DIVORCE
11/21/2013 04:40 pm ET Updated Nov 21, 2013

Dr. Ruth Says If You Cheated On Your Spouse, 'Keep Your Mouth Shut'

Infidelity is oftentimes a marital deal breaker -- that's why the original sex expert Dr. Ruth Westheimer has a piece of advice for spouses who may have strayed in the past: keep your mouth shut!

The 85-year-old relationship guru sat down for an interview with Redbook to talk sex, dating sites and infidelity. When asked how couples should approach infidelity, here's what Dr. Ruth had to say:

"First of all, keep your mouth shut, if possible. I don’t believe in this open, having-to-tell-everything stuff. If it’s not possible [to hide it] then talk to a therapist about whether the marriage can be saved."

She isn't the only proponent of remaining tight-lipped about an affair; Dr. Scott Haltzman, author of "The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity," agrees -- if the affair is long over. Haltzman previously told HuffPost Divorce , "If the infidelity was in the remote past, it has no impact on your current marriage ... then it's not clear that the marriage will benefit from telling the truth."

However, some experts believe that an affair can actually help save your marriage. Therapist Emily Brown discusses this concept in her essay, “The Affair as a Catalyst for Change."

Brown writes, "People shriek and cry when they are confronted with an affair. Almost never do they realize that it might be the best thing that ever happened to them." She says it's a "wake-up call" rather than a disaster and couples should talk it through.

What do you think?

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