You know what's worse than watching the evening news? Yes, it's knowing that the ex you used to love (and maybe still have some feelings for) is going to walk down the aisle with the woman he loves (who didn't happen to be you) soon. So if you've found yourself in this unfortunate situation today, here are seven ways you can deal with it like a boss.
1. Keep calm.
Lashing out on your social media accounts just because you think he doesn't deserve to be happy even for one second of his life ain't the move of a badass boss lady. So is any display of public meltdown. Breathe in. Breathe out. You've got this.
2. Don't let anything negative come out of your mouth.
Badmouthing your ex and his fiancee will only reflect badly on you. People who'll hear will think you're a bitter, angry, and probably crazy ex-girlfriend and these are labels you don't want to be tainted with. So anytime you feel the itch to say something negative, remind yourself of the possible damage it can cause on your reputation. It ain't worth it.
3. Filter your news feed.
If you're still friends on Facebook, he'll obviously notice it if you've unfollowed, unfriended, or blocked him and you don't want him thinking you're affected by his recent engagement. The smartest way to approach the situation is to always take the higher road. One way to do that is by setting a filter on your newsfeed. That way, you can still enjoy your other friends' posts without having to be bothered about their incessant couple pictures and other announcements about the big day.
4. Log out (and probably stay out) of Facebook for as long as you needed.
Nothing can push you to the edge than seeing your common friends congratulate him and his soon-to-be wife and that's normal. So if you think you can't handle that without destroying any non-living thing within your reach, log out. Don't deactivate your account though. You don't want your world to stop just because their journey to "marital bliss" just started.
5. Call your besties.
Such kind of news is usually hard to believe (and swallow). So before you do anything rash, call your girl squad. They're the best people to talk (and cry) to because they get you and your issues better than anybody on the face of the earth.
6. Throw a party.
And no, this is not a pity party for yourself but rather a celebration party because even if he's getting married and you're still single, you were able to dodge the bullet. That in itself is good enough to sing and dance the night away, right?
7. Celebrate on their actual wedding day.
You're obviously not invited to his big day but that doesn't mean you can't have your own. So go ahead and give yourself a reason to book an out-of-town trip you know you definitely deserve. While you're at it, buy yourself all the comfort food you can manage and feast like a queen because you are worth it.
8. Don't mention it to your SO.
You can vent out to anyone (you dog, the potted plant on your apartment, etc.) except your boyfriend. He doesn't need to know and see that you're probably hung up on your ex. He may not take it the way you see the situation so don't even consider this dangerous move unless you're confident he'll still be your SO after everything.
9. Send the new couple a congratulatory message.
They may not probably read it but if they do, you'll be able to "assure" them that you're happy of their union and you can't wait to see how it will turn out.
Flash That Beautiful Smile
Yes, he's engaged. Yes, it kind of hurt but you know you can smile as if nothing happened because sometimes, the only way to get through a painful day is by faking it. Anyway, your relationship ended for a reason and you're with someone new. He may be getting married first than you but who cares? It's not like tying the knot is a race, right? Your time will come and when it does, it will be one of a kind.