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I've known and loved Peter Guber for many years, but that isn't the entire story of why I'm so excited about his new book, Tell to Win: Connect, Persuade and Triumph with the Hidden Power of Story. In fact, not only do I share his passionate belief in the power of narrative, I've based my entire career on it. And it's also been the guiding principle behind the founding of the Huffington Post and what we try to do with the site every day. Facts and statistics are great, but humans are creatures of narrative. Putting real flesh and blood on the reality of what is happening in America, illustrating the truth by showing how it's manifesting in the lives and stories of real people -- there is nothing more powerful and engaging.

And Peter Guber understands this power better than anybody. Recently, I sat down for an interview with him to talk about his book and the story behind his passion for narrative:

AH: What is the concept of your new book, Tell to Win: Connect, Persuade and Triumph with the Hidden Power of Story?

PG: The concept of Tell to Win is about the power, resonance and virility of telling purposeful stories in the room, face-to-face to your listener or listeners to propel your goal and ultimately have your audience take ownership of it and advocate it as their own. The focus is on telling stories for your goal, rather than story-telling.

Why is this such a game changer?

Telling purposeful stories to win is a game-changing business proposition that anyone can do and start seeing results immediately.

The magic happens when you take facts and figures, features and benefits, decks and PowerPoints -- relatively soulless information -- and embed them in the telling of a purposeful story. Your "tell" renders an experience to your audience, making the information inside the story memorable, resonant and actionable. This is the heart and soul of the emotional transportation business which is using the power of your story to bring to life the call to action that you want from your audience.

What is it about telling your story in the room, face-to-face, that is so much more effective than written text or digital story-telling when it comes to persuasion?

Nothing replaces being in the same room, face-to-face, breathing the same air and reading and feeling each other's micro-expressions. At one of the narrative conclaves I hosted at my home, Michael Wesch, the Kansas State University cultural anthropologist, described that there are over 4,000 of these micro-expressions including pauses, eye contact, body language and gestures that we make in the room. They're subtle, but critical to creating empathy. He explained that we subconsciously pick up on them when we're in the room and both the mind and the heart recognize these signals. Current technology isn't yet fully successful in conveying or duplicating these signals.

As you told our graduate MBA students, Arianna, if there's a critical decision to be made, something upon which total success depends, your first choice is to be in the room, face-to-face with anyone you absolutely must persuade.

How has telling purposeful stories been central to your career?

I've obviously used story-telling as a basis for my entertainment ventures (film, TV, sports and new media), but its greatest power has been telling purposeful stories to propel my business and entrepreneurial goals -- whether it's buying and selling sports teams, new media companies, real estate ventures, hiring the best executives or securing the best clients and customers. In fact, telling purposeful stories to win has been the "the secret sauce" behind my career success. The seminal elements of what makes a story great -- challenge, struggle, resolution -- are the same whether we're talking about story content for a movie such as Rain Man, or telling a purposeful story to forge new business relationships or conclude a fruitful transaction, such as acquiring an NBA franchise.

What are your top five tips that are critical to telling a purposeful story for success?

- Capture your audience's attention first, fast, and foremost and keep it.

- Motivate your listeners by being authentic and let that authenticity shine through.

- Build your "Tell" around what's in it for them.

- Change passive listeners into active participants.

- Use state of the HEART technology online and offline to turn listeners into viral advocates and customers into raving fans.

 
 
 

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12:32 PM on 03/15/2011
Every great mentor I have followed uses story telling to engage the audience. Ask me about letting go of the rock! Thank for the great read.

