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Caring For Our Caylees: A Call To Help Struggling Families

Posted: 07/07/11 11:17 AM ET

It seems that good parenting and justice both eluded Caylee Anthony, the beautiful smiling little girl captured in photos that were shown endlessly during the trial of her mother Casey Anthony. Casey was acquitted of Caylee's murder, but even so, it's clear that the adults in Caylee's life let her down both in life and death. We should all learn from this tragic tale of neglect where adults made serious mistakes and missteps at the expense of an innocent child.

This sad story also points out how we as a nation can do better for our collective children. For Caylee, being the daughter of a very young, immature mother with no parenting experience turned disastrous. Providing education and support to struggling and inexperienced parents can help alleviate some of the stressors these families face.

The real lesson is that more emphasis and spending must be put into child abuse prevention programs -- such as parenting education and home visiting efforts that support and teach parents to be the best parents they can be. Home visiting programs -- like the highly successful Healthy Families America -- provide in home, weekly visits by trained professionals who demonstrate positive parenting techniques, help connect parents -- often single and young -- to other community resources that can move them toward self-sufficiency and reduce stress.

But not every child is the beneficiary of parenting education. For those children lucky enough to survive abuse and neglect, a well-intentioned but disparate system of services awaits them -- which acts as a surrogate parent until their actual parents can either do the job or substitutes can be arranged.

The child welfare system -- which currently directly cares for more than the 400,000 U.S. children -- has thousands of dedicated and trained workers who are juggling large caseloads. The child welfare system isn't one system, but rather a collection of systems and services run by towns, states, and the federal government as well nonprofits, volunteers and churches. This patchwork system of surrogates has helped many children over the years; but we recognize that this system of services doesn't serve vulnerable children as well as it could.

That's why the Child Welfare League of America's (CWLA) role as a standard setter for the child welfare industry is very important. But that alone isn't enough to ensure the safety, health and welfare of children who are abused, neglected, or abandoned. What we need -- which is something CWLA and other industry and government leaders are focused on -- is to find ways to connect the different systems, so that children who are struggling get a seamless set of services that will protect them and set them on a good course.

By aligning child welfare, health, domestic relations courts, juvenile justice, housing, and educational systems, families and children stand a better chance of getting the help they need. Also children won't get lost in the process, which will ensure a better system of care and better results (with potentially less cost).

However, this system primarily focuses on children after the harm is done. All of us working in child welfare recognize that the most effective effort to protect children is through prevention. "A system" is a poor substitute for a good parent, which is why prevention must become the first stop in the system.

For sweet Caylee, better parenting skills taught by caring, trained professionals could have been a life saver. Unfortunately that didn't happen, so we must use this sad tale -- and so many others like it -- to learn, educate, and change in hopes of preventing more sad endings.

 

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It seems that good parenting and justice both eluded Caylee Anthony, the beautiful smiling little girl captured in photos that were shown endlessly during the trial of her mother Casey Anthony. Casey...
It seems that good parenting and justice both eluded Caylee Anthony, the beautiful smiling little girl captured in photos that were shown endlessly during the trial of her mother Casey Anthony. Casey...
 
 
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01:15 PM on 07/09/2011
"The real lesson is that more emphasis and spending must be put into child abuse prevention programs -- such as parenting education and home visiting efforts that support and teach parents to be the best parents they can be."

No. The real lesson here is that we, as a people, need to promote marriage between adults as a high status institution and de-mote careless single parenthood because, in reality, it does not deserve equal social or moral status as marriage. Period.

Incidentally, anyone who doesn't get that children given nonsense names like "Caylee" by single parents named "Casey" are quite likely to be abused needs to grow up.
08:10 AM on 07/09/2011
I think Cindy treated Casey badly as a child,......... always looking for faults..... when Casey had Caylee....... THERE WAS CINDY'S CHANCE FOR A .RE-DO
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Siebenstein
99% -Don't do what they tell you !
04:32 AM on 07/09/2011
Caylee looked like she could have been my daughter---very eery and so sad.
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William1950
everything I say could be wrong
01:02 AM on 07/09/2011
how we treat our children as a society is indicative of the depths of our immaturity as a race.
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captspock
08:59 PM on 07/08/2011
All of u who screamed your outrage at your TV when your justice was not served,do you wish to cut taxes,cut social programs,because your selfish and you say government has no roll in the lives of society.
Perhaps you share some responsibility in all the Caylees' yet to be born.
01:16 PM on 07/09/2011
Here's a thought: Why not get married before you impregnate someone? And then you and your wife take care of your own children. And leave me out of it.
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captspock
02:13 PM on 07/09/2011
Passion sometimes rules the day,and it can happen to the best of families,even to the ones who live in Alaska.
janefi
It's always about The Constitution.
07:50 PM on 07/08/2011
Stop enabling and rewarding bad behaviour.
01:30 PM on 07/09/2011
Exactly.
07:23 PM on 07/08/2011
There seems to be shift in Casey's behavior. She finally realized what a huge responsibility the baby was. I wish she had just abandoned her instead of killing her.

I'd like to know where Caylee was every day? There was no baby sitter
08:06 PM on 07/08/2011
How do you know "she finally realized what a huge responsibility the baby was."? Was there testimony or evidence of this? If you feel up to it, fill me in. I only heard the closing arguments of the trial so I'm unaware of any other issues related to the case - only what was presented in court.
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bwin
12:13 PM on 07/09/2011
When she partied, she probably sedated her and kept her in the trunk of her car. Where else is logical?
05:23 AM on 07/10/2011
It's fiction if you can't prove it.
06:55 PM on 07/08/2011
Casey never should have been pushed and cajoled into keeping a child that she clearly didn't really want from the start. From all reports, it was Cindy Anthony that pushed this, and in the end, look what happened...she wanted out from under at all costs, and that child paid the price.

