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The Spring of Sexism

Posted: 03/ 9/2012 9:31 pm

You can thank Rush Limbaugh for the sexism revolution this spring.

His diatribe last week was the watershed. Insipid slurs meant to diminish and demean a Georgetown Law student for this offense: being a woman. More loathsome drivel on the airwaves -- a veritable war of words waged against women in our country. Yet, were his words novel or unique? Absolutely not!

Poor Rush (well, not really) and his inopportune timing. He was just being his outrageous, obtuse self; oblivious to the fault lines created by a series of cataclysmic events for women. Congressman Issa's all-male panel discussing women's reproductive rights, which, the next day was analyzed and sanctimoniously criticized for excluding women by -- you guessed it -- an all-male panel on MSNBC's Morning Joe. We got to ponder whether aspirin between the knees was an effective form of birth control, before observing the three-ringed circus in Virginia, where, as the legislature mulled ultrasound probes, Del. Albo bemoaned that the discussions were hurting his sex life.

Egad, all this left women to wonder: are we back in the 1950s? Women felt under siege -- as if standing on tenuous ground. So when Rush uttered another in his long string of sexist slurs -- 'slut' -- this time, it become a battle cry for activism. Ironically, when the bombastic Ed Schultz used the same word on MSNBC just nine months prior, our country could barely muster a yawn.

Something has changed. Women, and like-minded men, have finally had it. And it's not only Rush feeling the tremors -- a myriad of misogynistic rats including Bill Maher and Louis C.K. are being forced out of the darkness to face the light of humanity. As President Obama said in a press conference this week: "All decent folks can agree that the remarks that were made don't have any place in the public discourse." And we all, in the end, want to be decent. Don't we?

President Obama gets it by the way. For the first time in his presidency, he boldly spoke out about the war of words on women. Am I thrilled that it took three years for Obama to address sexism, not really. But am I grateful that he did it, absolutely!

Obama's message goes straight to the heart of the matter: the other victims in the war of words are our daughters. The media and popular culture have a direct impact on our girls' hopes, dreams, ambitions and even safety. Every vitriolic word, every sexualized and violent image, gets mixed into a caustic brew which shapes the ever present messaging in our girls' lives. The war of words scares our daughters away from running for office -- tells them not to lead or seem over-zealous. The war of words frames our girls as sexual objects, valued by their appearance. The war of words decries women and girls deserving of controlling behaviors and violence. Do we wonder why women are moving backward in leadership measures, and increasingly becoming victims of violence at ever younger ages? It's the messaging.

Take for example Bill Maher, who smugly thumbed his nose at us last Friday night: 'I don't have sponsors' like Rush. We weren't amused. By Tuesday, Maher changed course to defend Rush and move onward. We aren't willing to. For all those saying Rush's comments are different because Sandra Fluke is not a public figure, you haven't been watching Maher very closely. His war on words extends not only to women of both parties, but also to private citizens. And while Maher gleefully demeans women with words like 'c*nt,' 'twat' and 'bimbo,' these words are hardly his most heinous offense. He also employs violent imagery like 'choked this b*tch' and 'splayed out on the hood of a car.' Is this the decency President Obama was referring to?

President Obama spoke out and did his part. Now we must demand a national conversation about the war of words and its impact on women and girls. It's not the president's responsibility to police the airwaves -- that's our job. And as I've read over the president's remarks, I still can't find the section where he gives a free pass for sexism to liberal men. Nor can I find a section where he says it's OK to target conservative women.

In 2009, when I first wrote here at HuffPost that Sexism Against Conservative Women Is Still Sexism, it was a groundbreaking notion. Not any longer. Last night, Louis C.K. who tweeted sexist obscenities about a conservative woman, dropped out of hosting the Radio and Television Correspondents Association dinner. Thank you Greta Van Susteren for standing up for women and girls.

It's time we the people finally hold our media accountable for the war of words. Men like Rush Limbaugh and Bill Maher should be taken off the air. Argue free speech, fine. Let them foam at the mouth with misogynistic drivel in their lives as private citizens. But not on the airwaves!

