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This Is When It's Okay To Look For Sex Outside Your Marriage

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Imagine this: you've been with your partner for a while, and the initial excitement has faded. Feeling unsatisfied with your sex life, you begin to look for it outside your marriage.

A group of women joined HuffPost Live to discuss when, if ever, this is okay.

Laurie Mintz, author of "A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex" explained to HuffPost Live's Caitlyn Becker the conditions under which it would be acceptable to look for sex outside your relationship.

"If the couple has already made a commitment for monogamy, then the first thing is this communication, and that it has to be a very honest conversation, perhaps with the help of a therapist, where one person says to the other, 'You know, I want sex, and if you aren’t going to give it to me, I want it elsewhere,' and that other partner can then decide and they can talk it through."

Twanna Hines, creator of Funky Brown Chick, a website that explores the sociology of sexuality and relationships, also joined the conversation and explained that a relationship can't work if you and your partner aren't compatible.

"Sexual compatibility is a form of compatibility, and if you two are completely out of sync and one person is always frustrated, which will just build into resentment, and the other person always feeling pressure, which will also build into resentment, that’s not a healthy relationship," Hines said. "Dump their ass. Move on."

Watch the full conversation about young couples in sexless relationships below:

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