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23 Things You Should Never Say To A Curvy Woman

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Despite the fact that we should all know better, a shocking number of people think that it's acceptable to comment on women's bodies -- curvy, skinny, short and tall alike. However, women who fall outside of the thin "ideal" face a specific type of weight discrimination. The comments often directed at these women make it glaringly clear that fat stigma is (sadly) still alive and well.

The term "plus-size" itself is a point of contention for many women. Obviously no one should be singled out for their body size, or treated differently because of their weight. But the fact remains that strangers, friends, family members and colleagues often feel empowered to comment on a woman's size -- especially when that size is not petite.

In a January 2012 piece for xoJane, Lesley Kinzel wrote about being criticized for her weight in public places such as the grocery store, the gym and a parking lot:

The frequency with which fat-shaming happens means many fat people go about their lives for years feeling constantly on guard, always prepared for someone to make a comment, to call them out. It doesn’t have to come from strangers, either; often our families and friends are just as likely to throw out careless fat-shaming comments, and not always with malicious intent.

We asked our readers to share the size-related comments they hate receiving most. Here are 23 things you should never say to a woman who isn't rail-thin:

  1. "You have such a pretty face."
  2. "You should wear black."
  3. "You're a big girl."
  4. "Have you ever thought about lap band surgery?"
  5. "I don't have a problem with bigger girls."
  6. "You're big-boned, that's all."
  7. "If you ate less, you'd lose the weight."
  8. "What happened?"
  9. "I wish I enjoyed food like you."
  10. "Don't worry, I like thick girls."
  11. "Have you ever tried losing weight?"
  12. "You shouldn't eat that."
  13. "You look fine the way you are."
  14. "You shouldn't eat that."
  15. "Did you gain weight because you're afraid of attracting men?"
  16. "You'd be so pretty if you lost weight."
  17. "When are you due?"
  18. "My friend lost so much weight on this great diet."
  19. "If you slimmed down, you'd be really sexy."
  20. "Have you checked your cholesterol recently?"
  21. "You should try to be healthier."
  22. "You shouldn't wear stripes/polka dots/floral prints."
  23. "You'd be dateable if you lost weight."

What would you add to this list? Comment below or join the conversation on Twitter @HuffPostWomen.

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