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The Humanist Obligation to Serve: Being "Good without God" Requires Action

Posted: 04/19/11 11:18 AM ET

"I would like my life to be a statement of love and compassion -- and where it isn't, that's where my work lies." -- Ram Dass

Ten years ago, in the summer before my freshman year of high school, I went with my church to the Pine Ridge Reservation in South Dakota to do home repairs and work with at-risk youth. We stayed and worked in what was then the poorest county in the United States of America, and it was a hugely educational and personally transformative experience.

Though the last ten years have seen me change my philosophy in several dramatic ways -- from born-again Christian to rejectionist atheist to my current work as a Secular Humanist and interfaith activist -- reservations in South Dakota continue to face similar challenges to those I encountered in my youth. Today, the poorest county in the U.S. has shifted a bit north: Ziebach County, home to Eagle Butte, South Dakota, hub of the Cheyenne River Reservation. Located approximately 200 miles northeast of Pine Ridge, Eagle Butte is geographically and economically isolated, enabling devastating poverty and social difficulties for its residents -- particularly for its children.

Fortunately, the Cheyenne River Youth Project (CRYP) exists. Founded in 1988, the CRYP provides an after-school safe space for youth and offers artistic, athletic, nutritional and mentorship opportunities. As the Interfaith and Community Service Fellow for the Humanist Chaplaincy at Harvard, I had the opportunity to collaborate with the Humanist Graduate Community at Harvard to plan and lead a service trip to work at the CRYP last month.

The CRYP opened their doors to our group for a week, allowing several of our most skilled graduate students to not only assist in site maintenance and upkeep, but to serve as consultants to CRYP staff, designing materials to promote organizational sustainability and volunteer consistency. We also did a lot of direct work with the youth served by the program -- while I let kids dress me up in a ridiculous butterfly costume, bury me in foam stamps, and climb all over me (leaving me with purple bruises for weeks), others from our group encouraged the youth to open up about their lives, lost to them in ping pong, and cooked up a storm.

It was an incredible week; not only because of the work we were able to do, but also because of the tight bond we formed as a group. Both within our group and among those we collaborated with, I saw such profound love and reciprocity -- whether it was the conversations we had with fellow volunteers about the Humanist value of working to better the conditions of life for all, or the simple joy in a little girl's eyes when one of our student leaders, an Applied Physics Ph.D. candidate named A.J. Kumar, gave her a piggyback ride. At every moment, I was reminded of one of my favorite Gandhi quotes: "The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others." Not only did we find ourselves -- we found one another, and those we worked in solidarity with. Our experiences that week truly put the "human" in Humanism.

A month after our trip, I am reminded once again of the fundamental importance of Humanist service work. Just a few days ago, I organized and ran a community service project for the American Humanist Association's (AHA) annual conference -- the first time the AHA has featured one at its annual conference. After years of attending interfaith conferences and Humanist/atheist conferences but only encountering community service events at the former, I realized that if my community wants to be seen as equally ethical individuals, we will need to make good on our values. That we must actualize our commitments to justice and compassion -- for our own sake, if not in respect to how we're perceived by others.

It was open to the public, and of the 400 conference attendees, about 40 participated in the service project. I was very pleased with the turnout, and happy to hear many who couldn't make it express their belief that it had value; but someday, I'd like to see nearly everyone who attends the AHA conference participate in a group service project. I don't think it is sufficient to gather for education and fellowship -- we must also act upon the values we discuss.

This is a call to Humanists and atheists everywhere: Can we set aside intellectualizing and debating, even just for a moment, and start putting our money where other people's mouths are? I hear a lot of talk among my fellow Humanists about truth and knowledge -- but not yet enough about love and compassion. The Humanist case for compassion and engagement is so compelling that it should be more than an afterthought.

Until we make this a priority, we will likely continue to be seen by many as mean-spirited and immoral -- and we will be hypocritical for making the criticizing of the religious our top priority while failing to act on our values with the incredible frequency that religious people do. In this year's groundbreaking American Grace: How Religion Divides and Unites Us, Robert Putnam and David Campbell revealed that the religious easily beat the nonreligious in the arena of civic engagement -- that those actively involved in religious communities are much more likely than the nonreligious to volunteer their time to causes, give more money to charity (both religious and secular), and be more involved in their broader communities.

