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07/19/2013 06:44 am ET Updated Aug 28, 2013

Diane Farr On Finding Love After Her Extreme Breakup (VIDEO)

When actress Diane Farr got engaged one romantic New Year's Eve to a man she considered her soul mate, she was thrilled. Like any happy bride-to-be, Farr sent out engagement announcements and shared in the joy with her family and friends. Then, six weeks into their engagement, Farr says she was blindsided when her fiancé said he couldn't marry her.

Farr shared her story on a 2004 episode of "The Oprah Winfrey Show" about extreme break-ups. "The bomb that he drops is, 'I've cheated on every single girlfriend I've ever had and I will definitely cheat on you,'" she recalled at the time. "He says, 'I don't think I can marry you.' And I'm like, 'This isn't something you get to take away. This isn't a toy that you can hand out and take back. This isn't just going to affect me; this is everybody.'"

As she tried to make sense of the breakup, Farr also had the difficult task of "unannouncing" her engagement to family and friends. So, she mailed another announcement card -- one that had a simple message:

Front: Single
Inside: Picked the wrong guy. Gave him the wrong finger.

That was nine years ago. Today, life is very different for Farr, who opened up about her experiences after the breakup in an episode of "Oprah: Where Are They Now?"

Though devastated after that broken engagement, Farr says she spent the next year focusing on herself. "I made this promise to myself that I would not date for a whole year," she says in the above video. "I needed to move away from the idea of marriage and kids defining everything."

Then, she met a Korean man named Seung Yong Chung and her life completely changed. In the video, Farr shares what happened when she began dating Chung and how their interracial relationship presented initial challenges within his family. Today, Farr and Chung are married with three children (all born within 16 months!) and happier than ever.

"If I hadn't fallen down so hard on my face the first time, I don't think I would have taken a whole year to find out what makes me happy," Farr says now. "And happen to meet the guy that I would later spend the rest of my life with."

"Oprah: Where Are They Now?" returns with new episodes on Sunday, July 28, at 10 p.m. ET on OWN.

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