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Why Young Adults Are Walking Away From Church

Posted: 09/26/11 11:00 PM ET

There are plenty of criticisms offered against today's American youth and young adults. And despite the fact that I turn 40 in a few weeks, I still consider myself among them: a kindred spirit of cultural orphans, still sifting through the detritus of an evaporating American Dream to figure out who we might be without it.

Alisa Harris' memoir, "Raised Right: How I Untangled My Faith from Politics," reflects on the apparent cultural, spiritual and economic desert time in which we find ourselves. We have witnessed the carnage of a financial system that was intended to perpetually buoy a nation, but whose "invisible hand" has instead crushed the dreams of millions. We've watched as the two-headed political serpent attacks itself until it is impotent. We've seen religious figures scandalize their institutions empty, as a generation walks away in search of something more relevant to their daily struggle.

One of the few common threads among us is our shared embrace of iconoclasm. While labeled as rebelliousness for the sake of itself by some, it's more a symptom of a culture whose intense self-awareness has yielded either jingoistic narcissism or resigned nihilism. And both sides are convinced the other is both void of heart and intent on their destruction.

Why do we shrug off labels? Each seems weighed down by its own repugnant sense of self-righteousness. Why do we step away from our parents' religious and political convictions? Because both have failed us, intent on self-sustenance before serving any greater purpose to better the human condition. Instead, we pick and choose from our daily experience as we find identities and causes that fit, not satisfied to permanently ally ourselves with any particular group, lest we get fooled once again into placing our trust in something that doesn't merit it.

Two quotes from Harris' book stood out to me as definitive of the postmodern Christian American. Both suggest a custom-tailored identity that older generations label as opportunistic, but which younger ones understand as our only option for survival. She describes her college friend as "cool in the 'Evangelical ex-homeschooler who quotes the Aneid in Latin while drinking whiskey and smoking a pipe' type of way." Such a combination of attributes betrays both a longing for grounding, while also seeking liberation from old expectations.

A second description of a friend from New York City points at why so many today struggle to find any group or label they consider palatable. Harris calls her friend "a fiscal Republican, a social Democrat, a pro-lifer who didn't believe in banning abortion, and a Christian who didn't think Jesus cared so much whether people were gay."

It's reasonable to see why those within the established systems claim we stand for nothing. On the contrary, the friction lies in the disconnect between what we do stand for and what the systems that have so long taken power for granted say we should believe.

It's no surprise we've walked away from traditional institutions in droves; we feel we owe them precisely what they've given us.

The redemption of such cultural ambiguity is that assumptions and stereotypes fall short more often than they apply, causing us to have to take people more at face value, discerning what they believe through face-to-face discourse. We crave more intimate, direct connection with one another because, in doing so, we hope to find out more about who we are as well.

It is here, as Harris points out, that real change takes place: where two or more are gathered. The talking points and ready-made labels fall short, giving way to a deeper concern for the humanity at the center of each life. The effect on her was that she "determined not to let dogma swallow up my personality and poison my sense of charity. I promised myself that I would remember that people are more important than clinging to beliefs."

Call it cynical, iconoclastic or even destructive to the fabric of society, but placing humanity above ideals seems the only hope we have for living out Christ's call to love one another as ourselves. In so much as politics and religion both have failed to yield the result they had promised, it's now up to us to plant new seeds, together, one at a time.

 
 
 

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There are plenty of criticisms offered against today's American youth and young adults. And despite the fact that I turn 40 in a few weeks, I still consider myself among them: a kindred spirit of cult...
There are plenty of criticisms offered against today's American youth and young adults. And despite the fact that I turn 40 in a few weeks, I still consider myself among them: a kindred spirit of cult...
 
