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Fmail or Fountain Pen? The Imperative to Unplug and Slow Down

Posted: 11/23/10 05:03 PM ET

Delightfully, deliciously, but perhaps not surprisingly, my recent Twitter and Facebook posts about putting down your smartphone and picking up a fountain pen instead coincided with Facebook's announcement of their new mail program, Fmail. Facebook's chess move is primarily aimed at increasing their revenue share by garnering more eyeballs (you'll spend more time on the site) and has the stated purpose of streamlining, facilitating, and quickening your online interactions. This move fits in perfectly with the ongoing trend of electronic and web-based communication/social networking technology by speeding up your life, reducing your "face time" with others, and taking you as far as possible from an awareness of your physical environs and body in favor of that of your cyberspace avatar.

Where will this convergence of technology and behavior lead? It's an interesting question, with many active minds weighing in. One model has us losing our individuality in favor of an Internet-facilitated worldwide supermind, something I've mentioned in other posts. Another has us being organically melded to silicon, titanium and plastics until the human being of today are gone and we become computers capable of realizing the true purpose of the universe, an idea seen in the novel "The Einstein Enigma" and elsewhere. Faster and faster we'll spin, blipping from one event to another, never physically touching each other, processing the data of our lives at greater and greater rates until we come up with new syntheses never before imagined, much less achieved.

It's science fiction now, this notion of the human computer being capable of god-like feats of intellect, but just like replacement eyeballs and ears and kidneys and hearts, it's on the horizon, at least for those who can afford it. A certain generation and a certain type of person finds refuge in this prospect, because, as natural as it may be, death sucks, and real relationships are hard work. They see the move toward the cyberhuman as a great relief, and tend to post comments about Fmail and other similar developments that sound like "Keep complaining. We don't mind. Soon all of you fuddy-duddys who treasure organic life and drinking lattés with each other will be gone. Hi Ho, Silver and into the silicon future we go!"

There is, of course, another evolutionary path, and for folks who, like me, suspect technology for its own sake (particularly when the direction of technological evolution is profit-based, costs us our privacy, and is driven by the agenda of other folks who would have us do what they wish us to do) it's a more agreeable, if not easier, option. I'm talking about the mind/body path to the next level of humanity, the studied cultivation of awareness that can lead both to a better planet (seeing things more fully and clearly, we simply can't continue to treat each other and our environment the way we now do) and to more fulfilled lives. Meditation, yoga, tai chi, qigong, and other artistic practices can lead us in this direction, and for an ever-increasing number of people they do.

It's tempting to see this as purely a function of age, but I believe it's more than that. Regardless of generational influences, some folks seem to simply be "wired" one way whilst others are wired another. There will always be some folks who, like the intellectuals of China's fifth-century Southern dynasties, emerge from a legacy of simple pictography to discover the beauty and satisfaction in elegant calligraphy, content and phrasing, but perhaps it's time for the pendulum to swing back this way for all of us. It's not a bad idea to consciously slow down and rebel against the speed and pressures of modern life, is it? Instead of texting how about engaging communication as a mind/body practice precisely because such practices help us savor life instead of rush through it. Perhaps, considering how we know it all ends, it would be better to slow down and take in the view rather than dash madly for the cliff, all those toys of yours clutched desperately to your chest as you fall.

Which path is for you? Do you want to take control of your own life sometime before speed-and-greed eat you alive, or do you want to stay on the train and wait for a silicon brain and a titanium heart? Perhaps you think you know, perhaps you don't. Either way, even though it's easier, try using a fountain pen instead of Fmail every now and then. Take a moment, unscrew the cap, feel the nicely weighted barrel in your hand, run your fingers over a smooth, clean piece of piece of paper, and write down thoughts and feelings to share with a friend. Feel the fine grit of the surface of the paper as the nib runs over it, and appreciate the flow of the tiny, beautiful, blue river of ink. Carefully consider what you want to say, because there is no back button and no deleting the paragraph, either. Notice how your breathing slows and your muscles relax and your mind becomes aware of the buzzing of the refrigerator and the wailing of the cat outside and the chirp of birds and the sound of wind at the window and the dull thud of your heartbeat. When you're done, post your letter in snail mail and go meet someone for tea.

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Delightfully, deliciously, but perhaps not surprisingly, my recent Twitter and Facebook posts about putting down your smartphone and picking up a fountain pen instead coincided with Facebook's announc...
Delightfully, deliciously, but perhaps not surprisingly, my recent Twitter and Facebook posts about putting down your smartphone and picking up a fountain pen instead coincided with Facebook's announc...
 
