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03:42 PM on 11/21/2012
This may be one of the most important things I have ever read. Wow.
02:17 PM on 11/21/2012
Damn Skippy you are beautiful!
Andygirl A
angering at least one person a day since 1996
01:41 PM on 11/21/2012
I just had another thought about this. you are teaching your daughters that beauty is seperate from the male gaze. by telling them about your own beauty, they'll learn that it's how one feels about the self that is of the most value. and this is a hard, hard lesson to teach in our world. brava!
04:51 PM on 11/21/2012
Absolutely right! Well said!
Andygirl A
angering at least one person a day since 1996
02:57 PM on 11/26/2012
01:38 PM on 11/21/2012
Absolutely beautiful!
12:25 PM on 11/21/2012
It's a no-brainer that we should encourage and support the self-esteem and self-respect of our children, but we never really talk about how to keep moms confident, happy and feeling good about themselves. It seems like a silent expectation that mothers are wilted wallflowers who watch their children blossom -- and that's a very dangerous idea. To say that a person is "beautiful" is really saying she or he is "valued and important," and every person is! There should be NO shame in thinking that you are beautiful, and actually believing it, no matter what your face or body looks like.

A person who has negative self-talk focuses their energy on feeling bad, or on "fixing" their superficial flaws. Watch a person with a cultivated sense of confidence, and it's easy to see they are more productive, expressive, motivated, and content. Healthy moms are necessary for healthy families.
Brittany Binowski
Bringing sincerity back since 1988
12:18 PM on 11/21/2012
I actually really love this. My mom (in her late 50s) tells me she's ugly and old all the time, and it annoys me to no end!!!! First of all, she is NOT ugly. Second of all, she could totally do so much better with what she has if she just recognized that simple fact.

I offer to help with her clothes, make-up, hair etc. but she doesn't want my help because "she's not young anymore."

What a shame. She'd be drop dead gorgeous if she did!!
Andygirl A
angering at least one person a day since 1996
01:38 PM on 11/21/2012
I had this professor in college who I just idolized both for her brains and beauty. she was older and just so simply chic. she had this short, angled bob of dove grey hair, her makeup was minimal but perfect, and she wore tailored pants and a simple sweater every day. seceretly, I've always eagerly anticipated growing grey so that I can look like that. there's something so gorgeous about age.

I know, I'm weird. :)
11:48 AM on 11/21/2012
Beautiful words to match! Thank you!
11:29 AM on 11/21/2012
Thank you for this. I needed it. I tell my daughter she's beautiful all the time (and my boys they're handsome), because may parents never told me that I was beautiful and I want my kids to have higher self esteem than me. But I never thought to say something like that out loud about myself. And I agree that my kids emulate what I do. This is such great advice. Thank you!
11:19 AM on 11/21/2012
This is the most beautiful, naked, honest thing I think I've ever read. You are beautiful, Amanda, and damn it all to hell ... so am I.
11:18 AM on 11/21/2012
Interesting! I would like to see how this affects the girls' own body image as they grow.
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10:39 AM on 11/21/2012
One of the most achingly beautiful and true stories I've read in a long time. Amanda King is not only beautiful, she is a wordsmith of rare talent and a voice of startling clarity and I will read everything she writes from this day forward.
09:30 AM on 11/21/2012
This is an amazing post, so beautifully articulated. I learned something today - which I'll share with my daughter. Thanks so very much.
08:47 AM on 11/21/2012
so many young girls never hear that they have beauty, I had never thought to say it about myself to my girls. excellent thought :)
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04:20 AM on 11/21/2012
Awesome post.. I agree, I teach my 3 girls to look at other people as works of art. We are all beautiful in our own way.. We all have different things about us that attract different people..
ipsa scientia potestas est
03:53 AM on 11/21/2012
So often it's the confidence, understanding, appreciation for life, and passion that radiate from a woman that I find most beautiful.
Andygirl A
angering at least one person a day since 1996
01:42 PM on 11/21/2012
yes, agreed. and the same goes for men. :)