Bringing a child into this world is a HUUUUGE responsibility that you have to want and prioritize over anything else. If someone is not ready for this, they should look at other options...there are so many couples that can't have kids and would have given Caylee the best home.

RIP Caylee-- So sorry so many people, and our justice system let you down. Karma will catch up with your killer, of that I am sure.
06:40 PM on 07/08/2011
I am still in awe every time I remember that she was declared "not guilty" I guess that yes, justice is blind.
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SigonellaPC3
June 5, the WI recall is more than just jive...
07:09 PM on 07/08/2011
Not guilty does not equal innocent, necessarily. If the evidence was there, and the jury found beyond a reasonable doubt, this would have gone differently.

Her days of dealing with this aren't over. She can look forward to civil suits and karma in her future. I think I'd rather allow for social homeostasis in the courts than justice in the court of public opinion and (God) if I were her...
07:43 PM on 07/08/2011
I am in awe about how many people are so certain this woman is guilty when there is no solid proof that she committed the crime. None.
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bwin
12:16 PM on 07/09/2011
I am in awe at how lazy that jury was . . . 11 hours of deliberation after a 30 day trial? Come on. Just because there was no DNA doesn't mean they can't put together a guilty verdict. DNA technology is rather new. How did other juries do this before DNA was available.
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playsindirt
So much dirt, so little time.
06:22 PM on 07/08/2011
You cannot help people who don't ask for help. Casey never told anyone she was overwhelmed by young motherhood. You have to admit you have a problem! That's the first step.
07:46 PM on 07/08/2011
Did anyone testify that Casey felt overwhelmed by motherhood? I didn't follow the media narrative - I only watched the closing arguments. So fill me in.
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playsindirt
So much dirt, so little time.
09:22 AM on 07/09/2011
No, but the prosecution's theory as to motive was that Casey felt tied down and burdened by her child and wanted to go out and party.
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KittECoyne
06:09 PM on 07/08/2011
Parenting education would NOT have helped Caylee. Getting Casey psychiatric help and jail time for stealing would have helped Caylee.
07:47 PM on 07/08/2011
What did Casey steal?
08:14 AM on 07/09/2011
Her grandfather's funds for the nursing hone for his care. How much not clear
01:20 PM on 07/09/2011
And her mother's checkbook.
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R Davis
“The truth is rarely pure and never simple.”
09:10 PM on 07/08/2011
She obviously didn't understand consequences.
08:15 AM on 07/09/2011
NEVER WILL
05:55 PM on 07/08/2011
Stress? Casey's parents helped raise her child. This young lady was not stressed. She did not miss a beat when it came to the partying -before and after her child's death.
07:56 PM on 07/08/2011
People manage stress in many ways. Some smoke, use drugs, overeat, overwork, engage in obsessive activities of all kind - even so-called healthful activities. Some people want to be alone - others seek a lot of social activity-gamble or spend an exorbitant amount of time online. In Casey's case - it was clubbing and hedonism like a lot of young people have always done to "let off steam".
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catcancook
Obama/Biden 2012
05:52 PM on 07/08/2011
It's my opinion that Cindy had poor parenting skills as well. Casey apparently wanted to put Caylee up for adoption but Cindy wouldn't hear of it. Forcing your son or daughter to raise a child that they know in their gut they don't want is Bad Parenting. Caylee would be alive today had she been adopted.
06:44 PM on 07/08/2011
And from all the comments her friends said Cindy made, they were disparaging comments but Cindy never did anything about it. A parent has to let an adult child know they mean business. She should've kicked Casey out and sought custody of Caylee.
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catcancook
Obama/Biden 2012
08:02 AM on 07/09/2011
The Apple doesn't fall far from the Tree! Cindy and George need long term therapy and so does the brother. I read (whether it's true or not) that Cindy wanted "parenthood" to make Casey grow up. Cindy was gambling with Caylee's life on that one. Casey was rebellious (and most likely has mental issues) and Cindy thought forcing her to take care of Caylee would curtail her lifestyle.

Hopefully, this horror is a cautionary tale to parents who think they can control what an adult child does. Using a baby to do what George and Cindy should have done a long time ago was reckless. I can't believe Casey did not get charged with reckless endangerment of a child.
07:57 PM on 07/08/2011
Maybe.
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Weiwuwei
05:21 PM on 07/08/2011
"It seems that poor parenting and justice both eluded Caylee Anthony..."

Don't you mean *good* parenting eluded her? Poor parenting was what she had scads of, I hardly think it eluded her.....
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jwmellott
05:10 PM on 07/08/2011
I actually thought that maybe no one would offer that deplorable mother anything for her story. Of course, Jerry Springer (D), former journalist, former big city mayor, former whoremonger has already stepped forward with $1 million.
janefi
It's always about The Constitution.
07:51 PM on 07/08/2011
Don't blame him for being a good businessman.
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jwmellott
10:57 AM on 07/09/2011
Should we not blame sexual slave trafficers for being good businessmen? Springer is about 1 step away.
07:59 PM on 07/08/2011
She's broke. She's got legal bills. What should she do?
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jwmellott
10:22 PM on 07/08/2011
I don't blame her-- I blame him.
I blame her for something else; something worse.