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Life After 50: What Arianna Huffington Can Teach Us About Women, Power and the Art of Being Fearless

Posted: 02/14/11 04:16 PM ET

When I looked up the definition of "power," several words came up that were accurate, but disconcerting -- authority, control, strength, force -- often connected to "over" as in "control over, authority over" and so on.

In the introduction to her excellent new book, "No Excuses: 9 Ways Women Can Change How We Think About Power," feminist and activist, Gloria Feldt writes:

We can start by changing the very meaning of power from an oppressive power-over to an expansive concept I call the power-to. And if we muster the courage to stand in our power and walk with intention, we can achieve our highest aspirations at work, in civic life, and in love for good -- by which I mean we can transform power relationships for our own good and create good in the world for others.

This kind of power is at the very heart of Arianna Huffington's success.

I jumped on The Huffington Post bandwagon -- as a reader -- almost from the start (full disclosure: I now write weekly for the site, focusing primarily on issues that are important to people over 50) and have seen it morph from its business and political roots to become the diverse content powerhouse it is now, with sections devoted to style, entertainment, health, travel, technology, divorce and more, while maintaining its strong political voice. In fact, only 15 percent of the traffic comes for politics, showing just how far The Huffington Post has evolved. Arianna and those with whom she shares editorial power -- the editors, bloggers, and readers -- have their fingers placed firmly on the global pulse... attracting nearly 25 million unique visitors to the site each month, and counting.

The concept is simple: invite people to create communities through blogging, commenting, and sharing on other social media such as Facebook and Twitter. We, the people, become the arbiters. By sharing her powerful position -- as the leader of this site -- with us, she made The Huffington Post even more powerful. I have been able to write about feminism being the new moral compass for change in the world, about feeling invisible after turning 50, the mistakes many of us make in midlife, and about what we feel like when our hair starts to turn gray. All of us who regularly blog for the site can raise important issues, and start big conversations which often generate hundreds of comments, and continue on other social media. It's exciting and empowering.

With the sale of The Huffington Post to AOL, Arianna is the toast of the media world (old and new), and rightly so. She created something with a relatively small investment of $1,000,000, (and many skeptics), and a few years later, sold it for $315 million. That's pretty powerful stuff. However, even though this marriage between The Huffington Post and AOL seems to make good business sense on many levels, there will be detractors, some of whom have already started to air their views in the media.

Why? Arianna figured out early on that the key to power was to share it. And that makes some people uncomfortable, especially those who run traditional media. Here's a snippet from an article by Washington bureau chief of The Daily Beast, Howard Kurtz:

Whatever her site's flaws, Huffington saw a void in the market in 2005, well before Politico, The Daily Beast, or Twitter existed. And that says as much about the old media giants as about her business judgment. "Why didn't The Washington Post or The New York Times or CNN create The Huffington Post?" Jarvis (Jeff Jarvis, a City University of New York journalism professor) asks. 'It's too populist for them. They still think they're the source of content and value and didn't see the value in other people's content.'

We, especially women, have a natural desire to share what we know with others dating back to the proverbial picket fence that separated yards where women would share gossip, news and recipes. As I see it, The Huffington Post is one great big virtual fence, on which readers and writers can casually drape their arms and engage in the conversation. In this arena, no one dictates the discourse... except us.

In "Daring to Be Ourselves," a beautiful book filled with quotes from some of the world's most influential women, activist and actress Jane Fonda had this view of power:

Women view power differently. It's not power over; it's power with. It's about empowering others.

From the same book, Elizabeth Lesser, cofounder of the Omega Institute, said:
What would happen if women became empowered and could lead from their core basic values? Not just put women into a structure that is up-down power, like 'I have power over you,' but what if women could actually influence the way power is wielded in the world from a core feminine place?

It's ironic that my recent article on The Huffington Post -- "Feeling Invisible? Readers Speak Out" -- ignited a big conversation with hundreds of comments about how people over 50 feel ignored, pushed aside, stripped of power, and filled with fear about the future, even though we are part of the largest demographic in history, when the person behind the site hosting the discussion is a role model for all who are afraid of speaking up, speaking out, taking risks, and a woman who firmly believes that by sharing power, anything is possible.

Learn from Arianna Huffington, as I have: stay current; share power; maintain and grow your network of contacts; be on the lookout for opportunities; engage in technology and social media; take care of your health (a "top read" post on HuffPost this week is an interview with Arianna about the importance of sleep); connect with the world; and keep a positive attitude. It's simple, really: believe in yourself and miracles can happen.

The most important lesson we can learn from Arianna Huffington, though, comes from her best-selling book, "On Becoming Fearless":

We have so much potential, yet we hold ourselves back. If women of all ages are to take their rightful place in society, they must become fearless.

Powerful words . . . from a powerful woman.

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When I looked up the definition of "power," several words came up that were accurate, but disconcerting -- authority, control, strength, force -- often connected to "over" as in "control over, authori...
When I looked up the definition of "power," several words came up that were accurate, but disconcerting -- authority, control, strength, force -- often connected to "over" as in "control over, authori...
 
