A self-proclaimed pickup artist raised thousands in cash for his upcoming book -- as well as plenty of heat for advising men to "physically pick her up and sit her on your lap."
"Don't ask for permission. Be dominant."
Ken Hoinsky gained popularity on Reddit as TofuTofu, teaching other guys his ill-advised tricks to make women absolutely powerless to turn him down. Commenters following his lesson plan seem to like it, which may be why he raised more than $16,000 even though his goal was only $2,000.
But as Jezebel points out, some of his methods could easily be taken as aggressive assault. For example, check out his Reddit post on re-introducing himself to a woman after he's just "shoved her aside HARD, seemingly randomly":
I did this yesterday in a dance club.
I re-open a girl by walking up, grabbing her, caveman-ing her against the wall & kissing her. Then I cast her aside and get a drink at the bar. The entire time she is staring like "OMG who is this guy?" (in a good way).
I come back to her with my drink. "Come on, let's go."
I walk her to the corner, escalate kino, smalltalk a bit. Fast forward and guess who is getting a BJ in the dark corner of the club? THIS GUY!
His book, "Above The Game: A Guide to Getting Awesome with Women," will also have tips on "juggling multiple relationships" and seducing women by way of being "random." The comments on his Reddit posts are a mixed bag, but some of his followers report success -- though that success has an assault vibe to it, too.
From user chebb:
Physically pushing a girl is something most guys are thought never to do, but if you do it and it's ok with you, then the girl is going to not have a clue what to do and assume it's ok, as you do, and you're awesome. Another thing is to give a good solid push, as a light push could be seen as a misplaced tap, you want to commit to it ... Also, if you go physical from the get go, then they are much more open to escalation.
We've compiled some of Hoinsky's more ridiculous tips below. We don't recommend actually following them.
I re-open a girl by walking up, grabbing her, caveman-ing her against the wall & kissing her. Then I cast her aside and get a drink at the bar. The entire time she is staring like "OMG who is this guy?" (in a good way). I come back to her with my drink. "Come on, let's go." I walk her to the corner, escalate kino, small talk a bit. Fast forward and guess who is getting a BJ in the dark corner of the club? THIS GUY!
Sometimes a girl just wants to be dry-humped on a dance floor. Other times she wants to spend an hour talking about family, life, and passions. Other times she wants to discuss current events. There is only one constant: It is YOUR job, as the man, to lead the interaction in a way that she finds pleasurable and sexy. This is your mission.
Do something incredibly spontaneous and unexpected to the point where her brain short-circuits a little. Examples: picking a girl up in the air for no reason, messing up her hair, telling her she's "such a bro."
When you or the person you're talking to says something funny, touch them on the forearm when you laugh. It's perfectly natural and establishes that you are comfortable touching. Decide arbitrarily to move to another section of the bar, or park, or wherever you are. When you do, put your hand on the small of her back. "Come on, let's move over there." or "Let's go check the other side of the bar out. Come on." Try to hold hands, or sit her on your lap. Let your legs touch each other under the table as the sexual tension builds. Force yourself to get comfortable doing it - there is no way around it.
Tease, give a playful shove, try to roleplay ("Let's pretend we just got married. Wait, are you cheating on me? Shit, are we gonna have to get divorced? Oh man I better call my lawyer." trollface) Practice lots of different things and figure out a style that works for you. This may take a while but it's a lot of fun while you're trying things out.