Q: I heard you talking on Sirius radio the other day and a caller said he has lost his sex drive because of an antidepressant. This is happening to me, and my significant other says she rather have me be sad and functional than content and well, limp. -Seratonin or Sex, Houston
A: While I understand that the relief you feel at sleeping normally, being able to concentrate and not being irritable/sad makes giving up your sex drive seem worthwhile, she is just hearing that sex with her is not that important. Once you make sure she understands how life changing being chemically stable is to your daily functioning (and how you still find her totally sexy and irresistible) talk to your doc about lowering your dose on weekends or taking something that helps with libido. I have a feeling that if you are able to orgasm every once in a while she'll be content, and it will be good for you to remember what it feels like as well.
Q: I'm almost positive my girlfriend fakes some of her orgasms. I've been paying close attention to the differences of what happens with her body and her vocalizations and I think that I can really tell when she is pretending. I'm pissed and want to bring it up to her. How do I do that? -Pissed off in Seattle
A: Now exactly why are you doing this? She gets off sometimes, and the other times she is polite enough to try to give you the impression that she does. Instead of paying so much attention to the variations of authenticity of orgasms, you should be focusing on what the subtle things that happen when she does orgasm and duplicate them. Remember, women have to focus much more to orgasm and their concentration can be broken by simple things like noises, worries or distractions (someone once compared men climaxing to cars going downhill, and women's like cars going uphill - quite astute). Now if you can handle that your performance hasn't been good enough to inspire a big O then by all means, at some other time, gently mention that she shouldn't feel pressured to give a golden globe worthy moan and writhe...but truthfully, you don't sound like that kind of guy.