 
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03:25 AM on 02/19/2011
Years ago one of the popular women's magazines used to publish the most admired men and women each year. Arianna Huffington is a woman I most admire. Having been a reader from near the beginning I am amazed and inspired by all the growth and changes and ways the Huffpost has evolved. You are truly fearless, and each day I hope to be more fearless in my life. Thank you for sharing your energy, curiousity about life, and helping to make our lives a little more informed each and every day.
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
09:12 PM on 02/19/2011
I couldn't agree more. Arianna is truly an outstanding woman, and role model.
Thanks for reading and commenting . . .
Barbara
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07:03 AM on 02/18/2011
Fear inhibits a lot of progress or lofty plans meant for advancement of human endeavors. Arianna has done well for herself treading where others are skeptical of quality results financially or otherwise. Her contribution to the Media industry through the Huffingtonpost remains a feat others will continue to envy. I do hope AOL will raise the bars of progress higher after the acquisition process.
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02:47 PM on 02/17/2011
I've only been around these parts a few months. Setting up the comments option the way it was done seems like pure magic to my small naive mind. I hope there aren't a lot of peole left feeling shut out from the proceedings, for me it's more like when I first discovered L.A. in the 90's and wondered why I'd never been there before. The female component doesn't seem to me the primary one, more an expansive quality. Many of the bloggers are exceptional and I wish them very successful careers should they so choose.

I saw something on tv recently about many successful Boomers participating here. They're not going to show up just anywhere. They don't have to.

I think Arianna deserves every bit of her success and I wish her much more.
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
10:03 AM on 02/18/2011
Dear phnxrth,
Thank you so much for that supportive comment, and I love the analogy to your experience of LA. HuffPost really is a terrific concept, and is unlike any other website that I'm aware of. I'm very happy to be a part of it.
Please stay in touch!
Barbara
10:34 PM on 02/16/2011
Great article Barbara. I am all for the empowering movement ~~So Enlightening to just share your thoughts and views and listen to what others have to offer.
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
10:06 AM on 02/18/2011
Thank you, Kathleen, for your wonderful comment. Arianna should be a role model for anyone -- man or woman -- who wants to understand how to succeed by empowering others.
Stay in touch!
Barbara
01:46 AM on 02/15/2011
In all respects Ms. Huffington is a fantastic woman.

She is the anti-Palin!
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KathleenQYD
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12:36 AM on 02/15/2011
A worthwhile article Barbara. I have read both criticisms and accolades for Arianna Huffington. I think she has done an amazing job, in particular with respect to opening up a medium for intelligent exchange in all arenas. Above all else, though I want to send out my acknowledgment for the most forward thinking, open and relevant Living Section that I have ever seen in any newspaper or internet exchange. It is my sincere hope that this expands and becomes an even greater medium for conscious conversation being called for in our world....and as this conversation grows that collectively, men and women begin to see the value and power of a feminine (vs feminist) approach to the challenges we face as individuals, organizations and communities.
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Joann Vallo
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11:34 AM on 02/15/2011
"a­nd as this conversati­on grows that collective­ly, men and women begin to see the value and power of a feminine (vs feminist) approach to the challenges we face as individual­s, organizati­ons and communitie­s."

I'm surprised to read a comment advocating "conscious conversation", include the above comment pitting feminine against feminists. There is a fringe element in any group, but to suggest that feminists aren't feminine is sad to me, and that's what "vs" means. Take a look at gun toting palin. She considers herself feminine rather than a feminist. Same with sharon angle. Thanks, but I'll stick with Gloria Steinam who simply wants women to be treated and listened to with the same respect as men.
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01:22 PM on 02/15/2011
Joann ~ So sorry that you heard my 'vs feminist' comment as suggesting feminists aren't feminine. That is totally NOT what I was saying. Certainly, I am not 'pitting' anyone against anyone, least of all 'feminine against feminists'. I actually prefer the idea that we can all come to the table with our individual expressions and have them contribute to the whole, in every circumstance. Perhaps my meaning got lost in my articulation. My point is simply that, from my perspective, current conditions are an invitation to a new way of approaching our issues and challenges .... a move from hard-lined, goal-oriented, results driven approaches to a more organic, process and emergent orientation than we have grown used to.
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
01:52 PM on 02/15/2011
Dear Joann,
Thanks for your comment. Please take a look at this article I wrote for HuffPost a few months ago that generated a great deal of discussion: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/barbara-hannah-grufferman/feminism-a-moral-compass_b_793759.html . . . it is another way of looking at feminism.
Thanks so much for reading, and commenting . . .
Barbara
11:36 PM on 02/14/2011
To be without "fear" is to be without "courage."
01:48 AM on 02/15/2011
Having the courage to know your fear and deal with it is transcending.
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01:19 PM on 02/15/2011
Hear Hear fan'd and fav'd
07:13 PM on 02/14/2011
it is solitude day today ! true story

i've decided to be fearless and make it Love day because Valentine's day is a big phony.

authenticity demands 2 things : celebrating goddess Juno on feb 14 or the martyr Bishop Valentinus

for women over 50 then it is Juno day [ with some sensitivity enhancements ]

".....To abolish the heathens lewd superstitious custom of boys drawing the names of girls, in honor of their goddess Februata Juno, on the fifteenth of this month, several zealous pastors substituted the names of saints in billets given on this day..... Whoever he was, Valentine really existed because archaeologists have unearthed a Roman catacomb and an ancient church dedicated to Saint Valentine. In 496 AD Pope Gelasius marked February 14th as a celebration in honor of his martyrdom. http://www.catholic.org/saints/saint.php?saint_id=159 "
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04:24 PM on 02/14/2011
As always a thoughtful column.
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
10:06 AM on 02/18/2011
Thank you, Madge, for always checking in!
Best,
Barbara