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The Real Reason You Aren't Having Sex With Your Spouse

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A year into her marriage, 25-year-old Lindsey Ellison no longer wanted to have sex with her husband.

Instinctually, Ellison thought something was wrong with her; after all, she was 25, newly married and used to have a perfectly fine libido. But doctors visits and libido boosting herbs did nothing. Medically she was fine.

Ellison found herself in a position that so many couples do -- she was in a sexless marriage, and she didn't know what to do about it. Then she had an epiphany:

"I actually thought I did not have a sex drive at all ... then I just realized that it was my willingness to have sex," Ellison explained to Huffington Post Live's Caitlyn Becker. "I was really in denial, I thought it was more conformable to blame myself than to analyze the health of our relationship."

Indeed, the now-divorced Ellison discovered that it was the relationship with her husband that was the problem -- not her libido.

Now that Ellison is in a healthy relationship -- and engaged -- she says her libido is just fine. Watch the clip above for more on how Ellison handled her situation and check out the full HuffPost Live segment here.

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