Until we can show that the nonreligious care just as much about improving the world as the religious do, we've got no business saying that "religion poisons everything." We've got to shift our priorities and start focusing on how Humanism can make a positive contribution to the world. Otherwise, we give people no compelling reason to believe us when we say that we are "good without God."

HCH's student intern Charlotte Arsenault -- a future Humanist hospice Chaplain and one of the most compassionate people I know -- participated in the AHA conference service project, wearing one of our "Good (Without God)" t-shirts. While working, she was asked by a man: "Don't you think it's a bit presumptuous for you to say that you are 'Good'? Wouldn't you be better off saying you have the 'intention' of being good without God?"

She replied that because our organization emphasizes and engages in service work frequently, we can say that we are good without God; and that, perhaps more importantly, wearing the shirt is a reminder and a challenge to her to actually be good, to be a representative of Humanism, and to hold herself up to the standards that she expects from the Humanist movement. He said that he understood, and they proceeded to have a rich conversation on nonreligious ethics.

The Black Eyed Peas once asked, "Where is the love?" It may sound cheesy, but how we respond to this question through our actions will determine the direction and impact of the Humanist movement. And if we neglect the question altogether, I believe that we have no right to call ourselves Humanists.

Ten years after I traveled to South Dakota on a Christian mission trip, I can safely say that it and experiences like it have been more rewarding than any conference I've ever attended, as valuable as they often are. But communities like the one we have at Harvard, where the mutual goals of love and service remain at the forefront of our actions, present a hope I long to see actualized in religious and nonreligious communities alike -- for the sake of Humanism, and for the sake of all humans.

 

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11:39 PM on 04/27/2011
I enjoyed this article immensely and am touched by Chris' call to action. What appalls me is that so many others have nothing better to do than rip on such an important opportunity to make a real difference. *sigh*
02:00 AM on 04/21/2011
"Otherwise, we give people no compelling reason to believe us when we say that we are "good without God."

As if with "the invisible man who lives in the sky" is compelling reason, why do atheists need to prove to theists that their moral foundation is without merit?
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syntax facit saltum
We do not live in a 2 story universe
02:57 AM on 04/22/2011
We actually don't believe this is a two story universe with God on the top floor and humans on the bottom floor.
03:37 AM on 04/22/2011
Hi Syntax!

Yes, you believe hierarchy with god on the top floor. Research shows that in spite of the numerous possibilities (because it is an energy system) for moral codification, the brain will select 1 of 2 cognitive models. The least path of resistance, the default model is authoritarian.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
02:15 PM on 04/23/2011
To fill you lack of knowledge. He lies within




Romans 8:
11 But if the Spirit of him that raised up Jesus from the dead dwell in you, he that raised up Christ from the dead shall also quicken your mortal bodies by his Spirit that dwelleth in you..
14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.”
09:16 PM on 04/23/2011
That believers are relieved the burden but non-believers must prove moral righteousness is a presumptuous double standard without merit. There is no significant difference in moral (or immoral) behavior between self-righteous Christians or non-believers; the only difference is the self-deception that goes along with Christian self-righteousness.

Knowledge is indeed the path that shatters the chains of ignorance.
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Uncle Bob
Darwin loves you.
11:50 PM on 04/20/2011
what the heck is "rejectionist athiest"?
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Dan Jighter
02:13 AM on 04/21/2011
That is an excellent question and I would love for Stedman to answer the question.

Though here's my take. Firstly there's atheists as in a mere lack of a believe that any god exists and atheists as in people who require evidence for god and value not harming other people. The later are more precisely called secular humanists (I use lower case for a reason), but to make my point let's call the later simply "atheist". I want to distinguish between two different attitudes towards atheism and religion amongst such atheists. There are atheists like Stedman who doesn't believe in god but still believes in religion, enough so to create a new religion for themselves called Secular Humanism complete with chaplains, fellowship, and interfaith work. As we can't have companionship without a religious congregation and we can't do charity without religion. Though naturally they will never admit they've made a religion of Secular Humanism. And then there are atheists like Dawkins who actually reject religion, don't practice it, and publicly criticize it; these atheists are who Stedman is calling "rejectionist atheists".

