The rules of wedding etiquette are constantly changing, making it difficult for modern brides, grooms and guests to find up-to-date and correct information. That's why we launched #MannersMondays, a weekly series in which we ask our followers on Twitter and Facebook to submit their most burning etiquette-related questions. Then, with the help of our team of etiquette experts, we get you the right answers to your biggest Big Day dilemmas. Check out this week's question below!
— Durwin™ (@Durwin03) July 22, 2013
Anna Post -- great-great-granddaughter of etiquette guru Emily Post and author of Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette -- is here to help us answer this week's question. Find out what she had to say below:
It’s funny, women actually can wear white. It just can’t look bridal in any way — so not floor-length, made of fabrics like satin or lace, or heavy with embellishments or beading, for example. Frankly, even though it’s technically allowed, most women, myself included, don’t want to run the risk of offending by seeming to steal the bride’s thunder. I know I wouldn’t want somebody wearing a white dress to distract from the bride in any way.
For men, I’ve never heard an interdict against wearing a white suit, especially as it relates to the bride. But if everyone else will be in dark suits, I wouldn’t recommend it. If instead the wedding is such that there will be lots of male guests in light-colored suits, then it would likely be fine in the mix. If you’re unsure, check in with the couple or someone close to them to take their temperature. If they seem hesitant, it’s probably not worth it.