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The Elusive Vegan Man

Posted: 08/07/2012 12:50 pm

When I first went vegan, I simultaneously decided that I was probably never going to find a partner who shared my beliefs. For a 20-something who had already spent more than a few years living, working and going to school in New York City, this was a narrow-minded and ignorant assessment, but I didn't know better at the time. I assumed that it would be difficult to find many men driven by something that was very important to me: compassion toward animals.

Luckily, I was wrong. After becoming part of the vegan community, I met my now-husband: someone who not only shared my beliefs but also felt as strongly about them as I did. Around that same time, however, a close friend of mine began dating someone who was the polar opposite: a hunter, avid fisherman, and proud proclaimer that "real men eat meat."

The differences in the men struck me: Was it just their natural personalities that were at odds, or was it something more? It's no secret the American Dietetic Association has recognized vegan and vegetarian diets can provide health benefits for every stage of life. So, despite this, why are some men continuing to cling to their beloved steak and potatoes diet, even if it, literally, could someday kill them?

Unfortunately, in many cultures and especially our American one, we're taught that men are supposed to be big and strong and, most importantly, carnivores. We're told that meat equals protein and protein makes a man "ripped." We're taught that a man who eat plants must be weak, sickly and skinny.

The truth is protein doesn't come exclusively from meat and, conversely, meat may actually be making us sick. There have been countless examples of vegan athletes who have not only built up their bodies (literally, like body builder Bill Pearl) but dominated in their sport: Vegan arm wrestler Rob Bigwood is one of the best and track star Carl Lewis says he ran the greatest meet of his life while on a vegan diet.

So, what gives? Turns out, men may just be concerned with how they are perceived. As recently as last year, the U.K.'s Daily Mail did an article about women snubbing vegetarian men. The article quotes Researcher Dr. Steven Heine: "It seems that the vegetarian man is perceived as more principled, but less manly, than his omnivorous counterpart." Is this really how we women think? If a man can't be principled AND masculine, what hope is there? Clearly, it's not just men who are putting the pressure on themselves to eat meat: It's women as well.

Although there has been tremendous growth in the realm of vegan men in the past few years, it's up to us to continue to challenge the perception that a man who refuses to eat animals isn't "manly" enough. With the authorship of books and websites like Meat Is for Pussies and Real Men Eat Plants, the idea that men can be men without eating meat is gaining momentum, and it's important to keep that momentum going. If we're forcing the idea that men must eat meat, we're doing a great disservice not only to our health, but also to the animals.

For me, the characteristics of morally principled and decidedly masculine go hand in hand. Extreme cruelty to animals is a deeply ingrained and systemic problem in today's world, and there's nothing sexier than a man who chooses to live a compassionate life. Caring about something greater than yourself, standing up for your beliefs and not being afraid of how you are perceived make a man truly attractive -- not, as some believe, a plate filled with meat. So listen up men: Going vegan is truly one of the sexiest things you can do.

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When I first went vegan, I simultaneously decided that I was probably never going to find a partner who shared my beliefs. For a 20-something who had already spent more than a few years living, workin...
When I first went vegan, I simultaneously decided that I was probably never going to find a partner who shared my beliefs. For a 20-something who had already spent more than a few years living, workin...
 
 
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08:28 PM on 08/16/2012
Find an intelligent, compassionate and open-minded person to be with and the likelihood is being directly exposed to veganism will convert them.
06:45 PM on 08/15/2012
Hello, ladies.
01:03 PM on 08/15/2012
Agree that this is high and mighty. Be a vegan all you want but get off that damn pedestal by alluding that everyone not vegan is in some way intrinsically inferior
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08:35 PM on 08/16/2012
Non-vegans are always so defensive whenever someone dares to question their actions. So taste pleasure matters to you above all else fine. Just stop whining when someone doesn't think that your lifestyle choice is the most intelligent.
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10:23 AM on 08/27/2012
But isn't that what you are doing? You are whining right now.
07:59 PM on 08/13/2012
Oh I love this topic, and it is so true. The other day I saw a picture on FB showing a fireman rescue and holding a cat and that picture immediately got like thousands of likes from women. Personally I think it is such a sexy image, I found myself staring at it. I think women seriously have to let guys know that those hunters and pretend macho types are major turn offs, and men who are selfless and do the right thing are sexy.
09:09 AM on 08/10/2012
Have you tried going to a volunteer day at a farm animal sanctuary or looking for a local vegan/veg*n sports meetup? When I volunteered at Woodstock Farm Animal Sanctuary there were plenty of vegan men who came out to raise the barns and scoop animal poo, and even in the very red state I live in now there is a large group of veg*n men who get together once a week to play soccer.
03:10 AM on 08/09/2012
I am always confused when people align the word belief with veganism as in " ... never going to find a partner who shared my beliefs." Veganism has nothing to do with belief and everything to do with sensitivity and compassion and truth and reality based thinking. Being vegan simply means making a reasonable effort to avoid being the cause of someone's suffering and death. The statement should be written like this " ... never going to find a partner who is sensitive and aware enough to make compassionate choices."
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12:31 AM on 08/09/2012
The athletes mentioned are definitely healthy and beautiful, and the lifestyle is healthy and full of good value. HOWEVER- how come you can spot a more typical vegan/vegetarian man? NOT saying they ALL look like this- and yes I know this is a generalization but it's got some truth behind it- there's this "look"- very slight, very skinny, usually pale. They always remind me of Shaggy. I will say I've never met a vegan/vegg make who wasn't even keel, calming to be around, and sweet. Again, generalization, I know, I know. But it tends to be true.
06:06 AM on 08/09/2012
I get looks of disbelief when people find out I'm Vegan, because I don't fit your "ideal" Vegan, the fact is you've probably met loads of Vegans without realising it, the only ones that stick in your mind are those that look skinny and undernourished, the reason for this is simple.