Note that "rejectionist atheist" is also a derogatory term for us, not like you didn't figure that out already. Note such a pro-religion, anti-Gnu-Atheist sentiment of Secular Humanists, I personally tend to not call myself a secular humanist. In any case, I don't like such derogatory terms.

I prefer to say I am "good without both god and religion".
06:48 AM on 04/21/2011
Typically a rationalist, who believes that logic and science can produce good, as long as you have the right reasons, so that "superstition" is the fault. It's the "rational enlightenment" myth taken seriously; the left brain illness. Humanists are polite versions, but they still have this we/they attitude and want to compete with religion and show that logic is better than "superstition". Sam Harris wrote a book directly defending the position and made a fool of himself.

I accept that the theists have it basically right, although I have no transparently real god in my head. Science tells us so. Look at the scientific evidence (or the evidence of the state of the world) that rational consciousness is in no way running the show. Don't blame religion for the way life is and make everyone else "stupid". Evolutionary biology explains why life is the way it is and, from inside the mechanism, it's non rational. We need the bad stuff and the good stuff to survive. Good and bad are between the ears; consciously felt physical emotional bodily responses.
11:31 PM on 04/20/2011
Atheists and humanists are a funny lot. Most are rationalists and they do need their reasons. Chris likes to get people together and do good stuff. Is it because (tada) he's a humanist. Probably not. Life's not rational like that.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
02:20 PM on 04/23/2011
I respond an you can attest the respon back

Unfortunately, they have no theory. The simply mock Follower of Christ, Talk as you will, you will get nowhere. Guess why they mean it when they say, No Nothing, But Humanist desires, wants and emotions

The reason for being Spirit
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wbthacker
Can YOU pass the Turing Test?
06:56 PM on 04/20/2011
"I hear a lot of talk among my fellow Humanists about truth and knowledge -- but not yet enough about love and compassion."

A second problem with Stedman's statement here is a confusion of motives. Why are we talking in public? What are we trying to achieve?

As an atheist/humanist, I don't write things on HuffPo because I think I have valuable insights on love and compassion. I see no reason you would care about my opinion on those issues, so I keep it to myself (unless you ask). I wish you happiness but can't tell you how to obtain it.

I'm only here because of politics. In our political debates people often advance positions they reach by faith. E.g., they won't let me marry another man. To achieve what I think is equal freedom I have to attack the factuality of their claims. Those claims are based on faith, so I challenge the notion that faith is a viable way of knowing the truth. I'm qualified in this because I'm skilled with science, a way of knowing that is actually proven to *work*. I argue this topic because I think our nation will suffer if we promote faith over reason in political debate.
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Dan Jighter
05:39 AM on 04/21/2011
You're overlooking the fact that you ARE talking about love and compassion. You just aren't prescribing how to love and show compassion to others. But you talk about marrying another man and the rights of others. I think that is showing tremendous love and compassion to that man and those others. You are obviously interested in politics because you are loving and compassionate. The thing is you recognize that talking about love and compassion entails talking about truth and knowledge, as many of the hateful policies are based on outright falsehood.

Also, the main problem with religion isn't political. Most religious people are decent people, many support same-sex marriage. (And many don't.) The problem with religion isn't homophobia, it's that religion is a load of BS. That's where your point about confusion of motives comes in. I actually care about truth and knowledge and there is nothing wrong with mean talking a lot about that. If Stedman wants to talk more about love and compassion, good for him, but that's not what I'm motivated by. I think most of us are trying to achieve a society that thinks critically and isn't superstitious, and we aren't going to talk about "love and compassion" at the expense being honest and thinking critically about what's true.

I think your comment is more or less correct and is excellent (Faved!). Just those two points occurred to me while reading your comment.
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wbthacker
Can YOU pass the Turing Test?
01:49 PM on 04/21/2011
Thanks, Dan.

One point that I didn't include was that *talking* about love and compassion doesn't make one person better than another. Nor can such talk make listeners more compassionate or loving, unless it's effective.

