03/19/2013 04:00 pm ET Updated May 19, 2013

A Crisis of Meaning

Most of my clients are in a crisis of meaning when they find me. Some sense an undefined feeling of wanting to take their creations more seriously. It's the feeling of missing the key to finally live all of their wisdom. While others are in so much trouble that they can't see the way out of the chaos, they have set up for themselves.

Crises of meaning show up when we ignore our hearts for too long. After a while, things stop being meaningful for us, and we end up in a hopeless and depressed state.

A crisis of meaning can last a few minutes, and they can fill a whole lifetime. The length is based on our awareness and whether or not we have the right tools and the courage to go gently through our crises. Most people enter a crisis of meaning in their 40s, yet many feel the blue notes as teenagers and some even in childhood. I did.

If we are not able to understand our crisis of meaning, the problems tend to gather around us, while we're trying to handle our lack of happiness. A classic example would be the guy who gets a new motorbike and replaces his wife with a younger model. Or the woman who tries to find happiness through project new kitchen or the grandchild.

True bliss can only be found in ourselves. The road to happiness lies in navigating in the things that nurture us and letting go of the things that are blocking our deep longings.

If we don't dare to act from our heart, the self-sabotage and our upper limits take over. And the exhausting handling of the entailing chaos ends up taking most of our time. Our dreams are put on hold, and the meaninglessness gets bigger.

I love being the one who shows up when others are tied in knots. Where the seemingly-meaningless brings deep meaning and crisis is turned to growth. Right there, life gives me great chills.


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