Finally, there's an old adage: when you roll with dogs, you get fleas. David Axelrod may consider taking his boss' lead before going on Maher's Real Time. This spring, finally, enough is enough.

 

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piratesfan23
Thomas Paine Reincarnated/guarding the guardians
08:43 PM on 03/12/2012
" Now we must demand a national conversation about the war of words and its impact on women and girls. It's not the president's responsibility to police the airwaves."

I hate what Rush did. But it's the 1st amendment. And to be honest, it didn't hurt anyone. Words are merely what they are, words. If you use poor words, it reflects the person that said them - not yourself.

There is no sexism in our society. And if there is, it is because of the media and how it portrays or what it demands of women. So what? They do that with every single human being? Who isn't impacted by the media these days?

You want to end sexism - End Kim Kardashian. End rap music. End every magazine on the bookshelves that portrays what a perfect woman should look like. End victoria secret. End all those tv shows about weddings. End Disney.

We are turning into culture of materialism and sex. But no one forced it on anyone. You have accepted it yourself. That is your equality. Before women in the 1950's women were treated as humble, simple, prestine, homemakers/caregivers...Now they have become like men. Well, men and women both enjoy materialism and sex now. You wanted to make money, here ya go. You wanted more responsibility. there it is. This is exactly what you wanted. Now just accept it and quit whining.
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piratesfan23
Thomas Paine Reincarnated/guarding the guardians
08:55 PM on 03/12/2012
Men get called a bunch of names all the time. Rush has called many, many, many men a bunch of things. Either your equal or not. But you can't revert back to the collectivist "all women unite" call everytime something happens you don't like. That's not equality.

Equality is the 1st amendment. What you want is called inequality. That is when you don't like something, so you want your group, race, class, ethnicity, to receive special treatment at the expense of everyone else..

"But this is for all people" - Yeah, but you wanted it. No one else did. That;s like saying because 10 people wanted vegetarian to eat and 90 people wanted steak. When you demand everyone eat the vegetarian dish - we are all supposed to be happy because there was something to eat.

Your equality comes to you, from your amendments, from your individual liberties. Government doesn't give you rights, it can only take them away. What you are asking for, will only create greater inequality.

Just don't watch rush or maher, I don't. And move on with your life, focusing on real issues that women need support with.
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Carla van der Meer
in scientia opportunatis
03:32 PM on 03/11/2012
Not only are words and images degrading to women, but the continued bombardment with them also shapes how men and boys treat women. By using degrading language you diminish the subject and in doing so, free yourself to treat them as inferior.
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tpk
having a sense of humor is priceless
05:04 PM on 03/11/2012
agree
05:10 PM on 03/11/2012
Journalist Helen Smith denounced the ads that bash men or show them in a bad light. "Very disturbing hate speech against husbands, fathers, and even boys." Advice Goddess Amy Alkon titled her op-ed, "Hating Men – Supposedly for the Greater Good." One distraught mother responded to the Dallas Morning News article by writing, "I took my son aside after seeing it and explained to him how certain women in this society abuse their positions to promote hatred towards men and boys."

From its beginnings three decades ago, the domestic violence industry has been plagued by a cabal of pinkshirts who will do almost anything to advance their agenda.

Erin Pizzey, founder of the first domestic violence shelter in England, let the cat out of the bag when she revealed many of the women in her shelter were as abusive as the men they had left. In retaliation, feminists issued death threats and eventually forced her to flee the country.

In the United States, Dr. Suzanne Steinmetz' research on the Battered Husband Syndrome triggered a whispering campaign designed to torpedo her impending promotion, as well as a bomb threat at her daughter's wedding.
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Carla van der Meer
in scientia opportunatis
05:20 PM on 03/11/2012
I don't agree with men being degraded either. Quite the contrary. I loathe seeing media depictions of men as nothing more than bumbling over size children. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignit and respect.
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Carla van der Meer
in scientia opportunatis
06:20 PM on 03/11/2012
I find the negative portrayals of men equally distasteful. They should not shown as one dimensional stereotypes either.
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wakawaka09
Capitalism is a cult.
02:28 PM on 03/11/2012
Why the attack on men? what about Palin, Coulter, Maulkin et al?
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terriblyconfused
A micro-bio? Really? REALLY?
01:28 PM on 03/11/2012
" Men like Rush Limbaugh and Bill Maher should be taken off the air"