 
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06:20 PM on 10/01/2011
There seems to be a tendency, today, to consider church as a place to get together, sing songs, have an experience and Love one another as ourselves in accordance with Christ's calling. And some Christians even think that Jesus didn't care whether people were gay. But the Bible is clear, homosexuality is a sin. People were excommunicated for breaking much lesser rules.
A religion has a creed, a set of principles and 'rules', rites, codes. They are immutable. These seemingly innocuous, little details are the very reasons why people created schisms.
07:24 PM on 10/02/2011
The reason I believe is because the church is failing them. Most churches are religous and ritual and do nothing to help them spiritually, to help them grow to be a true christian, to be like Jesus. Another is that there are no real relationships in the church. We, the church are hypocrites looking at everyone else's problems and not looking at our own. The church today is very unbiblical in every way. Legalistic as the Pharisees, worldly like the Saducees, or as pagan as the non-believing Greeks. The church today is much like the Jewish synagogues of Jesus' time. We need to use the Bible as our guide, not religion, not tradition, or doing what we think is right (Judges 21:25). People need to read the Bible every day for themselves, challenge God on things they don't understand, and pray. We should use the love of the Bible, not worldly love. If I love somebody and something is wrong in there life I will tell them with compassion, not with hate. But I will never condone sin in there lives nor they with me. We should help each other grow like to be like Jesus. Amen?
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11:38 PM on 10/02/2011
Dear jeremykg,
Thank you for your response. I can't help but note the usual dichotomy and juxtaposition of two philosophies in your comments.
The church can only be Biblical. It is like asking the Basketball League to allow the players to use beach balls because they are more pleasing and not as hard. It wouldn't be basketball anymore. The Bible has rules that you cannot change.
Second, Jesus was first and foremost Jewish; he obeyed the laws of Moses, etc. You cannot just take the very humanistic philosophy of Jesus and pluck it out of the overall context of the religion. Religion with its strict rules will not allow it.
So the only thing you can do is create a schism and leave to make up your own.
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04:52 PM on 10/01/2011
So, when young educated adults reflect on this history, they inquire about these little differences that make what religion is all about. They think twice about turning a blind eye to these minor details that people have died for and wonder if simple Belief (personal and unique), simple compassion, simple Humanism is not better than institutions.
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10:03 PM on 09/30/2011
There are plenty of reasons to walk away from a church or a religion. There are numerous examples in history. There have been schisms in Christianity even from its inception; Lutheranism, Baptism, Anglicanism, Calvinism, Mennonism, Presbyterianism, Anabaptism, Zwinglianism and many more. Do not be shy, if you do not know why they split from Catholicism, by all means read up on the reasons, you won't believe your eyes (or ears). Besides issues of Indulgences (sort of God-Bonds) assuring places in Heaven, almost always interpretations of 'What Jesus Said' (or did not), and other aspects of the literal word of god, were the reasons. Reasons that cost millions of lives in religious wars opposing Protestants to Catholics among others.
08:55 PM on 09/30/2011
maybe it is that something written over 2,000 years - 4,000 years ago has no relevance today. to understand the text one will have to learn the culture and language that is 4,000 years old. what do we (computer age) have in common with a family that lived in the bronze age? they worried about how to feed themselves and shelter. we worry about bandwidth, $5 fees, and gay marriage. what will people think when the bible is 8,000 years old?
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09:35 PM on 09/30/2011
Good points; it appears though that it will not survive that long, except as an antique curiosity in museums.
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Jason N
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05:23 PM on 09/29/2011
Since I straddle the line between Gen X and Y depending on who you ask, I can say why I left though I don't know if it's indicative of others. I left purely because the church didn't follow Christ, almost at all. They're all obsessed with Paul. And the politics were and remain unbearable. Christ was pretty clear about the money changers and Pharisees, and for all intents and purposes, most Christian churches in America could be classified as one or the other.
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Ioan Lightoller
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02:50 AM on 09/30/2011
I suspect that Paul has a LOT to do with the homophobia and sexism of the Catholic Church. It's a shame that Pauline Christianity was chosen as the Christianity the Roman Empire would go with.
05:22 PM on 09/29/2011
A well intentioned lash but more than a bit convoluted
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Gnarkill
peoples is peoples
04:21 PM on 09/29/2011
"I was working on a flat tax proposal and accidentally proved there was no God." - Homer Simpson
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03:06 PM on 09/29/2011
Off topic. Do most Christian churches still feature an EuroCentric looking Jesus compared to a more realistic Mid Eastern Jesus?
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TYRANNASAURUS
UGH!....people don't taste good.
11:12 AM on 09/29/2011
Why Young Adults Are Walking Away From Church........

