The story behind a divorce can be full of salacious details sometimes, especially when it involves an unfaithful spouse. In such circumstance, the drama is kicked up a notch and the careless actions of one spouse can wreak havoc on your emotional health and well-being. In a recent interview, celebrity Gwyneth Paltrow said that if she were ever faced with infidelity in her marriage to Coldplay musician Chris Martin, she would like to think she would be forgiving of the indiscretion.
While some couples are able to pick-up and move forward after infidelity. Other marriages however, are not able to withstand unfaithful behavior and unfortunately, divorce is the only option.
But does a cheating heart really play a role in divorce? The answer depends on where you live because the state you live in will have its own specific laws related to divorce and legal separation. In some states adultery may be grounds for a divorce, while in many other states, like California, it is not because California is considered a no-fault state. In a no-fault state, a spouse seeking a divorce has no obligation to prove that the other spouse did anything wrong. With that said, even if your spouse is unfaithful and there is a history of bad behavior in your marriage, it will not be taken into consideration by the Court because essentially, the Court doesn't care why your marriage has deteriorated.
There is a caveat however, in a no-fault state. If your spouse's unfaithful behavior affects the well-being of your children or puts them in danger, the Court will use its discretion and take this into consideration when making orders because of its responsibility to look out for your children's best interests.
So what do you do if your spouse drops a bombshell and reveals that he or she has been unfaithful? Here are some things to consider before you jump to file for divorce:
Divorce is a difficult and painful process that requires you to adjust to a "new normal." However, your burden may be alleviated as you begin to explore your options, speak with both legal and mental health professionals and take the necessary time to heal.
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