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Retirement: Are We Really Ready For It?

Posted: 06/22/2012 6:49 am

Many years ago, on one of my first dates with my now-husband, he purchased discount movie tickets for us using his AARP card (which you can get at 50). Now as much as I hate getting ripped off by movie ticket prices, what I learned that day was that I hated being called a senior citizen even more. I made him return my ticket and pay full price.

Fast forward to today and I'm flashing my own AARP card around with wild abandon. It isn't because I think age entitlements are based on any real logic (I don't). I've just grown more budget-conscious as the sand runs through the hourglass of my working life -- it has resulted in an attitude of greater frugality. If someone wants to sell me something for a few bucks less, my palms are open.

While I'm not really close to an expiration date on my working life, I find that my sights are focused on it with greater intensity. We all know that the day will come when we no longer set an alarm clock. What few of us can imagine is what we do after we wake up at leisure that day. And for the most part, that day is shaped by how and what we do now to financially plan for it.

Me? I'm saving like the squirrel who knows the apocalyptic winter is coming. Like many of my peers, I literally spent like there was no tomorrow during the glory years and then when I lost my job in the recession, it came as the proverbial bucket of ice water dumped on my head. No need to dump a second bucket; I got the message.

I now worship at the altar of my 401k and wonder why banks don't return to those holiday clubs of my youth where you gave them $5 a week and a month before Christmas they returned your money with a pass to go on a shopping spree. It was all about spending what you had in hand and not spending what you needed to borrow. Somewhere, as a generation, we forgot the lesson of those holiday clubs.

I survived my job loss, held it together financially and emotionally. I more than survived; I grew from the experience and wound up in a better place. But when I look in my rearview mirror, I see road casualties who I know will never fully recover. Back a few years ago, President Obama even acknowledged them as road kill. OK, not in so many words, but when he spoke of people who would likely never recover financially from the recession, he was talking about boomers who had lost their jobs. The work skills that served them so well for decades were no longer valued; their unsellable houses tethered them and they couldn't relocate if and when a job offer was proffered; and many who collected their 99 weeks of unemployment later found that the workforce had no interest in them precisely because of that.

I don't know what will happen to those people but I suspect there are enough of them that the government won't be able to continue sweeping their needs under the rug forever.

For the time being, we prefer to celebrate the stories of those who when knocked to the ground, picked themselves up and reinvented themselves. We all need the inspiration of possibility and the hope of a good next chapter.

Personally, I try not to read too much fantasy into it all. As much as I love reading the stories about the 60-something couples who cash in their chips and go traveling for a couple of years, there's nothing new about the rich having it easier. I take more comfort from the stories about people who have successfully downsized and can tell me how to do it. Less may be more but how do you get there from here, especially if you are balancing adult kids who can't find work and parents who seem to be disintegrating right before your watchful eyes?

The one certainty I have is that for boomers, retirement won't be our father's Oldsmobile. We will work to an older age than our parents did, likely have less than they did when we punch the time clock for the final time, and there will be no coloring within the lines of expected. And until then, there are AARP discounts to be had because at the end of the day, every little bit helps.

 

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Many years ago, on one of my first dates with my now-husband, he purchased discount movie tickets for us using his AARP card (which you can get at 50). Now as much as I hate getting ripped off by movi...
Many years ago, on one of my first dates with my now-husband, he purchased discount movie tickets for us using his AARP card (which you can get at 50). Now as much as I hate getting ripped off by movi...
 
