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It's Time to Take the "Gay" Out of Marriage

Posted: 05/17/2012 10:50 am

It's been a week since North Carolina voters chose to continue discriminating against homosexuals, President Obama chose to make history by publicly declaring his support for gay marriage, and Mitt Romney was outed as a teenaged gay-basher. In 2012 America, are we really still debating whether any segment of our population deserves civil rights and equality? Pardon me if I think we're living in one very fucked up country right now.

I'm tired of all the anti-gay rhetoric. To the homophobes I say one thing: you're ignorant. I don't care how many of you in your backward states choose to vote against marriage equality. Many of you would also vote to bring back slavery if you could. A majority of hateful bigots doesn't make for an abundance of logic. It just means there's still a lot of truly horrible people living amongst us who are so ignorant, intolerant and frightened that they'd deny two people, any people, the right to live and love like everyone else. Shame on you.

A common argument of the haters is that gays "choose" who and what they are, unlike others who are born the way they are, and therefore don't deserve the same protections under the law. Well then, does that logic apply to religion? Everyone chooses what religion if any they observe. So I guess it's ok to discriminate against people of faith? I'm sure evangelicals would agree with that one, right?

How comically ironic that North Carolina last week, as its voters went to the polls to continue persecuting gays, was in the midst of its prosecution of John Edwards, perhaps the most despicable philandering heterosexual in the country. Can someone please explain to me why this so-called sacred institution should be reserved only for people like Edwards who defile and disgrace it so reprehensibly?

 

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05:06 AM on 05/18/2012
Well, I am one the the majority in the US that does not support gay marriage. It is immoral, unethical and physically wrong. Marriage is between a man and a woman. Not a man and a dog, woman and a horse, man and a man. Thank god the majority of american's regardless of political and moral affiliation do not believe in same sex marriage. As a side note, there is no such thing as a homophobe. That is just a word made up by homosexuals to give them an air of believe-ability. It has failed. I for one do not hate homosexuals. I abhor their behavior as do most americans. They have no place in society and definitely not around children where they push their disgusting behavior.
04:34 PM on 05/17/2012
As long as homosexuals continue to try to redefine God's holy institution of marriage, yes.
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Andy Ostroy
09:24 PM on 05/17/2012
This is a joke, right? You do realize that 50% of all straight marriages end in divorce, right? Sounds like a "holy institution" in which "God" should welcome some "redefining."
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skillfullmeans
Shut up, ignorance!
03:10 PM on 05/17/2012
It's time to take "government" out of marriage. If the government wants to bestow benefits on people who choose to hook up for the rest of their lives, it should be for all, not some. And if religious people hold the word "marriage" to be sacred, let them have it. Civil unions for everyone, marriage in the church. It's a win-win.
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Gestas
Mountain Man
02:16 PM on 05/17/2012
Marraige is something that takes place in church...Civil Unions should take place at the Court House...
Let's seperate Church and State on this issue..
04:34 PM on 05/17/2012
Well said.
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bluedog24
< I'll vote Republican when...
01:21 PM on 05/17/2012
Well written with valid points about religon being a choice. If you notice, it is mainly the "anti-science" GOPers who are pushing unequal rights for the LGBT community. Teavangelicals are also swimming against the current of history, clinging blindly to their beliefs that the earth is only 6000 years old and people rode dinosaurs. It must be true - it's in a museum!
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Liberal Independent
Love is a Promise .. Kept
01:19 PM on 05/17/2012
I wonder if the evangelicals will discriminate against Mitt when it is time to vote. I understand that the South isn't going to come out in droves for him, in fact on the contrary, many of them are very wary and have a huge problem with Mormonism. Not that they would vote for Obama, the Kenyan Muslim. But maybe they'll just stay home and do everyone a favor.
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demisfine
Often correct, NEVER right.
01:02 PM on 05/17/2012
The only restriction on marriage should be that it be between consenting adults.
That's it.
fo3angels
Equality is only equality if it is for all
01:56 PM on 05/17/2012
Here you and I differ slightly. I believe it should be between two consenting adults, and where there is the potential for offspring consanguinity should be taken into account.
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demisfine
Often correct, NEVER right.
02:04 PM on 05/17/2012
My mistake. The two was implied, and of course familial links should be distant.
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Soulmentor
"To thine own self be true...."
12:43 PM on 05/17/2012
*****So I guess it's ok to discriminate against people of faith? I'm sure evangelicals would agree with that one, right?*****

Ummmm, yeah. It's what many of them already do, at least in their own minds, and they'd do it politically too if they could get away with it.
fo3angels
Equality is only equality if it is for all
01:58 PM on 05/17/2012
Actually, they DO discriminate against people of faith. Some denominations of Christianity and Judaism are in support of marriage equality, performing weddings for same-gender and inter-gender couples. In only a few states are those weddings performed for same-gender couples that also have marriage licenses.
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Norman Dostal
12:30 PM on 05/17/2012
It is vile-the courts need to settle this soon and give gays full equality. Enough is enough!
11:26 AM on 05/17/2012
Fantastic, Andy! I
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Cactusman
Persons of Cactus, Unite!
11:25 AM on 05/17/2012
Thanks Andy. Always enjoy your posts. :-)
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Andy Ostroy
09:26 PM on 05/17/2012
Thank much, man of cactus
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annekeb68
Fairly Unbalanced
11:22 AM on 05/17/2012
Well, to be fair, adults may choose their religion but children do not. They could just be born into a family that affiliates itself with a religion and raises that child that way even if the child has a hard time believing themselves. For example I was born into a Catholic family, baptized into the Catholic faith as an infant and went to mass every Sunday. Even though I mouthed all the right words and went through the motions, inside I couldn't handle the cognitive dissonance that came with the idea that a guy died on Friday night in front of everybody and then came back to life in secret on Sunday morning. I desperately wanted to believe it because I was afraid of what would happen to me if I didn't believe it, but deep down inside I couldn't believe it. I still have yet to come out to my mother as an atheist.
fo3angels
Equality is only equality if it is for all
02:00 PM on 05/17/2012
Actually, my daughters did. Granted, they chose Christianity, just as I did, but did so after examining other religions. Their first exposure being to Christianity, however, probably contributed greatly to their choice.
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Carl Caroli
I just don't understand people
11:14 AM on 05/17/2012
There's two things at play here. The first as you point out is ignorance. I'd actually call it faith based ignorance, because for the most part, knowledge and understanding are replaced by blind faith, facts by myths, fantasies and out right lies. The second things is manipulation, and that is more insidious, since people that do know better choose to use that ignorance to their advantage, either politically or socially.