some) Shared Interests. (Some) Time Apart.

Rinse. Repeat.
09:46 AM on 05/16/2012
What you focus on expands - if you cannot love, value, respect yourself and feel worthy of all the good life has to offer; how can you feel that way about another? How can you love others? Open your heart - connect to unconditional love and your love flows freely to all. "Love from Inside Out"
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09:42 AM on 05/16/2012
It sure would have been nice to have Dr. Schlinger on this panel. She is the very brightest of all...
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HellBank
Curve: The loveliest distance between two points.
06:53 AM on 05/16/2012
With all the trouble in the world and republicans fixing to close down our republic, women still gotta take the time to talk about relationships. Geez.
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beingthebest
try as I might, I'm only human
08:35 AM on 05/16/2012
And men take the time to talk about sports. Yeah, life goes on
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MaxHeadroom
My Karma ran over my dogma.
09:30 AM on 05/16/2012
Heh......
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PhoenixProg
Don't make me stop this blog.
10:17 AM on 05/16/2012
Women multi-task. Women are able to carry on more than one conversation at a time and hold more than one thought in their head.
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HellBank
Curve: The loveliest distance between two points.
10:41 AM on 05/16/2012
They said the same thing about George Bush.
07:56 PM on 05/28/2012
we multi-task so much its why we win hands down
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mslindab
05:18 AM on 05/16/2012
My husband & I met nearly 50 years ago (children!) and just celebrated 10 years of marriage - the first for each of us. What we've learned is that our marriage probably wouldn't work for anyone but us. I'll bet that's true for most everyone.
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Sooperbohl
Cant we all just get along?
06:59 AM on 05/16/2012
Congrats to you and your hubby
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mslindab
01:22 PM on 05/16/2012
Thanks!
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Dan Covey
01:46 AM on 05/16/2012
These comments only prove that there is no one things that makes a good relationship. Talk about being married, I, myself and my lovely wife, were married over 56 years and she still excited me. As for see each other too much, I retired early, at age 56, so I could be with her all day, every day. We were inseparable until she died. So don't listen to these know it all celebrities, find that reason yourself.....
12:21 AM on 05/16/2012
When my sister married the man she married (good writing) Christine Lahti and her husband Tom let the newlyweds use their vacation house for the honeymoon. My sister knows them somehow. I mention it because whatever Lahti and her husband have that keeps them going strong together must have rubbed off on my sister and her husband. They're still together after almost 30 years.
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sherpeace
Give Peace A Chance! Please!
10:13 PM on 05/15/2012
What she says make sense, but she didn't say it right. You and your partner need to spend QUALITY time together AND quality time with yourself. When my husband plays his music out, I try to be there. When I get my book published, I plan to have him play at my readings. So, yeah, we have quality tme apart and that is important, but you also need to find some common ground. Many couples split up because they do not spend enough time together so she is wrong to say that that is what makes her marriage work. Her second statement about being passionate about something is much more important . . . FOR BOTH PEOPLE. ;-)
09:47 PM on 05/15/2012
My parents have been married almost 31 years. Even before they got married, they agreed that "divorce" was never going to be in their vocabulary. It's not an option. Having decided upon that, knowing that, they eventually have to work out a problem together. I know that I had great peace of mind, as a kid and even now, knowing that my parents would NEVER divorce each other, no matter how rocky the times might become.
11:57 PM on 05/15/2012
Now that's the most sensible thing I've heard on any post in a long, long time. F & F
03:05 AM on 05/16/2012
The fallacy here is that by agreeing that divorce is not an option, the couple will resolve their differences; many, however don't. The disagreements and unhappiness festers and poisons not only the marriage, but the people who are touched by the marriage. Oh, they don't get divorced, they stay married, and if that's the goal, congratulations, you win. The children, however, don't; they witness a relationship, which, though it's survived for decades, is an embittered, stagnant pool with two people in it who can barely stand to speak to each other. You know, when the divorce laws were made more flexible and divorce became easier to obtain, I wondered why so many people flocked to their lawyers; especially couples who had been married for 10 years or more and certainly couldn't be accused of not knowing each other well, or not having lived through ups and downs by that point. They did it because they couldn't stand each other, and not having divorce as an easy option certainly didn't facilitate resolving their problems. I had less difficulty trying to figure out why the generation that came just after this, the one that had watched their parents seethe at each throughout the '40s and '50s, were so reluctant to get married. I knew; it came from watching marriages in which "divorce was not an option."
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beingthebest
try as I might, I'm only human
08:38 AM on 05/16/2012
Agreed. All of us children were so happy when our parents finally parted ways. The fighting and bickering was too much for us to live with
09:00 AM on 05/16/2012
Not everyone that gets divorced can't stand each other. I think a case should be made for divorcing to avoid hard feelings, not because of them.
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crp767
09:40 PM on 05/15/2012
I was married 35 years together 39 years, he passed away 2004 and to this day I miss him so. As for being away from your partner, I never wanted to and we went everywhere together. So when you love someone you always want to be around each other. Together all the time is not for everyone, so why they say oh I was married 27 years, good for you. Everyone is different, what I don't understand is why they have to come out and talk about it. Guess we all have a different love. Love means different things to each and everyone one of us..
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10:23 PM on 05/15/2012
Sorry for your loss, you sound like my mom, my parents were married 33 yrs when my dad died, in 1990. My mom never had any interest of ever dating or re marrying. She always said he was the only one for her. And for 21 yrs, she never did. And now they are together again, she passed last year..
08:09 PM on 05/28/2012
this touched my heart u had amazing parents
11:09 PM on 05/15/2012
Wise words. Well spoken.
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09:39 PM on 05/15/2012
I don't think any of these women are necessarily qualified to call themselves 'experts' on marriage or relationships, I just watched it because I am a big Lahti fan.

And while I can understand people who feel that her thinking her marriage has lasted so long because they are apart so much, and that's not what works for THEM, that doesn't mean she is wrong about her own marriage. Obviously, she is not wrong about her own marriage.

There are all kinds of ways to make things work. There are probably stresses that we ordinary pople don't know anything about, when you are a famous actor or actress. But many have made it work. Kyra and Kevin, Tom and Rita, Al Pacino and I don't think anyone even really knows his wife's name-- Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward. It happens, as it happens to anyone.
07:59 PM on 05/28/2012
i like u Autora
Autora
No micro-bio for me, thanks
02:30 PM on 05/29/2012
Thank you!
07:59 PM on 05/28/2012
this is what i would say too