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GaiasChild
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04:28 PM on 03/09/2011
yo Idaho dachnik
I got to read your story and I know there's more. I haven't been on Huff Po long enough to know how you get a whole blog story offered, but I am so intrigued with the permaculture mixed with horse therapy and now you turn out to be pretty fertile yourself and a compassionate caretaker of elders. I tried to reply to your story but couldn't figure out how. Then I tried to find your note that you posted it and it's not published yet. I saw it in my mini commentary box thing. I will see if I can post this in reply to one of your other replies.
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Idaho dachnik
meliorist goat lady
12:26 PM on 03/10/2011
Blessings on you for getting the permaculture-horse connection. Anyone who wants to live on their own daily sunshine would want to know as much as possible about draft animals but I despair that the people who can build a wagon and train a team to pull it are getting very old and few. It is a huge skill set that needs self-mastery for starters, ( you can't control a horse without first getting control of your own body language). My stepson's protege is a black Percheron named Mavrose, and hey permaculture girls-he is available.
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Idaho dachnik
meliorist goat lady
12:19 PM on 03/09/2011
OK here's a story. This picture of me in the borrowed hat was taken after the wonderful time we had at the "battle for Seattle" in 1999. I was a nurse who showed up on behalf of farmers. All my years of tending old people- seeing how care had only advanced from physical restraints to chemical ones, I dreamed that senile people would feel better if they could live closer to nature. I was newly divorced and a grandmother when I got pregnant at age 45! So in desperation I went to a match making agency and told them to find me someone like my grandfather who was a rancher. There was a rancher who needed a chore girl on a very small but paid for ranch in Idaho. So now I have my Care Home on the Range. My life as a chore girl is infotainment for a demented and bedridden lady who lives in what used to be the dining room. My patient is quiet and content with out medication and I enjoy this kind of elder care. I would encourage others to think of HOW they want to be cared for when they get old.
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GaiasChild
loves oregon & a green portfolio . . .
01:59 PM on 03/10/2011
sending you rays of appreciation and love. cannot match make your stepson with my grandaughters as they are only little girls but if you can teach him what's in the Ringing Cedars series, he will find an earth girl to make happy. i think the 10th book is about their daughter but am only guessing since the title is in russian on vladirmir's website. all happiness and love.
01:30 AM on 03/06/2011
I agree. It's called schmoozing in Hollywood.
07:45 PM on 03/05/2011
Sigh. So true, story, emotion, authenticity in ones 'story', human to human is powerful and persuasive. But to hone it to a craft to better 'sell' seems a bit cynical and manipulative. Although valid no doubt for purposes of achieving one's ends.
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lightist
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07:12 PM on 03/05/2011
- "Use state of the HEART technology online and offline to turn listeners into viral advocates and customers into raving fans."

The story must turn "fans" into saying and doing it like it really is. Telling stories is most effective as a tool for inspiring REAL courage. Inspire real courage for the oppressed, not the oppressors - for the underdog, not for the 'got it made-ers'. "For the least among us"
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Patricia Shavers
05:25 PM on 03/05/2011
This is such a salient point. It almost speaks of the old Indian saying, "Walk a mile in my moccasins. I often wonder if the art of personal interaction is lost on our politicians. While we need to hear what politicians say, I contend there is value to opposing politicians having private conversations. Without singling out any one specifically, perhaps some with seriously opposing view, views held as part of a politicians' core values, I suspect that private conversations between political opponents could make a big difference on political discourse. For example let's say a President and a Speaker of the House could meet privately and, as people of good will who really want to effect meaningful change, could just talk, off the record, bearing their souls of what they really believe in and why, citing what in their lives brought them to their points of view. These conversations held privately probably would not change opinions but it could perhaps give insights to each, furthering understanding and cause a more thoughtful response, perhaps even fostering a spirit of thoughtful compromise with regard to legislation benefiting society. What I think is missing could be the human touch to foster honest compromise, legislation that might benefit all without simply retreating to the ideological positions where never the twain shall meet.
10:50 PM on 03/05/2011
What you describe is what politics was in this country up to the time of Reagan. With the increasing doctrinal rigidity of the GOP such dialog is now impossible.... a thing of the past. Indeed, never the twain will meet, and because of this, the American experiment is about to go under.
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02:53 PM on 03/05/2011
Inspiring article Miss Arianna, really thank you , remind me( as you know Greek philosophes) ''Socrates'' in agora how through the narrative he connects and give us life ''m e a n i n g ''..I can't wait to read this book, my understanding he try to said our stories are over time(diaxroniko) it's not only the narattive but the p l o t (ploki) of your story in our lives.In going about everyday activity, every person constructs a story line to plot his or her life.(see Aristophany, Protagonistis),.If we see our life is like ''Prodigal Son'('without religious issues0 the circle of life i mean if you see your life is amazing, had diifer step and part with full of life, love, passion, dissagrements,dissapointments, etc..In other words the circle of life is the p l o t ,this is the heart technology online, being authentic, tell the trully believe, about the story and use your feelings.(collabaration mind and heart).Some people had challenges, some not ..Personal, as a Greek I need more physically expression like eye contact, hands, body lang. etc..
PS:your book thirty world also it's interest..
Again,
thank you..
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old liberal
Don't Confuse Effort With Results...
02:07 PM on 03/05/2011
Good post Arianna - this site allows everyone to tell "their story" so to speak.