The REAL reason is that it's all CRAP.......sorry church people someone has to tell you the truth...you won't find the truth in a church.
10:32 PM on 09/29/2011
So where do you find your "truth?"
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TYRANNASAURUS
UGH!....people don't taste good.
10:19 AM on 09/30/2011
I find my truths in unfailing math and how it randomly works in the realm of physics.
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Ioan Lightoller
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11:44 PM on 09/29/2011
You won't necessarily find God in a church building, either. This is why I like Paganism with its outdoor rituals. God can be found everywhere you look, especially in the beauty of nature. God doesn't need big, elaborately decorated Cathedrals--those are built by humans for humans.
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TYRANNASAURUS
UGH!....people don't taste good.
10:15 AM on 09/30/2011
I agree about nature but why call it god?
Why not just appreciate the processes of math, time, circumstances and laws of physics?
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oliver clothesov
would you like one lump or two?
10:21 AM on 09/29/2011
I am starting the Church of Critical Thinking and Analysis. If there is/was a God, wouldn't he be a universal theme for all Earthlings instead of partial to what swath of land you and your parents were born on?
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TYRANNASAURUS
UGH!....people don't taste good.
11:14 AM on 09/29/2011
Not to worry oliver.........don't waste your time...the definitive answer is that is nor was there ever any thing like a god.....it's not compatible with the LAWS OF PHYSICS.
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Gnarkill
peoples is peoples
04:45 PM on 09/29/2011
science be praised!
05:25 PM on 09/29/2011
Quite the opposite. the constants of enthropy scream out that they were set exactly where they are by an intellect and with a specific intention rather than by randomness
02:15 PM on 09/29/2011
Where do I sign up?
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timm553
In vino veritas
09:51 AM on 09/29/2011
My theory is that young people are walking away from church because they are not as gullible as their parents once were. Good for them.
02:15 PM on 09/29/2011
Hear hear.
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DianePVK
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05:07 PM on 09/29/2011
Agreed. Well said.
10:14 PM on 09/28/2011
I remember when the catholic church was strong and you couldn't get a seat at 9 o'clock Mass.
Then they turned the altar around, threw away the Latin, brought in the guitars, and the priests started to spout off their political views and proclamations about moral issues that had for long been the domain of the individual's conscience. Now the church has so few followers that it is boarded up and being turned into a Target store.
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AlanDente
Noses: made to hold glasses
12:58 PM on 09/29/2011
Soft guitar-rock ruins everything.
02:16 PM on 09/29/2011
Maybe it has to do with access to information so that the abuses in the church are now more public and people do not feel alone if they have been victimized.
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Ioan Lightoller
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11:20 PM on 09/29/2011
I used to think like the OP--that the cause of the decrease in attendance at Mass was because the priest no longer faced away from the people, that the Mass was no longer in Latin, and priests were too political. In fact I even became a Tridentine Catholic over it. Then I realised that it was none of that. As my access to information grew, the less relevant the Church became. The more I used my God/dess given brain, the less sense it all made.

Younger people (I'm 58 now) are leaving because since so many nuns left the teaching orders after centuries of being treated like indentured servants, it has grown more and more difficult to indoctrinate/brainwash young Catholics--especially young Catholic women. I have met several former Catholic women who told me that pretty much a girl had two choices when they were young: the religious life as a nun, or the "kinder, kuche, kirche" life of a Catholic housewife. I remember that era quite clearly and they are right.
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Ioan Lightoller
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11:25 PM on 09/29/2011
con't from previous post)

People, especially young people are far less tractable than when I was growing up. They no longer follow a life path that others feel they should follow: religious life or married life producing more Catholic babies. They no longer feel they have to be Catholic (or any other religion) just because "someone says so". They want real answers and real reasons and if they aren't forthcoming, they feel free to go elsewhere to find them. This began when I was in my twenties and has increased over the years.

