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Scott Hooten
04:04 PM on 04/19/2013
There is a quote from band of brothers that fits so well with love the direct quote "your going to die when you realize that is when you start living" well when you realize that marriage is going to end no matter what is when you should get married. One of you is going to die or get fed up with the other that's life, now go have fun with the time you have.
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Nightengale
11:38 PM on 04/19/2013
You know that is true. Never saw it put that way but it is in the vows!
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OldWhiteMale
Freedoms just another word 4 nothing left to lose
02:16 AM on 04/20/2013
The part where it says, "if until death do you part is to long to wait call Duey, Cheatem & Howe?" That part?
12:16 PM on 04/19/2013
Expect very few comments, because you are right.
11:01 PM on 04/20/2013
I'm glad to be wrong.
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Vicki Larson
Journalist, mom, always questioning
09:25 AM on 04/19/2013
With all due respect, Mr. Wilcox, now that people are living into their 80s and 90s, marrying when our parents did — in their early 20s if not sooner — may not be the wisest choice, especially for women. As you point out, women lose a lot financially if they marry earlier than later. Not every women wants kids, so the biological clock issue is mostly moot, too, especially since technology has enable women in their 40s to get pregnant (I'm not saying that's good; it's just a reality).

I have ready your "Knot Yet" report, and I can't help feeling you are not acknowledging the bigger picture — college educated people are, for the most part, still marrying; lower- and middle-class people are not marrying as much. When there are few jobs with decent pay to support yourself, let alone a partner and maybe a family, marriage seems a lot less attractive.

Marriage isn't right for everyone; thank goodness we have many more ways to live today than in years past. Instead of promoting marriage, please help create policies that support people who are caregivers, whether for children or aging parents. If we care about our most fragile population — the young and the old — let's help those people who are caring for them.
01:57 AM on 04/20/2013
There are reasonable considerations on both sides. I'm not sure I catch the longevity point: how does increased lifespan argue for delayed marriage? And as the Long Recession drags on, where is this financial security of which you speak? The statistic about the differing rates of marriage amongst various socio-economic classes is true, but this also isn't 1902. Younger and wed doesn't mean 10 pregnancies anymore, so how does young, poor, and single live better or more economically than young, poor, and partnered? Yes, for many delay can be the right choice, but I'm concerned that young people might be seduced by the mirage of having it all, which sometimes includes the fiction of parenting options that are a lot less palatable than a 23-year-old wants to believe. Fertility treatments can be the price of a college education for the kid they produce, and super star egg suppliers are starting to sound creepily like eugenics. I don't think the point should be that marriage is a must at 24. I think it should be that delay is not a must, which is a belief many have held for awhile.
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OldWhiteMale
Freedoms just another word 4 nothing left to lose
02:13 AM on 04/20/2013
Absodamnlutely! Let me add that a human in our society doesn't begin to possess the experience to make such a decision wisely without a good forty years of living.

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