Religion may talk a lot about these topics, but are they effective? I don't see how they can claim to be. Studies of divorce rates reveal that atheists enjoy much lower divorce rate than Mormons, Baptists or Jews. Catholics have a rate identical to atheists. At the very least this implies that religion doesn't improve *this* aspect of adherents' love and compassion. When you consider how strongly Catholcism condemns divorce (while atheists do not), how can you conclude that any of these religions teach anything about love that isn't common knowledge to everyone?

(http://www.religioustolerance.org/chr_dira.htm - make your own judgment on the validity of the survey.)
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
02:33 PM on 04/23/2011
We are spirit which is not Man or Women. We overcome sexuality and sexual relationships. On cannot love unconditionally if Animal or Human Sexual desires and wants. How can you give and not take, except in orgasm wich is so short lived even in an orgy.

You came close to breaking through to the other side by talking about "trying to acheive" MOTIVATION.

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. Is most widley accepted by us who have to motivate others to reach their full potentia. Use by TV Media and Politicians selling propaganda or business selling products to understand Motivation for their Mammon

Maslow's hierarchy of needs is often portrayed in the shape of a pyramid. I see Atheist as D-Needs only

The most fundamental and basic four layers of the pyramid contain what Maslow called "deficiency needs" or "d-needs": esteem , friendship and love, security, and physical needs. With the exception of the most fundamental (physiological) needs, if these "deficiency needs" are not met, the body gives no physical indication but the individual feels anxious and tense. Maslow's theory suggests that the most basic level of needs must be met before the individual will strongly desire (or focus motivation upon) the secondary or higher level needs. Maslow also coined the term Metamotivation to describe the motivation of people who go beyond the scope of the basic needs and strive for constant betterment.[7] Metamotivated people are driven by B-needs (Being Needs), instead of deficiency needs (D-Needs).
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Kenyatta J Yamel
03:31 PM on 04/20/2011
what makes you think humanists aren't already doing these things? just curious.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
02:38 PM on 04/23/2011
Who can disagree with you

Christ loving his enemies, surely did not create and use the Atomic Bomb, Drones, unprovoked wars, occupation, taking Mexican and Western Indian Land, Renting or Enslaving others, running line of income off others seat, genius and talant for simply Trading Ownership of Stock
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Cole 33
Careful. We don't want to learn from this.
12:26 PM on 04/20/2011
The main reason we atheists don't need to be good to justify that we can be good without believing gods exist, is mainly because we aren't an organized group, we are first and foremost, individuals. Even though the religious would like say The Atheists to be this organized group they can wave their finger at and say, see we are good because gods command us to be good, and "The Atheists" have no moral director, we are not.

As a result, a *person*, that is an Atheist, is likely to be good based on the exact same factors as anyone else would be good, and that is whether your *parents* have instilled and fostered a person that is motivated to be good.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
02:40 PM on 04/23/2011
Maslow's Hiearchy of Needs explains the Atheist D-Needs the best
12:26 PM on 04/20/2011
Irrespective of whether religion has been good or bad for humanity in the past, as an Atheist, I believe that in order to survive we must now shed these ancient myths. The reality is that we are confronted with a world where we are a very small group and these myths are entrenched by thousands of years of institutionalization.

The point is, we have a daunting challenge. It will take a very long time and it will need to be done small steps at a time. We may, in fact, not have enough time and these religious dogmas may cause our extinction before we cause theirs.

Chris I do agree with you in that as Atheists, we have an obligation to humanity to present an alternative view. This, in my opinion needs to be done in three ways;

• Through discussions and publications promoting science and reasons as the tools in explaining reality and not ancient myths.
• Demonstrating that as an Atheist, you can live within a moral code driven by the achievement of the greatest degree of happiness for the largest number of people.
• Achieving peace and happiness in this life which, even if you are an Atheist, is mysterious and wondrous at times. Let’s face it; you were never going to get the 72 virgins anyway.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
02:46 PM on 04/23/2011
Pretty much the opposite of Buddha, Krishna and Christ alright.

They taugh of the duality of nature, Science is still trying to figure out. It has come a long way, but an infinity still waits science to just merely understand nature. Since it does not define or create nature at all.

These great teachers spoke of nature as being a duality of love/hate, happy/sad, life/death all based on the Humanistic uncontrolled desires and wants and senses and emotions.