Who is the decider about what is "correct speech"? No, if you don't agree with what Rush or Bill have to say, boycott their programs. Write to their sponsers (Yes, that includes HBO) and tell them you won't use their products. If enough people agree with you, they will be taken off the air.
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DSevere
Deviant mind
05:09 PM on 03/11/2012
I agree with you.

To paraphrase a famous quote, "Sir, I disagree vehemently with what you say but I will defend to the de.ath your right to say it."

Preserving the 1st Amendment should be the first priority, at all times, it is the thing from which all other freedoms flow.
09:43 AM on 03/11/2012
Studys and research have only proven the same thing over and over.Women commit most child abuse in intact biological families. When the man is removed from the family the children are at greater risk. * Mother-only households are more dangerous to children than father- only households. * Children are 3 times more likely to be fatally abused in Mother-only Households than in Father-only Households, and many times more likely in households where the mother cohabits with a man other than the biological father. * Children raised in Single-mother Households are 8 times more likely to become killers than children raised with their biological father.

Other studies reveal more about female violence against children: * Women hit their male children more frequently and more severely than they hit their female children. * Women commit 55% of child murders and 64% of their victims are male children. * Eighty two percent of the general population had their first experience of violence at the hands of women, usually their mother.
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trthsetsfree2
10:47 AM on 03/11/2012
It is unfortunate if this is the truth however the truth shall set us free. This is all the more reason to support Shared Parenting Legislation. SPL presumes equal custody for men and women in child custody cases. Therefore fewer men will be subordinated to be just visitors and payers. Fathers will also have direct responsibility to their children with their own resources and more fathers will be willing to take care of children. Provided this information is true, the entitlements such as primary custody and child support payments serve to hurt the children more than help them. Every responsible man and woman should contact their legislators and pastors to increase support for Shared Parenting Legislation. Irresponsible people will do nothing. Martin L King said it well. We are in more danger from those who sit idly by and allow injustice to happen than we are from those who practice injustice.
"Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere."
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carlamariee
Mama told me there'd be days like this
08:40 AM on 03/12/2012
That the kids spend the most time with the parent who was the primary caregiver is the most fair to the kids. That that primary caregiver could be either the mother or father is what's fair to the parents.
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All Heart
12:56 PM on 03/11/2012
All the more reason to provide affordable birth control.
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skumarweb
09:03 AM on 03/11/2012
A factual correction is in order for this article regarding Ed Schultz.

"Ed Schultz used the same word on MSNBC just nine months prior, our country could barely muster a yawn."

Ed did use the slur, on his radio show and later apologised on his MSNBC show, on same day. There was lot of backlash and firestorm then about Ed and he was off air for one week.
His unqualified apology was later accepted.
07:52 AM on 03/11/2012
Woman good, man bad.
08:41 AM on 03/11/2012
simple ton
01:55 AM on 03/11/2012
I feel for women today having their reproductive rights under attack because I can tell you as a man that having zero reproductive rights really sucks.
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MissTake1989
Equal means equal, hypocrites.
09:09 AM on 03/11/2012
Very well done.
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trthsetsfree2
10:49 AM on 03/11/2012
Excellent!
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abhorson
in favor of legalized bar fighting
01:41 AM on 03/11/2012
So, basically free-speech is gone... freedom of thought if it conflict with political correctness, gone...

