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My Problem With 'Nice Guys Finish Last'

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Recently, Jenna Marbles made a vlog called "Nice Guys Do Not Finish Last" about why she doesn't believe in that whole "Nice guys finish last" thing. And, I was beyond glad that she did make this video, not just because I love Jenna Marbles, but because I'm happy to see someone share this view with me.

Most of the time, guys say, "Nice guys finish last" when a girl they like friend-zones them or doesn't like them back. But is it really that simple? Does it make sense that most girls just find niceness in a guy unattractive? Not really. And, as harsh as that may sound, step back and take a moment to think about how and why being a nice guy would be the main reason for a girl not liking you. There is no clear cause-and-effect relationship between the two. Using that "Nice guys finish last" excuse isn't oversimplifying the problem; it's not addressing the problem at all. As Jenna Marbles puts it, "Nice guys finish last is a cop out." By saying and believing this, you're probably avoiding looking at the real problem.

But, for some reason, "Nice guys finish last" is accepted as a legitimate and logical reason by the majority. In movies and literature, we are expected to pity the "nice guy," who is portrayed as an innocent victim, and believe that whichever girl that didn't return his affections is evil and villainous. And, honestly, I think "Nice guys finish last" is a sign of immaturity. It's a way to avoid maturely understanding the other person's point of view and the possibility that their opinion has value. Using "Nice guys finish last" means not taking responsibility for yourself or your actions and immediately assuming that it's all someone else's fault.

Just to make it clear, I'm not just ranting and criticizing this quote; I am trying my best to explain why it doesn't really make much sense and why you should look at situations deeper rather than just turn to some cliché excuse. So, before you just say "Nice guys finish last" without thinking about it, remember that you are responsible for yourself and that you need to actually evaluate a situation before dismissing it. Do you really believe that "Nice guys finish last" is true, or do you agree with me? Let me know in the comments!