It allows posters to share their stories (beliefs) about their points of view.

You had it right way before the book.
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PaulCircharo
01:52 PM on 03/05/2011
capturing an audience through story tellling isnt easy and doing it in a way so the audience takes it home with them is even more difficult. i must read this book.
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raphaelbonee
The snake was right "the gods lie"
12:02 PM on 03/05/2011
The power of the story. Two nights ago I fixed dinner and sat reading an assignment ... Homers Odyssey as translated by Robert Fitzgerald. I know I know you're thinking dull but it really wasn't. The power of story telling has shaped civilizations for centuries. The power of the narrative shaping policy and giving form to everything we do.

On a personal level I just thought and felt ... life can't really be all that bad eating stuffed sausage and reading Homer. The body politic aside life is still really good.
10:54 PM on 03/05/2011
What a wonderful journey is the Odyssey ... I envy you that first magical reading. Relish it whether with sausage or dolmes.
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raphaelbonee
The snake was right "the gods lie"
02:37 AM on 03/06/2011
Ah yalanei dolmes ... grape leaves stuffed with rice ... thank you for the thought. I started in on the Odyssey thinking I would read a couple of chapters and retire. Half a book later I wake up. ready to read more.

I've yet to figure if I think Laertes son brigand or hero. He's not quite home yet having just having found out from his mother (now a shade) that suitors spoil his house. I understand a reckoning is not far off.
08:44 PM on 03/08/2011
It's a tremendous story. Full of violence and action, sex, deceit, far-flung exotic climes, fears of cuckoldry and holy vengeance against one's rivals, a woman's great and lasting love and loyalty against every pressure, magic spells, storms at sea, gods popping in and out of real life, cannibalism, even a cyclops fer cryin' out loud! How can you possibly beat that?
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raphaelbonee
The snake was right "the gods lie"
02:35 AM on 03/09/2011
Yea I know. Wolves with manners ... I especially like the standoff at the end with Odyseus, his father Laertes and his son Telemachus. Something generational ... brought a tear to the old eye.

And juxtaposing Penelope aand Athena ... both hot in their own way. Penelope in the social art and home and faithfulness ... Athena as a gal pal who's got your back on the road.


As I read I noticed ... they didn't eat a lot of vegetables back then. I can't count the roast and tributes of beevies and lamb and goat(always laying up a bit for the gods), and mead and red water added wine(I am supposing that meant it was condensed for travel and rehydrated for drink), and plenty of barley and crushed wheat and bread. But not a carrot or stick of celery in the whole saga.

I'm not complaining but still a salad with a little dressing ... ya know(smile).
11:24 AM on 03/05/2011
If there isn't decency and morality behind the fancy words, the pretty stories are used as instruments of evil. Why do you think America's in two wars we never should have been in? Silver tongued devils selling falsity with glitter and Patriotism.
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joebaggadonuts
Civilization: Evolutionary pathway of choice.
07:29 PM on 03/05/2011
Exactly. Stories and counter stories. If your side fails to tell their stories well, you lose.
04:01 PM on 03/07/2011
It isn't just stories. Sometimes it's truth versus lies. And many times the lies tell their story better.
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MimiK
living in dramatic times
11:04 AM on 03/05/2011
I spent over a decade of my life in the community building story telling theatre method called playback. Our purpose was to shape the life experience of OTHERS into a story that dignified the individual and helped the community come to know each other.

I passionately believe we need more of our story telling gifts as a species used EMPATHICALLY, knowing the Other and building community and coming together, and less -- MUCH less -- story used to promote the Self.
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11:04 AM on 03/05/2011
"The magic happens when you take facts and figures, features and benefits, decks and PowerPoints -- relatively soulless information -- and embed them in the telling of a purposeful (for whom?) story."

Sounds like a recent buyout.....
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raphaelbonee
The snake was right "the gods lie"
12:06 PM on 03/05/2011
A cheap shot at a fine lady.
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ddemos
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12:52 AM on 03/02/2011
Having been part of Mr Gueber's class years ago...I can attest to his speaking quickly...the man can talk faster and keep his thoughts moving at lightening speed...fun to listen to...and smart as a whip.