No longer a country where speech and thought and opinions are protected as long as we follow the rule of law...

now, if speech is insulting, we immediately "tie" it to some kind of abuse or violence and try to ban it ...

we're going to have the "S" word and the "B" word and we'll be a better society ... that no free person will want to live in.
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DSevere
Deviant mind
05:12 PM on 03/11/2012
Thank you. I keep trying to say the same thing and somehow my posts are not showing up. Funny thing, that...
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abhorson
in favor of legalized bar fighting
02:57 AM on 03/13/2012
whatever you think I will intercept and claim credit....
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tpk
having a sense of humor is priceless
05:26 PM on 03/11/2012
the freedom speech is not gone, nor is the freedom to boycott advertisers
and the hate speech does lead to physical violence sometimes
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abhorson
in favor of legalized bar fighting
03:07 AM on 03/13/2012
boycott anything you want ... but the idea of "boycotting" an advertiser IS ANTI-FREE SPEECH... it is, a way of INTIMIDATION and of shutting people up.... it is legal, but it is the antithesis of a free society....

instead of boycotting advertisers FIGHT against an ugly idea with a good one ... in the end the good idea WILL win.

Hate speech - any speech - does NOT and CANNOT lead to violence - once you somehow link "ideas" and "words" to violence, you're on a slippery path to banning any speech that somehow, directly or indirectly "causes" or "influence" or "leads to" some possible "action" (including but limited to "violence")

let speech not just "words" but other "expressions" of speech remain free ....
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10:36 PM on 03/10/2012
"Men like Rush Limbaugh and Bill Maher should be taken off the air. Argue free speech, fine. Let them foam at the mouth with misogynistic drivel in their lives as private citizens. But not on the airwaves!"

We're going to need freedom of speech one day (like today) but it's not going to be there because too many of us don't like what others have to say. I CERTAINLY don't dig what either of these guys spew on their respective shows, but I just don't watch them. Both of themn play to a very narrow audience; the general public doesn't like them.

As of now, numerous subjects can no longer be discussed in public. More and more topics are considered taboo, and dissenters are punished for simply speaking their minds. It's not a good development. We DO need more civility, but not censorship.
Zip Zinzel
If a Nation expects to be both Ignorant & Free . .
12:03 AM on 03/11/2012
I'm with ya Starman

As much as I dislike Rush's filth, I prefer that it be out in the open, as a reminder to those who have forgotten what he is really all about
And for those, who don't yet know, and need to be educated.

BUT I ALSO AGREE WITH THOSE who are trying to dissuade his sponsors from continuing to financially support his hated, lies, and filth.
THAT'S FREE SPEECH TOO ! ! !
11:02 AM on 03/11/2012
Very true! We're reaching a point of fanatical censorship. I don't care for Rush or Bill, so I don't watch/listen to them. Simple as that!
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09:56 PM on 03/10/2012
Yet Obama is more than happy to take a million dollars from Maher. If he really wanted to set an example, he would give the money back.

As well, Axelrod, Debbie Wasserman-Shultz and Gloria Steinem would do well to stay off Maher's show.
nonethewyzzer
Master of neither subtlety nor style.....
04:47 PM on 03/11/2012
Correction: The SUPERPAC that is supporting Obama accepted a million dollars from Maher. NOT Obama or his campaign. (And who do we have to thank for Citizens United and SuperPAC'S? Hint: It ain't Obama)

There's a difference....
09:47 PM on 03/10/2012
If those Companies that want me to buy their products support the trash on the radio and tv then I'll not buy their products - ever. And I'll convince family and friends as well. Best way to not support people whose command of the English language is so poor .
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Razpooten
Nil homini certum est
01:28 AM on 03/11/2012
I concur with your posture absolutely.
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Badger33
I'm trying real hard to be the shepherd.
09:39 PM on 03/10/2012
Bad words but, sort of a false equivalency, given that Maher supports reproductive rights.
01:54 PM on 03/11/2012
then you wouldn't mind if someone refered to someone in your family using the c word, hows that for false equivancy
09:36 PM on 03/10/2012
OK, ladies, it's up to you. It's still "one man (or woman), one vote" in this country. There are more women voters than men. If you're really serious about stopping this humiliating nonsense, then please...

QUIT....ELECTING....REPUBLICANS!
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momoluvsu
We live in a parallel universe
10:31 PM on 03/10/2012
That's my plan Jack
11:04 AM on 03/11/2012
Ridiculous! Both parties have their "goods & bads." - A one party system is a dictatorship.