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What's better than a killer massage, a great, full brew or an hour of video-games? When you're stressed out, sometimes what you need the most is an orgasm. But not all sex is ced equal or will give you the release that you're looking for, both physically and emotionally. Different sex positions, intensity levels and moves can actually alleviate the tension and help you relax, regardless of whether you're sweating over money and career, body image or friendship issues.
Here's what to do in the bedroom, based on what's keeping you up at night:
You're Stressed About Your Job
When your office is kicking your ass, you're working long hours and you're dealing with difficult co-workers, superiors or clients, you might feel like your energy is completely drained. More so, your spirit likely feels a little smaller or defeated. The solution? Exerting your power under the sheets. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin says this is the night for some rough, intense doggy style. Of course, make sure your girl is comfortable, and if she is, go hard and get it all out. "It'll help you feel dominant and powerful," she says. "And it'll give you the 'in charge' feeling you're missing at work."
You're Stressed About Your Body
Remember this: you're probably harder on your physique than anyone else. Most women actually prefer a little more to love as opposed to a rock-hard six pack -- trust us. "I can practically guarantee that your partner is not worrying about the size of your belly," Marin says. "She is more focused on enjoying being with you." If you're feeling concerned with the start of a beer belly, have her get on top where she can be in control and look at your face. Doggy style is also a nice option, too.
You're Stressed Because You Have So Much To Do
The onset of spring and summer is always a hectic time for everyone: it's wedding season, business picks up at work, more weekend plans are made and vacations are booked. If you're feeling stretched thin between work, guy's night, the gym, spending time with your girl and sleeping, it's time to let your sexual experience be what relaxes you. "Try a complicated position that requires a lot of concentration so your focus doesn't start turning to what's stressing you out to begin with," Marin says. Her suggestions? The wheelbarrow position, or having sex standing up, against the wall.
You're Stressed About Your Relationship
All couples will have differing opinions from time to time, but what's important is that you make time to reconnect and re-establish that spark. It's never going to be as magnetic as it was when you first met, but by making an effort to put intimacy first, it might help you feel better about the state of your relationship. For this stress, Marin suggests good 'ole fashion missionary position. "You can hold each other close, stroke each other's bodies, and have lots of sensual eye contact," she says.
This article was written by Lindsay Tigar and originally posted on AskMen.