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Banish Wedding Planning Stress With This Alternative Checklist

02/27/2015 05:39 pm ET | Updated Apr 29, 2015

So, you've sorted the dress, the venue, the menu, the guest list, the bridesmaids, the seating plan, the flowers, you get the picture. Everything is done, right?

When it comes to planning a wedding, the majority of people understandably focus all of their time and attention on the material side of the day.

It starts with wildly pinning picture perfect images of vintage-styled barn weddings. The perfect flowers, the perfect stationary, the perfect everything.

And that's where things can slowly, but surely, start to feel a little stressful and overwhelming. How are YOU going to live up to that level of perfection? Now, don't get me wrong, I LOVE a Pinterest board and some vintage bunting. But, when your focus becomes solely about the material side of the day? That is when the sweetest of brides to be can start morphing into a fire-breathing Bridezilla who sends all those who know and love her running for cover.

No-one wants their wedding to be remembered for the wrong reasons. You know: "It was a great day, but hell, Susan was such a flippin' nightmare in the run up to it that we were just relieved to get it over with." Ouch! And that's probably the PG version!

There is a lot of pressure for everything to be right or perfect, but if you can keep that in perspective, then you've got more of a chance of negotiating the run up to the day itself with your sanity intact, and your family and friends, and maybe even your partner, not wanting to send you somewhere far, far away.

One aspect that often gets overlooked is actually a pretty simple one:

How do you want to feel on your wedding day?

How do you hope your fiancée will feel?

What is the focus of your day?

What would you like your guests to remember?

By stopping and taking a little bit of time to think about those things, you might even find that bits you thought were important aren't, and vice versa. Something that initially seemed insignificant could turn out to be something you then remember forever.

Because when it all comes down to it, at the heart of everything is two people celebrating a declaration that they will love and cherish the person standing opposite them for the rest of their lives.

In 10, 20, 30, 40 years are you going to remember the details of the material things, or are you going to remember how you felt? When you put on your dress, when you walked down the aisle, when you watched your guests laughing and dancing and enjoying themselves. Creating a memory bank of wonderful experiences is what life is about. I'd love to know what yours are.