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7 Things Men Want From Wedding Night Sex

Posted: 07/25/2012 1:06 am

Believe it or not, many newlyweds don't seal the deal on the wedding night. This isn't due to a lazy libido, but rather exhaustion after a full day of smiling for photos, glad-handing your guests and chicken dancing your rear off. The temptation to crash after the reception is going to be strong, especially if you've already had sex with your partner prior to the wedding. However, I urge you to pull it together and focus on the amazing possibilities that wedding night sex has to offer. You've got the honeymoon and the rest of your lives to catch up on rest. You (hopefully) only get one crack at the wedding night. So make it count.

I recently read Charli Penn's post on what women really want from wedding night sex. To provide the other half of the picture, here's my list of what men want from the wedding night. Brides, take note...

Cutting Right to the Action
Forget the after party trend. Your friends and family will do just fine keeping the party going on their own. He wants to be alone with you, starting with the ride back to the hotel.

That Look in Your Eyes
If he's on his A-game, he's going to set the mood with champagne, rose petals and some sexy music. His goal: seeing that look in your eyes that tells him you can't resist him. Don't worry, it'll come naturally.

Lingerie
The only thing men love more than lingerie is watching a woman take off lingerie. And the more exotic, the better. Whether it's something you were given as a bridal shower gift or something new you picked up just for the occasion, surprise him with a show.

Accessories
Don't stop at lingerie. Contrary to what you may have heard elsewhere, guys do pay attention to your heels, jewelry and nail polish. We love how you look wearing these accessories... and only these accessories.

Foreplay
Don't assume he wants to jump right into the action. The perfect way to rev up his engine is to tease him, talk dirty to him and push him to the point of no return.

Surprises
If you've already been having sex, he might feel that he's seen all of your tricks. Surprise him with a "what was that?" moment to let him know the rest of your lives in the bedroom are going to be even more exciting than he could imagine. Bonus: You'll likely inspire him to try some new moves of his own.

A Moment to Take it All In
After the ride (or rides) are over, take a moment to reflect on the day with him. This is the beginning of the rest of your lives. Tell him how special the day was and have one last toast to the start of something beautiful.

 

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Believe it or not, many newlyweds don't seal the deal on the wedding night. This isn't due to a lazy libido, but rather exhaustion after a full day of smiling for photos, glad-handing your guests and ...
Believe it or not, many newlyweds don't seal the deal on the wedding night. This isn't due to a lazy libido, but rather exhaustion after a full day of smiling for photos, glad-handing your guests and ...
 
 
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LadyChef
I can cook it...and dish it out
08:09 PM on 07/29/2012
Don't they usually want one of the Bridesmaids?
07:47 AM on 07/29/2012
So funny in a day and age when there few to no virgins at the alter. they have done it all before the wedding. Chances are they are looking for a threesome by way of excitement. NO! I am not that cynical.. just making a point.
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headkat1
02:13 AM on 07/29/2012
Happily married for 42yrs. I haven't read anything new at all....lol...you'll both be very happy and tired after the day and anyway, it never occurs to a young couple NOT to have sex that night!!
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fistofthejedi
04:28 PM on 07/28/2012
I like this list!
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Martin Beck
was whelped in the back seat of a desoto sky view
02:33 PM on 07/28/2012
Not to worry kiddies , its just more hard sell . Do what you normally do and not what others think you should do . it's ok you're fine ! Just be nice , listen to one another . I'm married for more then four decades and could not be happier . so there !
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headkat1
02:14 AM on 07/29/2012
ditto!!!
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emmyjwalker
:)
09:23 AM on 07/28/2012
really...? lol I got married 2 years ago and our wedding night wasnt like this. our wedding night was special and romantic, not raunchy or using "toys" lol...Im sorry but I dont go by any "list" when it comes to sex and I dont think anyone else should either! do it your way and how you and your hubby will have fun.
08:40 AM on 07/28/2012
The secret to a happy marriage? Well - this article perfectly describes our time last night. And, we`ve been married 33 years.
08:14 AM on 07/28/2012
He wants to see your "Oh" Face
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Mercgal
He who knows not, knows not that he knows not.
07:31 AM on 07/28/2012
Yech. Marriage sucks.
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atlasusa
low tolerance for stupid low information arrogant
02:07 PM on 07/28/2012
When you are NOT marriage material, Girl.
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headkat1
02:17 AM on 07/29/2012
Think about a life...especially when you're older....do find someone to share with....it's better to keep company with your soulmate than to be alone....
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atlasusa
low tolerance for stupid low information arrogant
07:28 AM on 07/29/2012
I remember when my mother lost my father after being a caretaker to him and to her mother. She was only 59. A year later a guy pursued her. Very nice man. She was very strong and independent. Didn't "need" a man, And I explained to her that if she goes on vacation, years later who will she reminisce with? Who cares about good and special times? When she comes home from playing cards in the evening, isn't it nice when she walks in the door and someone shouts: "Oh good. You're home honey".
P.S. She spent the next 17 years with the man that pursued her and was a VERY happy and lucky woman. Now she unfortunately misses him terribly.

