I wrote an article here at the Huffington Post that appeared on Thursday. It was titled "Why It Is Wise to Worship a Woman." Some people seemed to enjoy and appreciate the article. And some people, well, how can I put it... they didn't.
Last time I looked it had gotten 435 comments. Half of them were offers to slash my tires and TP my house. I started out the long journey of replying to every one, including the offers for knee cap dismantling, but realized that there was no way to get to them all.
So, for whoever is interested, here is an explanation and elaboration on what seems to have been a somewhat inflammatory article. This is a rich topic, and multidimensional, so I'll keep these points short, and hence numbered.
- A lot of comments equate the word "worship" with a sense of making oneself inferior, and the other superior. I did not use the word intending that connotation. To worship, for me, is similar to adore, to feel devoted to. It means, at least to me, to look beyond the small and sometimes irritating habits of the personality, and to see into the essence, into the place where we are all already whole and complete and awake. When you see someone else in that way, all sense of higher and lower dissolves, in fact even the sense of someone else dissolves, and a dimension opens where there is real love.
Most people we know, including ourselves when we first started to experiment, feel a profound and painful schism between the spaciousness and peace of meditation and the often rocky road of personal relationship. Our marriage has been devoted to bridge that schism through conscious practice, and what I have called the intention of worship is just one aspect of that. We do not direct worship at the conditioned habits of the personality. We play with them and make humor from them. We direct our worship to the deeper dimension in each other, which is not conditioned or wounded or separate at all. And conscious worship calls forth that hidden dimension, it brings it to life and invites it to dance. We have learned to be both ruthlessly honest and also humorous with the conditioned habits of the personality. They cannot be made to go away, but it is possible to look deeper into your partner to the dimension of pure and undiluted yum.
If you were one of the four hundred and something people who commented on the article, thank you for your time and attention, whether you were appreciative or disgusted. Since this is a hot topic for many people, I'd like to invite whoever would like to to join me for a tele-seminar where we can actually converse and go deeper together. This is just for HP readers, and it is free. It will be on Friday August 6th and 6pm Pacific Time, that is 9pm on the East Coast. Tire slashers and knee cap breakers also welcome.
All the best,
Arjuna Ardagh