A gentlemen named Gary Chapman* created something called the "5 Languages of Love": words of affirmation; acts of service; receiving gifts; quality time; and physical touch. On Mother's day, gazillions of dollars are spent via gifts, candy, flowers, etc., to let mothers know how special they are, satisfying primarily the love languages of receiving gifts and acts of service.
These are all wonderful ways to celebrate a fantastic woman. However, a fun therapeutic fact about most women is that their love languages are words of affirmation and quality time. So, although I will absolutely devour a box of delicious chocolates and indulge in that day at the spa -- what I (and most women) value the most is the card and the time spent with my family.
To satisfy these sweet love languages, whether she is your mother, or the mother of your children, here are Seven Profound Gifts to Honor a Mother that Cost Nothing:
1. For every year she has been your mother or the mother of your children, write something: a reason why she is awesome, something you love, appreciate, admire, a memory, a haiku, etc.
2. Write down her first name and do the same thing as #1.
3. Write her a letter. Let her know how it has been to be her child. If she is the mother of your child, let her know how it has been to watch her be a mother and/or to parent with her.
4. Get vulnerable. Take all of the above to a deeper level, look her in the eyes and read to her what you have written.
5. Make her a video message stating any or all you would have written in numbers one through three. (Come on, it's right on the thing you are holding in your hand the majority of the time.)
6. Ask her how it's been to be your mother, or the mother of your children, and really listen for the answer.
7. Spend quality time with her on Mother's Day. Go into nature, sit on the couch and talk, play a game -- whatever it is, make sure there is connection and engagement. Put away all electronics (except to show her the video you made, or maybe snap a picture or two -- you know, for a future profound gift. Hint, hint).
If you really want to take it to the next level, make a commitment to consciously honor your mother, or the mother of your children, on a consistent basis. You can do this either directly (by doing or saying something directly to, or with, her) or indirectly, such as sending her positive love or prayer every day.
Happy Mother's Day from me and the two stinkers who make my life fuller than I could have ever imagined!
*Read more about the 5 Languages of Love.