Young people are growing up with infinitely more access to information and knowledge than I had when young. They can see, especially now that the pedophilia scandal has finally broken, that the Emperor has no clothes. For centuries the Catholic Church could keep the sexual abuse of children under wraps. That has changed--victims are speaking out and suing the Church for its negligence and the media are finally following up. This can't be kept under the rug any longer. The Church has made its own eventual demise certain because it has not and under this Pope definitely, will not evolve. What goes for nature goes for the Church: evolve or go extinct. For many young people, the whole thing is a lie and a charade and they want no part of it.
09:30 PM on 09/28/2011
There is no reason in the world to walk away from the church. Regardless of what's going on in our life, it no excuse
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Franklin1776
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10:10 PM on 09/28/2011
Common sense is a good reason.  Decency is another.
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10:22 PM on 09/28/2011
Pedophilia and covering it up, using tithes to build fancier churches rather than feeding and clothing the poor, the theology of Papal infalliability, supporting the death penalty while trying to restrict abortions, pastors and priests having sex with parishioners, condemning those who disagree as sinners going to hell, trying to supress scientific and medical advances, the crusades and religious wars, and much much more. The Church of Paul is not what Jesus had in mind.
10:45 PM on 09/29/2011
I suppose pedophila doesn't happen outside the Catholic Church. I suppose people don't steal money for their own benefit vs. helping others. I guess bosses don't have sex with their employees. I guess people don't judge others, or mock their beliefs. I guess righteous governments (or not righteous ones) don't have wars to support their own beliefs. Poketown, take a look around you. It's happening everywhere. It's called mankind. And I don't think it's what Jesus had in mind either. Drop the Catholic bashing. The Church on earth is run by humans, in case you hadn't noticed. And some of them are bad folks. But MOST of them are decent, caring people who are called to serve and do so faithfully. Ironically, much like MOST of mankind.
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Ioan Lightoller
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11:37 PM on 09/29/2011
Fanned and faved. You have set forth a great list of reasons WHY people would leave the Catholic Church. I know an entire family that left because of the mendacity of so many of the clergy.

This is not the 15th Century in Europe and the Inquisition cannot force people to stay in the Church under pain of torture and death (bet Benedict hated that when he was head of what is left of the old Holy Office). People will take only so much and then they will vote with their feet.

Thank you also for bringing up Paul. It is the eternal tragedy that when the Church became legal under Constantine, it chose the rigid authoritarian Christianity of Paul instead of the more fluid Christianity of others. The Church would, I think, have been a far different, far less woman and gay hating church if it had.
09:29 PM on 09/28/2011
With that news Green Bay Packers stock rose 2 points.
09:08 PM on 09/28/2011
Why young adults are walking away from the church: Google. Yes its a poor answer but here's my reasoning. In my 18 years of existence I have learned to scan through mountains of data (usually supplied by a search engine) and have had to use my own reasoning to determine the data true or false. Admittedly it is much more complex than this but the point is that I have learned to trust nothing that is not immediately supported by evidence or that I logically cannot find to be true. My cyber life carried over into the real world where I began to stop taking what others say as fact, including the parents. I think it boils down to evidence out-gunning faith. It appears to work great for humanity. Just to throw this statistic in (by the gr.12 data management class): 63% of high school graduates, in my school of course, are atheist. The catch is, it is a Catholic school. And no, I'm not citing that study :P
12:59 AM on 09/29/2011
Fascinating thoughts and I admire your desire to distinquish fact from fiction regarding information. Here's my response - Google can certainly be your friend. He and I have spent many hours together. But Google is only as effective as the data you extract from him. You realize that if you are doing a theological search on, say, the evidence for the resurrection of Christ, the first Google hits you're going to find are from those who push their way to the front to be there. You are also going to find the sites from those who push polemics. Your job is to sift through the propoganda to find the truth. I was a philosophy student at UCB when I read the NT and decided to research the authenticity of it. There were plenty who put up a big fuss to discredit it...and those who put their best case forward to defend it. It took me almost a year to dig through the "evidence". In the end, I was convinced of it's clarity and moved by the words of Christ to the point of placing my trust in what the writers of the NT said. I believed them, along with the early church fathers, but that's just me. You are responsible for your own spiritual journey. Just saying - I did not take what others say as "fact" either, and came to a completly different conclusion.
10:38 PM on 09/29/2011
Exactly. Those that only want to believe in atheism, read about atheism. Those that want to believe only liberal points of news, read NY Times or Huff Post. Those that want only conservative views, watch FOX News. Those that go with an open mind and heart, usually find the truth.
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Stephen Stafford
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07:49 AM on 09/29/2011
I smile broadly as I encounter your post/ While it invokes a most modern of tools, such as Googling and search engines, what you describe is the age old experience of youth feeling wiser than their parents, only to discover in subsequent years the unappreciated wisdom of their parents.

I hope you continue to live and experience the dynamics of life as they unfold.

Sure, you may make the choices that seem right to you. Now, however, you cannot say that you were not told or did not know better.
05:38 PM on 09/29/2011
Ok Stephen, read some of your posts and am left to believe you either are cracked or are another son of God as are all men who share this Faith. Fanned brother.
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dschiff
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10:02 PM on 10/12/2011
Or the age-old argument of trying to claim authority by age.

"if you were *my* age, you'd know better"