Yes, you are right, Headkat1.
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Mercgal
He who knows not, knows not that he knows not.
06:05 AM on 07/30/2012
I thought I had that, after 24 years, but he had serious addiction issuesand refused all forms of treatment. Now, I value my freedom. If I find the right person, so be it. If not, thats OK, I have plenty of $$$ and can live a great life.
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Lacee Inger Nori
07:28 AM on 07/28/2012
Did I read that right? The first one says "jump right into the action" and than later on says "forplay". Do they even edit these things? And um fyi after all the stresses of the wedding and possible family drama, plus wearing a tight dress and heels ALL DAY LONG now we have to magically whip out toys and lingere? If your guy needs all that other shit (and accessories? REALLY? When was the last time a guy told his friend "man her purple nailpolish was soo hott last night") than it's probably not going to be a very successful marriage. I would hope he would be happy to be done with the wedding and be married. Not expecting even more out of his new wife on such a hectic day.
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tleon12265
A proud American Patriot -- and a Democrat!
08:50 AM on 07/28/2012
No, you didn't read it right. I suggest lengthening your attention span by five seconds and actually comprehending what's on the page. And please tone down the high-maintenance nonsense. It's your wedding day/night. if you can't be bothered to do a little extra to please your new husband, what's the rest of your married life going to be like? You need a reality check, sweetheart. You're way too much of a princess. Also, why would you be wearing a "tight dress" after doing three fittings before the wedding? Your new husband has been jumping through hoops for months to make this YOUR day. The least you can do is show him it was worth it and that marrying you wasn't the worst mistake of his life. Or, you could do it your way and have him calling lawyers in a year.
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emmyjwalker
:)
09:18 AM on 07/28/2012
shes right about being uncomfortable all day lol but honestly, before my husband and I got married, he wasnt "jumping through hoops for months to make this my day." I made sure we both talked about what we wanted and made the decisions together it wasnt just me and him trying to make things happen only my way. and from the sounds of your comment you seem to think only the new wife is suppose to please and do these things for the new husband. wrong wrong wronggggg. goes both ways.
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emmyjwalker
:)
09:18 AM on 07/28/2012
oh and thats a common misconception of weddings. its not JUST the brides day. its a day for both of them.
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Aslow
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09:35 AM on 07/28/2012
you're funny
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07:26 AM on 07/28/2012
A tight fit would be nice
ccsysglf
question the question
07:21 AM on 07/28/2012
ah, a little sleep..
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valonewolf44
It's a comment stupid chill out
06:15 AM on 07/28/2012
LOL This is 2012 to most it's just another night.
06:41 AM on 07/28/2012
You 100% right on! Probably sex is old hat by the time they get married, and in many cases she is already pregnant.
05:28 AM on 07/28/2012
I don't know why they even publish such nonsense as this. If the newlyweds are inexperienced, there is a disappointing night awaiting, to be corrected over the years. We both understood......
04:55 AM on 07/28/2012
Let's hope there was no family drama at the wedding. And that she has time to switch the pearl nail polish to hot red, and let's not forget the whips and chains as accessories, I don't think she wants to continue to wear heels after being in them all day...As for the foreplay...she has to entice him????