Move over, Iyanla. Actress, activist and mom, Jada Pinkett Smith, has some straight-shooting, life-fixing wisdom of her own. And she's taken to Facebook to share it.
In what might officially qualify as an advice column -- including a post last month on why marriage shouldn't feel like enslavement and another last year on the sad state of male/female relationships -- Pinkett Smith recently penned an open letter to an anonymous friend seeking advice on loving her husband’s kids.
Pinkett Smith's candid thoughts on blended families draws advice from her own experience with her husband, Will Smith's, eldest son, Trey, and Smith's first wife, Sheree Zampino. It also follows a photo of Pinkett Smith and Zampino with their children, Willow, Jaden and Trey, several years back.
Check out Jada's thoughts on blended families and tell us if you agree or disagree with her advice.
A letter to a friend: Blended families are NEVER easy, but here's why I don't have a lot of sympathy for your situation because... we CHOOSE them. When I married Will, I knew Trey was part of the package...Period! If I didn't want that...I needed to marry someone else. Then I learned if I am going to love Trey...I had to learn to love the most important person in the world to him...his mother. And the two of us may not have always LIKED each other... but we have learned to LOVE each other.
I can't support any actions that keep a man from his children of a previous marriage. These are the situations that separate the women from the girls. Your behavior is that of an insecure child who needs to recognize her own weaknesses that MUST be strengthened to take on the task at hand. We can't say we love our man and then come in between him and his children. THAT'S selfishness...NOT love. WOMAN UP... I've been there...I know. My blended family made me a giant… Taught me so much about love, commitment and it has been the biggest ego death to date. It's time you let your blended family make you the giant you truly are.
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