 
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12:17 AM on 11/26/2010
I have two fountain pens which I love: one a Lamy which uses the ink cartridges and a Parker which fills from a bottle of ink. My high school students love to watch me write - and they are fascinated when I have to open the ink bottle to fill the Parker. They always ask if I will write comments on their papers with my fountain pens. What a pity that this kind of penmanship is no longer taught in our schools. Writing with a fountain pen is one of life's little pleasures.
09:02 AM on 11/25/2010
Thank you for this. I sometimes feel like a dinosaur thinking this way myself. Yours is the kind of thinking that makes me fall in love with human beings all over again.
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MotherLodeBeth
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01:02 AM on 11/25/2010
Best gift my parents ever gave me was a fountain pen which I still use, along with another fountain pen,and then some plain ivory coloured Crane stationary. I was age nine or ten, and it was their belief that writing thank you notes and sending cards for special occasions, is never out of style. And I have cards and letters tied up with a pretty ribbon, stuck away.

Yes, I use email, but this doesn't mean one shouldn't slow down and give great thought to a hand written note or letter, sent to someone. I have some nice inexpensive plain note cards that I keep with me, when I am out shopping, so that when I encounter that extra nice helper in the store, I can make note of their name and then when in the car, write out a note to mail to the manager.

Trust me, with so many people who complain, people so appreciate getting a note that says something positive. Its a form or pay it forward. Or do unto others as you would like done to you. Its also a good way to start a good habit my Dad used to tell me.
11:55 PM on 11/24/2010
When we were courting- yes, courting!- my husband-to-be would write me love letters with a fountain pen. The weight of the lines would change with the importance of his words, and those letters became such a strong visual evidence of his feelings for me. I still have them, and nearly 35 years later, those treasured letters can still stir my heart. I wonder how many people bother to save emails....gentlemen, to really conduct a romance, you need to write a love letter, not post an email!
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kcwookie
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06:31 PM on 11/24/2010
As much as I love my technology, I love a great pen. I'm currently looking for the perfect fedora and fountain pen.
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Phaedrusnyc
The unexamined life is not worth living...
05:47 PM on 11/24/2010
I have never liked using pens for one simple reason- they're uncomfortable. And, as a result, my handwriting is awful. Not all of us who prefer to type do so because we lack appreciation of the finer things in life.
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GraniteSkyline
I wish you happiness!
09:39 PM on 11/25/2010
Have you tried any of those chubby, fat, padded pens? I have a terrible grip and get a horrible cramp in my hand unless i use on of those pens. The fingernail on my right ring finger is actually deformed and flattened from years of improper and too tense gripping of pencils and pens.

And I LOVE fountain pens! But I have to buy the rubber squishy grippy things for them at the stationary store.
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SusanElizabeth1949
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02:25 PM on 11/27/2010
I used to, these days (due to arthritis in my hands and wrists) my handwriting would do justice to a Medical Doctor, so I make ample use of Dragon 10.
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Phaedrusnyc
The unexamined life is not worth living...
11:46 PM on 11/29/2010
I've tried pretty much everything pen/pencil-wise, and generally I am achy, cramped, or callused within a half hour or so. I have no doubt it's because I never properly learned how to hold a pen, but at my age I'm not eager to start trying.
I just find "live your life better" articles like this kind of insular and, dare-I-say, elitist. It's perfectly reasonable to say that people should take more time writing, but to go further than that and say it should be a (very expensive to own and maintain) fountain pen rather than a ballpoint is just ridiculous. The invention of the ballpoint made it possible for not rich people to have the means to easily write and communicate. It was a step forward in convenience and utility. Love your expensive fountain pen, sure, but don't insist that it's necessary or even practical for most people.
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littlepuffycloud
I propose a toast to my self control...
02:53 PM on 11/24/2010
I find it amusing when people gripe about the cost of postage going up and how nobody writes anymore anyway. I write a letter inside a greeting card every month for my 95 year old aunt. It makes her day. She replies back to me in the most perfect (although small) penmanship. Every month. I often wonder who enjoys our correspondence more..
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BlueZoo
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10:33 PM on 11/25/2010
You are a jewel! I write my 88 year Aunt too but she replies via e-mail, as her family is so huge and everyone loves her so much that she couldn't possibly reply to all of us individually. You (and I) will miss these dear ones when they are gone but these letters will be forever cherished. I wonder if anyone will write to the two of us if we are lucky enough to reach such an advanced age! The art of letter writing is quickly becoming a thing of the past and that is very sad indeed.
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Syrlinus
02:33 PM on 11/24/2010
After reading this I had the urge to go and find my mom's Parker Cisele that I had inherited. There is definitely something intimate, soul-defining when writing with a pen (especially a good fountain pen). I try to take a few moments every day to write with pen and just escape from all the 1s and 0s I deal with.
02:16 PM on 11/24/2010
You must be right handed, since left handers generally create a holy mess with a fountain pen. But I agree that unplugging and the personal touch are very important in our world.
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Syrlinus
02:36 PM on 11/24/2010
There are left-handed nibs that you can get for fountain pens. Check out the Fountain Pen Hospital in NYC.
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littlepuffycloud
I propose a toast to my self control...
02:50 PM on 11/24/2010
I never did get good grades in penmanship for that reason. When I taught my little girl how to write her name, it never occurred to me to change the angle of the paper for her, even though she was right-handed. Her teachers never could break her of the habit and now her writing has the backward slant of some lefties.

