I Know: You Didn't Write the Headline

One of the most-repeated phrases by reporters is, "I don't write the headlines."

I just saw headlines on Foxnews.com, The Huffington Post and elsewhere that read:

"Candy Spelling: Tori's Actions Killed My Husband Aaron Spelling."

I don't know who is writing the headlines, but I wish he or she would read the rest of their own stories:

"Candy Spelling is blaming the death of her husband Aaron Spelling on the heartache he suffered from daughter Tori's alleged decision to cut off contact from the family.

"I've always been trying to work on the relationship [with Tori]," Spelling said. "I don't know what the anger is. My daughter one day decided that she wasn't speaking to my husband, myself and my son and that's how it's continued for the last, oh gosh, four or five years."

Spelling went one step further however, saying Tori's abandonment ultimately cost Aaron Spelling his will to live.

"It was sad because that's what killed my husband actually. He just didn't want to live after that. You know, he had done everything ... he could possibly do for his daughter and she wanted no part of him once he couldn't do anything for her."

I didn't intend to create headlines. I was asked a question about my daughter not speaking with my family, and I answered truthfully. My husband was very ill, and he had stopped eating and taking liquids. He called Tori on a daily basis, and never stopped asking if Tori had returned his call. We had to say no every day.

I should have known better, but it is the truth. Next, someone will refer to it as 'patricide.' Wait, sorry. Eonline just did that.

Comments

[auntiecairo]

Candy - life is too short -- you and Tori need to quit competing for headlines and just work it out --I'm sure your side of the argument hurt your husband as much as Tori's - but it's over now - so try to honor his memory by being the bigger person and getting over it so you can have your grandchildren in your life. .

[tnlcallen]

It's a sad situation. I've found that there are always two sides to every story. We've heard Tori's side, and to be honest, I didn't have a good impression of Candy before. I think she just gave her side of the story, and now I understand. I hope it works out for the both of them. I'll be willing to bet that it will one day.

[Bramble8]

Please work things out with Tori !

[duncansdad]

Candy,
Be the bigger person. Stop talking to the press about her. Call her and apologize for whatever she thinks went down. Tell her you miss her terribly.
Life is too short for this kind of behavior. One day it will be too late. Alot of people would give anything to have that opportunity. Don't throw it away.

[susanthe]

If you didn't make public comments about private business, you wouldn't have this problem.

[JScott]

Yup read this Candy, there's a teachable moment there. AGAIN!

[TigersEye]

I have a 16 year old and I can't even imagine causing her one minute of grief. Well, except when she doesn't do her homework. ;)

Candy, it's time to bury the hatchet with your daughter. If that is not going to work then take the high road and don't say anything negative about her in the press anymore.

[PatA]

I think that Candy Spelling is determined to keep herself in the public eye as long as she can. She knew when she said that she would be quoted all over the news.
I find her pitiful and a big disgusting.

[Kkak]

Classless witch.

[wietog]

Why are you writing about this instead of talking to your daughter and your family?

Blaming your only daughter for the death of her father in the public eye is only going to separate you more from what you supposedly love.

Why on Earth would you even insinuate something like that?

Do you remember that you have GRANDCHILDREN??? Innocent babies who will one day see these headlines and stories FROM YOU accusing their mother of one of the most heinous acts.

STOP!

[WestLittleRock]

No wonder you all don't get along. sheesh

[bedfordny]

You didn't write the headline but you clearly stated your sentiment. Your exact quote is:

"It was sad because that's what killed my husband actually. He just didn't want to live after that. You know, he had done everything ... he could possibly do for his daughter and she wanted no part of him once he couldn't do anything for her."

Even if you believe every word to be true, a mother should always try to lessen the pain a child has to bear. You cannot state with 100% certainty your daughter's absence as a reason for your husband's death. The only purpose your statement serves is to vent anger at your daughter and place a burden of guilt on her shoulders. Nothing positive can come from that.

[VicDaring]

After reading Candy's "explanation" or whatever, I'm left with two thoughts.

1. Geez. Why did I read that?
2. I can't really tell what her gripe is.

[Ozohead]

Ditto

[RoBrGo]

Cheesy adults getting attention slinging mud is nothing new, but raising small children in front of cameras is inappropriate.

[ccopas]

It's never good to judge anyone, BUT why do these "celebrities" feel the need to answer every question about their personal lives? Next time Miss Spelling just say " I'd rather not discuss something so private" and leave it at that. If your daughter doesn't wish to speak to you then you need to do some soul searching and realize that your the parent and behave like one.

[jbar24]

Candy, even if you do believe that your daughter's actions led to the death of your husband (or perhaps just contributed) do you really need to let the world know that? Do you think in any way this can lead to any type of positive relationship with your daughter, or your grandchildren? Please keep in mind that you are the parent here, and as such should be a positive role model for your daughter, which means showing kindness, compassion, and even forgiveness. I don't see this happening here. If you hold onto your anger, that is all you will end up, not your family.

[Kate Stoune]

Amen.