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09:56 AM on 10/29/2011
So this is a news bulletin????
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Lisa Belkin
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04:44 PM on 10/29/2011
Nope, this is an essay.
09:39 AM on 10/29/2011
I fully agree with Yintwin

Its not important wich grades a child recieves because every child has own qualities.
At this moment we put the children in the classrooms and stuff them up with knowledge,instead of developing their uniqueness and induviduality. (one is good at sports,art,another in math,or music etc)
A childs formation can not be a aproached by common standards.
We should teach them a understanding of life and interpersonal relationships.

a child has to find out this through conversations and discussions,and not by giving them textbooks with knowledge ,without understanding.
The education has to give them more freedom to learn a proffesion that is suitable to their personality,and not by giving grades.A child has to develop towards society and environment,by harmoniously connecting with the society until a child feels that he is an integral part of it.By keeping their own individual qualities and connecting with the qualities of others they will percieve it as a whole system
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Jan Baer
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09:32 AM on 10/29/2011
This is a serious issue. Maybe we've taken what we now know about early childhood's key learnings of trust and self esteem--and haven't dealt with preparing our children with the realities of living well in the world as they grow--as it is now and however it will be in the future. With peer pressure, adults working long hours, and adolescent turmuil, we've often not been consistent or tough enough,
Harsh realities for the 99% of us have challenged my children to be more protective when raising their children--but the need for being stronger in setting limits is now more important than ever.
At the same time, learning to think of the common good can come from parents, as they act with caring and respect for others. Unfortunately, parents can't do that alone--the political system in the US has created a glaring lack of fairness for the needs of its citizens. That is difficult for parents to combat.
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06:18 AM on 10/29/2011
I mourn the loss of the neighborhood pick up games from the days of yore... where a group of us would get together and play ball. We worked out our own problems, we were our own umpires, we figured out on our own when it was time to go back home for dinner. Now, kids are signed up for league sports, which do have a purpose, but there is a missing piece of the pie when these kids are so over scheduled that there is no down time.
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Lisa Belkin
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04:51 PM on 10/29/2011
It is so striking to me that whenever you pass a playground it is either empty, or filled with children who are there being supervised by adults. For very young kids, of course, that is wonderful. But the only time older ones see play space is in uniforms with coaches on teams organized by adults. In fact the only realm where kids on in charge -- they set the teams and make the rules and moderate disagreement, and do all this without a grownup -- seems to be video games. That is what's left of the old-fashioned pick up game.
04:51 AM on 10/30/2011
I agree with you Lisa, its a well known fact that kids behave differently under adult supervision, where we adults have this nature tendency to control the situation. Kids will get into disagreement, and know how to set their own standards,this is all natural and they can work it out between them with less adult interference.".There were those soccer games with no losers or winners, with everybody getting a trophy at season's end" I enjoyed this sentence very much, so much for upping moral emotional inspiration when kids are evaluated according to standardized test results! ugh! :(
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yintwin
01:21 AM on 10/29/2011
The forthcoming generation of kids is likely to have the biggest job of any prior generation - that is, pulling humanity out of this sabotaging, greed driven evolution that has led our world to the brink of economic and societal collapse.
While we adults still need to derive the important lessons that our world crises are showing us, we need to start to educate out kids for a new reality.
The most important issues we are seeing, from current world events, are twofold. One - greed got us in to this mess. Two - we have been all self concerned in creating our own wealth/self preservation that we have been totally blind to realizing we need to work together with all our interests at heart in order to make a success of our newly emerging world.
The education we need to bring to our kids revolves around that. Starting within family and communities, we need to make sure we talk to kids as part of a group, where everyone's voice is considered and respected, yet where decisions about that group are prioritized by the consensus of the group.
Learning a new group dynamic, with the group's entire welfare at heart, is what will ready our kids for working together in our society in whichever capacity they have talent. No memorizing of facts will help realize this important achievement.
12:41 AM on 10/29/2011
Learn to work hard. Learn to think and analyze. Get a halfway decent understanding of how the world, things, people, and societies work. Hopefully get a deep understanding of one or two subsets of these that can provide employment opportunities. Learn that happiness is found in personal relationships, satisfaction in accomplishments, and purpose in your relationship with society and organizations. Things are of little value. Money and power are of value only as they can be used to accomplish something worthwhile.

Zero-sum status games are not worth playing.

Do your best both in your personal and public worlds.
07:03 PM on 10/28/2011
Bottom line is that parents and educators need to address this issue as a united front in an environment where trophies and grades aren't awarded just for showing up, where essential critical thinking skills are valued over access to information and where they're encouraged to fight their own battles, figure it out and advocate for themselves. Aside from the fact that the best, most sustained learning is experiential, the natural order of things is to prepare children to separate. If we don't teach them resilience -- especially in a world where the only constant is change -- then we haven't done our job.
06:52 PM on 10/28/2011
The good news is that, if we're talking children, there's still time to make some changes. Parents do need to step back, not orchestrate or finesse every situation and allow their children to experience -- and cope with -- the bumps in the road. Experiential learning is the most effective and sustained so, even though we try to spare our kids and hardship, we're doing them a disservice in the long run. Plus, having them learn to cope creates a problem-solving sensibility which is one of the most important skills to have in an environment where the only constant is change.
This has to be addressed by a united front of parents and educators in an environment where trophies and grades are awarded based on merit, where critical, conceptual, innovative thinking is valued and where kids are encouraged to solve their own problems and advocate for themselves.
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05:52 PM on 10/28/2011
Tragically, I see some parents redoubling their efforts to "give" their children a competitive edge, rather than a backing-off from tying self-worth to net worth.
05:12 PM on 10/28/2011
There is entirely too much attention paid to kids succeeding in every area of life, prompted largely by parents hoping their children can avoid all pain. Life is struggle and children need to be prepared for that. Last week I saw a new client who at age 12, was put in the position of raising her 6 younger siblings, cooking of the family, etc. This woman turned out strong, competent, and confident. That kind of hardship doesn't always create a strong person, but putting a pillow under your child every time you think they're going to fall, or doing all you can to help them aspire to the absolute best of everything is a disservice. Kids need resiliency, which requires some falling and failure first.

Sheri Noga, MA
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