Long live Southpaws!
01:59 PM on 11/24/2010
I find more pleasure in unplugging my BlackBerry and my Mac and simply getting out my pen and notebook and writing. There is so much peace between me and my paper, without the distraction of the internet. I am able to write much better and think clearer than I am on either of my smart devices. When it comes to my Facebook, that is one thing that I cannot get away from when I write on my blog. I'm also curious what will become of writing when Fmail hits the internet.
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BlueZoo
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01:03 PM on 11/24/2010
There are few things in life that give as much pleasure as receiving a handwritten letter from someone you care about! I realize it's now considered old-fashioned but there are just some things that cannot be replaced on Facebook or Twitter or even e-mail. I've written letters all of my life and I am always amazed at how much pleasure they give. I've even received thank you notes for my thank you notes, as people are so amazed that someone took the time to write their appreciation. I seriously question whether the younger set these days can actually write a letter, as they are so used to acronyms that they don't know how to spell! My son was just hired by a small business (45 employees) and the General Manager told him his hiring had a great deal to do with his application, in that NO acronyms were used and all words were spelled correctly. That's a sad commentary on today's young people!
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Samara O'Shea
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11:40 AM on 11/24/2010
Thank you for this poignant reminder, Arthur. I fear for those who cannot leave their blackberry
or iPhone behind for a few hours let alone a few days. This “instant gratification” culture we are
establishing is dangerous. There are many worthy pursuits that people won’t bother to work
on because their satisfaction comes in time.

For example: A meaningful relationship (with yourself and/or a significant other), a long-
standing career, a flourishing garden, a novel (reading or writing). None of these come instantly,
but when they do arrive, one will find it was worth every single step.

Writing a letter is perfect practice. Send something out into the world and know that the response
will not come right back to you, but when it does come it will have been well worth the wait.
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AMizrachi
11:01 AM on 11/24/2010
I own so many fountain pens that I have now lost count. I find them everywhere; and usually the ink has dried out. It's a cherished chore to wash the steel, gold, and silver nibs under gently running warm water. The most amazing pen I own is a Mont Blanc Meisterstück Le Grand Traveller. My favorite is the simple, plastic, clear-barreled Shaeffer that I used in high school. My teachers loved that my homework was always peacock in color. I think I was the only kid in school who used a fountain pen...
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merrymay
12:36 PM on 11/24/2010
No, you're not. I had a Parker with a little lever that filled the barrel. Lovely feel to those things. Aren't the gel pens awful?
Of course, I was in high school from 1962-5. But even then everybody had BIC throwaways.
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BlueZoo
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01:05 PM on 11/24/2010
Ditto! I also am a fountain pen collector and user and my Mont Black Meisterstuck is my pride and joy. I use emerald green ink! When someone asked me why, I told them because it's the color of money!
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BlueZoo
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10:35 PM on 11/25/2010
Uh...Mont Blanc! It was a busy day!
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09:31 AM on 11/24/2010
Well - I suppose I am already defeating the purpose of Arthur's awesome article...Why, because the first thing I did was to Like, and to post it on Facebook. Is there any hope for me? The answer is Yes! I love the human interaction that only face-to-face can bring. But for the chronically ill who is homebound and deprived of human interaction Facebook is an alternative. With all that said, my 2011 New Year's resolution is to buy a new fountain pen.
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merrymay
08:46 AM on 11/26/2010
It's an effort to coordinate, isn't it? I love living things and have a big houseful. I closed the account here, but missed some of the people I was interacting with. SO, my New Year's resolution is to egg time this and get off even if Sarah Palin's knickers fall down on live TV.