These great teachers gave very strong physical and metaphysical practices exercises for each to change his behavior to become Spirit. Beyond the human nature to respond to stimuli for personal gratification alone.

I am so glad the Atheist have found this great knowledge and experience. Care to share it
recless
Evidence first. Believe later. Maybe.
08:42 AM on 04/20/2011
1) Atheist does not equal humanist.
2) Why do we need to make people "like" us to have our worldviews recognized as valid?
3) We atheists could have the highest rates of charity giving and volunteering and it would change nothing. It isn't lack of charity work that makes them dislike and distrust us. It is because they base their moral viewpoint on the Bible (or whatever scripture) as guidebook. We, ah, don't. So, any without the right belief is immoral. It isn't even really much of an insult from them.
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DakkonA
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09:54 AM on 04/20/2011
And if we did do more, they would see it as selfish/cynical PR. As validated by the author of this post, because that is what he is proposing.
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shaktinah
Unabashedly liberal AND religious
11:11 AM on 04/20/2011
It's not about proving to theists that your worldviews are valid. It's about demonstrating that you actually believe in your stated worldview by ACTING on it. The same argument could be made of Christians - if they believe they're so good they should be demonstrating it by action. But since Chris is a non-theist, he is speaking to his fellow non-theists.
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Dan Jighter
12:16 AM on 04/20/2011
The thing is, to think that atheists are immoral is simply bigotry. Us atheists wanting to be seen as moral is us wanting to be seen as we already are. I find it a rather odd reaction to such bigotry to say that if we want to be seen as moral we need to do more charity, as if it is our fault we are seen as immoral.

Also, I reject the notion that we have a humanist community. Including that we must engage in fellowship. Primarily that we must wear our atheism/humanism on our sleeves will doing good works. In a sense, I'm not good without god, I'm good as a person. If I do good deeds as a person, not as an atheist or humanist.

I reject the notion that religion has anything to do with morality or doing good. If I want society to adopt that view, I should live by it. Not join in interfaith work as a humanist.

Chris Stedman, you just don't get it. I'm not merely good without god. I'm good without religion. I'm good without chaplains and fellowship and humanist charities. Most importantly, I'm good as a person.
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03:43 AM on 04/20/2011
Thank you!

Exactly! I want to be seen as a person--for the sort of person I am---not as a(an) atheist, humanist, or part of any other group. Just as me.
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pdferguson
Micro-bios? We don't need no stinkin' micro-bios!
02:55 PM on 04/20/2011
Excellent post, Dan, you really nailed my reaction to this perfectly. To see the bigotry more clearly, just substitute skin color or sexual orientation or gender for god belief in the article's title:

The Black Person's Obligation to Serve: Being "Good without White Skin" Requires Action
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Talismancer
Humanist - Reason in the service of compasssion
11:34 PM on 04/19/2011
I think you've missed the point a bit Chris, possibly due to having a US outlook. The Humanist should be aiming to *institutionalise* charity (see Scandinavia for examples). That is, to seek to put in the formal processes that ensure that society as a whole cares for those who are disadvantaged. To do anything else is simply applying band-aids to a broken system. Your approach puts you on the same ground as the religionists - claiming to do good while the system works against you. As humanists we have a unique ability to change that system simply because we are not part of the problem (religion *can't* do this - they *rely* on the system being broken). Time to move things up a notch and address the REAL problems at the government level...it's the only true moral path.
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pdferguson
Micro-bios? We don't need no stinkin' micro-bios!
10:12 AM on 04/20/2011
Well said. The issue of what atheists propose to replace religion often comes up, and there are few good answers. But starting with government services to serve those most in need will go a long ways, and can be far more equitable and fair than religions historically have been.