Many who try to follow the Veggie/Vegan route suffer from a lack of nutritional knowledge, it is not as simple as just leaving the meat out, you have to combine part proteins to make whole proteins, you have to have a good mix of foods and a varied diet, to begin with, it means you have to do some research, and plenty of label reading, for many, this is too much like hard work : )
12:01 AM on 08/09/2012
As a vegan man who grew up LOVING meat I can say that for some of us, it's just in our bodies that that's what we prefer. So that's why I'm crazy about seitan....and other men.
10:42 PM on 08/08/2012
Glad you found a vegan husband! That is awesome! :) Congrats! Enjoyed the article!
10:25 PM on 08/08/2012
When the media openly acknowledges and doesn't push aside that some of the best athletes right now are vegan then we will know the vegan movement will have made significant progress.
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09:24 PM on 08/08/2012
Couldn't even wait until you'd finished the first paragraph to start smearing non-vegans, eh?

Good job perpetuating the image of vegans as holier-than-thou humbugs.
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07:55 AM on 08/09/2012
F&F'd. I've yet to meet, in real life or through writing, a vegan who isn't pompous and judgmental.
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01:07 PM on 08/09/2012
Today's definition of Irony - judging a group of people by calling them "judgmental".
11:33 AM on 08/14/2012
I don't get it. If someone were Muslim or Christian and wrote an article about trying to find a mate who shares their religious views, NO ONE would call them "holier-than-thou." Yet because it's our dietary practice and we're not affiliated with any religious organization, we're suddenly pompous? Seriously, dude?
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08:12 PM on 08/14/2012
I was referring to her making a moral judgment about omnivores being her moral inferiors, not that she wanted a mate with similar dietary restrictions. Her statement clearly shows that she thinks that people who eat animals cannot have compassion for animals, just like every other judgmental vegan stereotype.
03:53 PM on 08/08/2012
Great article. Here's a brief video that explores why a growing number of men are adopting a vegan lifestyle:

https://vimeo.com/26718309
12:12 PM on 08/08/2012
This idea of vegan men is definitely going to gain momentum... just take a look at the two NFL stars who are publicly vegan: Arian Foster and Tony Gonzales are ripped manly beasts if I ever saw one! They're helping to change the perception of veganism and I foresee a lot of their athletic proteges and fans will follow suit once they see how much a plant based diet can help you out-perform the omnivores whose bodies are being taxed and drained by flesh and animal secretions; it takes A LOT of work for your body to rid that waste and if you cut it out -- recovery time declines and muscle building improves. Life is SO MUCH better vegan. :-)
10:15 AM on 08/10/2012
I totally agree with you!! I've never felt better since becoming a vegan!
05:03 PM on 08/07/2012
I have to wonder if we'll still be having this debate in a couple of decades...There's a growing sense of youth, optimism, and even—in some ways—inevitability attached to the vegan movement now, as children are educating parents, grandchildren are educating grandparents, etc.

Going vegan is the simplest, most tangible, and most immediate way we can demonstrate our commitment to people, to animals, and to the environment. Thanks, Anjali!
03:42 PM on 08/07/2012
So true. Finding a vegan man in nearly impossible, and those here in England I do find are already taken. But I guess I only need find one so there is always hope