 
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Kyrani99
that Eternal Flame is the source of my shrine
07:01 AM on 07/02/2012
I've heard of the word "retirement" but I can't see it happening yet, for a long time. I started a big project in around 2000 when I was 50 and it's kept me very busy till now and there's a bit of a way to go before I get the first part of it finished. Few big fire-breathing dragons to contend with but nothing I can't handle. Actually as the years go by I've found I'm getting mentally very strong, that keeps my body healthy and helps me ward off any enemies, while being able to be more nurturing to good folk. I swear I could not have done this job when I was younger.
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grandmaof9
Batteries->Trash->Earth->POISONED Water
07:47 PM on 06/24/2012
How is it possible that AARP states that I am a member when I have never applied to be a member. I have notified them that the are to take my name off their rolls and they will not. Shouldn't they pay me something for using me as one on their numbered members without my permisssion? How many other USA citizens are in the same lie.
05:50 PM on 06/24/2012
The problem with our country as well as all the WWII nations is the baby boomer bloom is now a bust....as they pass age 65 at the rate of 10,000 per day they are shifting rapidly from credit card consumers to entitlement whiners and their kids don't make enough money to pay for it all...soon there will be only two workers for each one of them....moreover they have not or could not save enough needed for their needs so many of them realize the shock only after it is too late...add in the recent financial crash and you have a deflating economy in the making with nothing the govt can do to prevent it...so fasten your seatbelts and prepare for the crash...it is not going to be pretty...all in God's will of course as there can be no other...google Baby Boomer Lamentations for details...
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gjwarnock
Of, For, By, We The People!
03:15 PM on 06/24/2012
Thanks to greedy bankers and the Romney types many will never retire until,,,,,,
The End!
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09:56 AM on 06/24/2012
401K's won't last long if at 65 you are living like you did at 40 requiring a fat weekly check to make ends meet. Our nationalized pension AKA Social Security levels the playing field along with having your mortgage paid off and your kids independent hopefully. Gain an independent skill where you can supplement your income part time perhaps locally as a real-estate agent or similar. My parents generation had lifetime pensions now it's these lousy 401K's that require $400K in the bank at retirement or more to equal one of these pensions---big stretch for the average bloke.
06:26 AM on 06/24/2012
Holiday Clubs?? We all had Christmas clubs where I came from.
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Lansazi
Quit whining. Obama's the President, get over it
11:06 AM on 06/24/2012
Give it a break. The incessant whining and pouting makes you look weak.
05:54 AM on 06/24/2012
Retirement ?....I've heard of that.......
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LoneTree
Liberty is more precious than life.
03:22 AM on 06/24/2012
For me, retirement was making room for the next generation to move up the ladder, and hire a youngster in at the bottom rung of the ladder. I'm happy enough, and learning a new way to live, where driving a mustard seed through the eye of a needle just isn't so important. But to the reality that people face (and I thank my own deceased parents for every day), it's pretty simple: work every day, never spend all you make, invest when you can and save the rest of the time, buy a home you can afford to pay off before you retire, drive the car you can afford to walk away from. Little comfort to those who are below the curve, but if you're not counselling those younger than you along these lines, you're not living up to your responsibilities.
11:43 AM on 07/13/2012
The least cynical, least hysterical, least angrily ranting, most level-headed and clear-eyed comment I've read here.
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Nic the wonder puppy
When life throws lemons, throw them back
09:40 PM on 06/22/2012
I'm a dog so retirement, work to me they are the same
09:22 PM on 06/22/2012
PPPPPPP

Something I learned in the Marine Corps. Starting to pay off. What does it mean? Proper Prior Planning Prevents (urine based) Performance...

Oh I just realized I missed a P and that would be poor. At my age, you cannot afford to miss a P.
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LoneTree
Liberty is more precious than life.
03:27 AM on 06/24/2012
Also a common saying in the aviation industry ' proper prior planning prevents p* poor performance".
09:15 PM on 06/22/2012
PPPPPPP

Something I learned in the Marine Corps. Starting to pay off. What does it mean? Proper Prior Planning Prevents (urine based) Performance...

AhhhOooh Rah!... without emphasis, just a way of living. Put up with a hell for a few years, but get honed like a very sharp blade, don't lose your edge, get a few benefits that are even paying off at 57 including putting me through College. Now, all you gotta do is go there.

Once always.
07:39 PM on 06/22/2012
So, you hate being called a senior citizen? Just tell 'em to call you an old lady. (I know whereof I speak, because I'm 71).
06:07 PM on 06/22/2012
ah yes retirement.

something I will NEVER see in my lifetime. But I hope people who can, enjoy themselves.
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Rodger leMonde
I call them as I see them.
05:36 PM on 06/22/2012
My only regret about retirement is that my dear and deserving wife didn't survive to share it with.
My needs are met, my health is holding and I no longer have to make other people's mistakes for them to get a paycheck.
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cinmac
05:21 PM on 06/22/2012
My husband retired four yrs ago and so far we have not had to tap our savings. HOW? He had a real pension, not a 401k, and it was with a private company so it was actually funded. Pensions are not evil. If every worker had one you would be able to retire. 401K's benefit Wall St way more than they benefit the worker. So the next time you hear someone complaining about pensions, sit down and write your Congressperson and tell them you think all companies should have a pension, and that SS should be strengthened, not cut so that Wall St will have even more money to gamble away. Every worker has the right to retire with dignity. Don't fall for the GOP's divisive tactics. They want you to be mad at public workers, unions, gays, hispanics....everyone but them, so they can contiue to strip away your quality of life while you are not looking.
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LHoney
REINSTATE GLASS STEAGALL!!!
08:56 PM on 06/22/2012
Amen. I would be embarrassed to tell you how much is in my 401K after the crash. Even before the crash, it was no where near enough to retire on. We do own some real estate, but my husband and I expect we will have to work until we drop...
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LoneTree
Liberty is more precious than life.
03:30 AM on 06/24/2012
" Every worker has the right to retire with dignity."

Bullcrap. Every worker who plans and works and saves and invests had the equal opportunity to retire. Workers who piss away their opportunities have no claim on the rest of society to fix their own bad decisions. The nation can afford whatever it can ... afford. And not one penny more.
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09:59 AM on 06/24/2012
So republican------
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silverstreet
All you need is love
02:40 PM on 06/24/2012
So save your money from your part time temporary low wage job, brother.
And don't ever get sick (hospital bills will wipe you out).
And don't bother sending your kids to college. Forget about orthodontia and summer camp too.

Every worker deserves to retire with dignity. Every worker. Even low wage workers.