It is this conversation that is so badly needed in the US. For many of us who supported Obama, there is a great deal of disappointment that he has not made this the centerpiece of his agenda. Instead, we just have more endless wars.
11:15 PM on 04/19/2011
Hi Chris -- this probably won't get past the moderators, but do you see anything inherently odd about citing Gandhi as your source for wisdom which you are claiming to be "Humanist" and "Good without God"? I realize that from an atheist point of view you can claim anything anyone says as being just human thoughts, but when someone's ethos is entirely built on the existence of the divine, and someone's view is theistic (even if it is polytheistic), to borrow those thoughts for your own ethos and then call then "humanism" seems, well, at least ungrateful for the religious conceits of others.
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Talismancer
Humanist - Reason in the service of compasssion
11:47 PM on 04/19/2011
Gandhi's beliefs can best be described as spiritual. His "god" was Truth that potentially lies within us. He was certainly closer to humanism than he was to Christianity. "I like your Christ. Why are your Christians so unlike your Christ"
11:59 PM on 04/19/2011
Given that Gandhi himself was a committed Hindu, and rejected all attempts to convert him from Hinduism, as recounted in his own writings, I'm pretty sure you ned to rethink your opinion. It's counter-factual.
08:26 PM on 04/19/2011
Something should be said for indirect action. In attempting to point out the harm done by religion, working against those with faith (politically), and joining with other non-believers in the cause of dispelling a belief based worldview, atheists are attempting to make the world a better place. Certainly the religious spend time and resources in the service of others, but that service almost always comes with strings attached. From direct missionary conversion attempts, to more subtle influence and indoctrination, religious giving and charity provide something important to the religion - converts. These converts eventually lead to increased power and revenue for the religion in question. From an atheistic standpoint, there is nothing to be gained, so contributions and service by atheists, while maybe not as prevalent, I think are more genuine. Again, there is something to be said for simply espousing your rational beliefs and spreading reason, as a form of charity and contribution to the cause of creating a better world. Further, as much as the religious may give of their time and resources, imagine if all the contributions of time and money currently used to support churches, pay preachers, produce holy books, and worship in general, were dedicated to improving the world. Just imagine.
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03:53 AM on 04/20/2011
Your last point is a good one. When the religious count up hours of service and money their members donate, an awful lot of those hours are in service to the church or in "missionary" work, while the money is going for those things you listed. I read once where a hospital in Africa had asked that people please start sending medical supplies. Their closets were empty except for all the boxes of bibles.

I think of service to others as something tangible--food, medical supplies, wells, seed, farming tools---and the physical labor and education and training to help people grow food, purify water, build hospitals and stock them with supplies AND medical personnel. . .
06:52 PM on 04/19/2011
An interesting article. If there's any place where atheists and believers can come together, it's in service. The experience of working together to serve others is a powerful one, and that kind of engagement between people of different beliefs (and unbeliefs) might be our best hope for building understanding and respect. Maybe then we won't have Christians who think atheists have no basis for morality, or atheists who think that Christians serve others as a bribe to God.
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08:03 PM on 04/19/2011
Christians, Muslims and atheists work together all the time. But, since I don't wear a scarlet A, most Christians I have worked with don't know they are working with an atheist.

If you do volunteer work, I'm sure you have worked with atheists and not known it as well.
09:40 PM on 04/19/2011
I've absolutely done service with people who were atheists - but in fairness I already knew them.

But how can people know, and how can you help change their stereotypes, if you don't tell them? It seems like it's the kind of thing that conversation comes to naturally pretty often, especially "I started doing this work because..." talk. On the other hand, I can see how it could be a bit of a risk - it could make for a VERY long day if you were among disrespectful religious folks (which, I'm sorry to say, is a pretty high percentage).
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05:45 PM on 04/19/2011
"Until we make this a priority, we will likely continue to be seen by many as mean-spirited and immoral -- and we will be hypocritical for making the criticizing of the religious our top priority while failing to act on our values with the incredible frequency that religious people do."

How silly is this statement. We will be seen as immoral and mean-spirited by the religious because they are taught to see us that way. It doesn't matter what we do, or what they see us doing.

I posted before that I had worked as a youth service club leader for over a decade with a Catholic woman whom I considered a friend. She knows the countless hours of volunteer work I put in over a 20-year-period with the kids and with a nursing home, the humane shelter, park district, food pantry, library, schools, and other causes. But, when she found out (after 10 years of friendship) that I was an atheist, suddenly I was not a person she wanted to be near. She could no longer see me as "good", no matter how many hours I gave to the community.

We should do good for others because it is the right thing to do. Helping others to impress religious people is just as bad as their doing it to earn god-points.
08:18 PM on 04/19/2011
Don't do it to impress the theists. Do it because we are all human and we need to make this world a better place.